It is understandable that parents hope that their children will start a family as soon as possible, after all, it is related to the happiness of their children, the quality of life in their later years, and even the continuation of family incense.
However, there is no need to rush marriage too much, this practice will make the children anxious, so that they do not take their mate selection seriously, choose to settle, cope with things, or hire someone as a partner, lying about the relationship.
In one example, a woman took her boyfriend home to meet her parents, and the boyfriend turned around to leave when he saw that her family was not in a good situation. She remembered her parents urging marriage, so she tried to keep her boyfriend, let him temporarily act as her boyfriend, and then pay for it.
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Although this woman has some pose, her family's economic conditions are not good, and she is unwilling to marry, hoping that the man can live in her home after marriage and take care of her parents' later life with her, so she has never found a suitable partner.
Her parents saw that the people she had grown up with were married and had children, and she didn't even have a boyfriend, and they felt anxious for her. In order to improve her chances of finding a suitable marriage partner, her parents tried to let her go out to work alone.
At that time, her parents said to her: Don't stay in the village, go to the society to experience, we people in ten miles and villages know the conditions of our family, do not want to marry you and have children, you go out to work, maybe you can find someone who is willing to marry you.
She thinks that it doesn't matter if she gets married or not, she has the ability to earn money to support her parents, so in the face of her parents' suggestions, she retorted: I still have the ability to give you the pension if I don't get married, you can rest assured, don't urge marriage.
Her parents didn't agree with her, so they packed her up and threw her out of the house, and when she left the house, her father specifically told her: If you can't find a suitable marriage partner outside, you don't have to go home.
Listening to her father's words, she carried her luggage, left her hometown in tears, and went to work alone in a factory in the big city. In the factory, a 42-year-old man pursued her, and although he was 14 years older than her, he was gentle and considerate to her.
And she considered her parents' urging to get married, so she didn't think too much about it, and agreed to get along with the man as a boyfriend and girlfriend. During this period, she told her boyfriend about the financial conditions of her family, and also talked about the need to live in her home and take care of her parents after marriage.
My boyfriend said at the time that as long as the two people really love each other, they won't care about this. At that moment, she felt that she had met true love and felt happy. However, when it was time to talk about marriage, her boyfriend's sudden change made her feel very helpless.
Before getting married, she bought gifts and then took her boyfriend back to her hometown to meet her parents. At first, her boyfriend was still very sensible, worried that she would be tired of carrying heavy objects, so he took the initiative to carry a suitcase and a carton of milk, but when he came to her door, his boyfriend retreated.
My boyfriend saw that her family was still living in a tin house, and felt that her family was not in a good situation, and there was no way to live in her home after marriage, so he said to her: I didn't expect your family to be poor to this extent, I don't want to live in your family after marriage, let's break up.
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She explained to her boyfriend: Before we were together, I had explained my family's economic conditions to you, and at that time you swore to tell me frankly that no matter how bad the economic conditions were, you were willing to be with me.
The man did not reply, he put down the suitcase and milk he was carrying, turned around and wanted to leave. She can also understand her boyfriend, but considering her parents' urging marriage, her father once told her not to go home if she couldn't find a marriage partner, so she tried to keep her boyfriend.
She turned to the man and said that she hoped that he could stay for the sake of being together, temporarily act as her boyfriend, let her parents see that she had a boyfriend, and then stop worrying about her marriage, but the man was unwilling to stay.
In order to let the man stay, she tightly grasped the man's calf, and then said to him: You stay as my boyfriend, I can pay you wages, anyway, you are also a part-time worker, why can't you live with money?
Even though she was willing to pay, the man insisted on leaving. In desperation, she had to let go of her hand, and then watched the man leave.
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Author's opinion: The man mentioned in the article, before being with the woman, already knew that her family was not in good economic conditions and was willing to be together at that time, but he came to her door and repented, which fully shows that he is a person who does not speak of credibility.
As the saying goes, sometimes life is necessary, and life is always demanding. Feelings need to be willing, two-way love will have happiness, so even if men bend to continue to be with women, it is difficult for them to have happiness after marriage.
And this man is not trustworthy, which fully shows that there is a problem with his character, so the two get together and scatter, I believe it is the best ending. There is no need for a woman to ask him to stay temporarily because of her parents' urging marriage, or even to pay him for work.
Let him stay and temporarily act as his boyfriend, and one day he will show his stuffing, after all, paper can't contain the fire after all, and the truth will always come out one day. At that time, not only will they waste their own money, but it will make parents more worried and even sad.