There are some well-liked "fragrant food" in the circle of young people, in fact, there are also such people in the elderly group, relatives and friends are full of praise, so what are the outstanding features of this kind of "heartthrob" old people? I summarized everyone's feedback, in fact, it is focused on the following 5 advantages, if you can do more than 3, you may be much happier in your old age:
First, speak with a sense of proportion
"Good words are warm in three winters, bad words hurt people in June cold", no matter how close to people, you have to consider whether it will hurt each other when you speak, jokes moderately, a warm word, may not be much of a loss to yourself, but may make the other party feel very comfortable, so that everyone will get along more harmoniously. Before people become friends, in fact, they are strangers, self-familiarity should be moderate, for unfamiliar people, do not take out your heart and lungs, the other party may not be willing to listen to you, or have not known for a long time, take the initiative to ask some other people's private affairs, which is very annoying. Even if you are particularly familiar, it depends on what it is, the so-called "family has a difficult scripture", or "family ugliness is not public", no matter how good friends, other people's family is particularly private things, may not be willing to tell you, found in the chat that others did not say the meaning, smart people will bypass not to embarrass and embarrass each other.
Second, economic self-sufficiency
Although it is said that people have roses, there is a lingering fragrance in the hand, but in real life, everyone hopes to be helped, rather than always asked to help others solve family and economic difficulties, especially about money, rich people or minority groups, most of them are ordinary workers, everyone's hard-earned hard-earned money, many people are unwilling to be loaned, plus there are countless stories and news about borrowing money throughout the ages, many people especially hate being loaned, that is, they are afraid that the loan will not be repaid. For some elderly people who can afford their living expenses, not only relatives and friends feel relaxed with you, but also children can breathe a sigh of relief and reduce their maintenance pressure.
Third, love of learning has connotations
Youdao is an old man with a poetry and a lot of knowledge reserves, and his speech and behavior are eye-catching, and communicating with such an old man can absorb a lot of knowledge and increase learning motivation. For themselves, even if they are old, they can shine, and now the development of self-media is getting better and better, and you can see from some short videos and self-media platforms that many elderly people practice words, read, improve their academic qualifications, write articles, etc. after retirement, and live their lives at a higher level.
Fourth, know how to dress
People rely on clothing, Buddha relies on gold, although it is said that people can not look, but from the temperament exuded from the dress, is a very important first impression, everyone likes to consider close to clean and tidy, tasteful people, even if they are old, will not look down, think that it is just an old man everywhere, old lady. No matter who you meet, your care in clothes and makeup will make the person who receives you feel respect and give you the same response, which is especially important when looking for a job and meeting your in-laws after retirement.
Fifth, do not interfere excessively in the marriage of your children
October pregnancy and birth, more than ten years of daily upbringing, children are parents to pay hard to cultivate, but even so, children are still independent individuals, they become adults, with the object of their heart, want to get married, form their own small family, as parents, from an objective point of view to give a little reasonable advice can be, but then how to actually live, that is between people and husband and wife, give children more space for independent living, let go and let them independently explore how to manage marriage, and relationships with their children. And the elderly themselves should go to study, exercise, or cultivate hobbies to live their own lives, which is the best way to make your life wonderful and your children happy.
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