"It's not easy for mom and dad to make money, you have to save some flowers"
"Why do you spend money indiscriminately, don't you know that your parents work hard to make money"
"If it weren't for your schooling, our days wouldn't be tight."
"You take a bunch of money as soon as you go to school, and the family has no money again"
"If you are not at home, we will eat casually, eat pickles or something, and you will be willing to buy some meat as soon as you come back"
I don't know if these words are familiar to everyone, these are the words that my parents often talk to me, and I feel that my birth seems to be a burden to them.
When I used to go to school, I saw that my classmates had a smartphone, and I told my parents that I wanted it too, but my parents would say, you don't need it now, and besides, there is no money at home. The kind of feeling that everyone else has, as far as you don't, who can experience it. I always felt that I would be half shorter than my classmates, and at that time, I thought that I would make a good profit in the future and buy everything I wanted.
After growing up and working, the first thing to consider when buying things is the price, a slightly decorated luxury store, dare not enter, the thought is that the clothes inside are very expensive, I can't afford it, I dare not shop, let alone try. I will pay attention to other people's clothes and bags, and when I see what I am wearing, I will think that she is really rich and confident, and I always think that if I have money, I will do the same. I don't feel anything at home, as long as I go out, I feel inferior, and I feel that I can't do this, and that's not okay. It didn't seem like I wanted to be, and I fell into deep self-blame.
After learning about it on the Internet, I found that everyone had the same problems as me
Often crying to the child is poor, will give the child a strong mental hint, I am poor, I can't compare with others, lack of parental financial support since childhood, lack of recognition and praise from parents, so that we will be very careful no matter what we do, for fear that making people see jokes outside will affect our ability to judge independently.
Parents think that exaggerating the hard work of life and making money is not easy, which can stimulate our virtues of self-motivation and thrift, and its result is the opposite.
As long as the seeds of poverty enter our hearts, it will make us very sensitive to money, and we can't help but measure a gap between ourselves and others, be troubled by money, become inferior and depressed, like chronic poison, constantly affect our lives.
We also know that our current situation is not good, but it is really difficult to change our thinking.