introduction
The bride price, also known as the "dowry" or "bride price", has existed since ancient times.
A etiquette expert said that it is not so much a "bride price" as a "thank you money", because the woman's parents have paid a lot for raising the woman since childhood, so the man should thank the woman's parents, and the only way to thank them is to take out some money and let the woman's parents talk for comfort.
However, the "bride price" is enough, the man cannot take more, and the woman cannot ask for more. After all, a son-in-law has half a son, and the son-in-law and son are similar, and the woman's parents can't take the opportunity to "blackmail" their "half", right?
However, the current high price of the bride price is criticized. According to netizens, in some areas, the bride price has reached hundreds of thousands of yuan, making many men's families feel overwhelmed, based on this, the relevant departments have clearly proposed that we must vigorously curb outdated customs such as high-priced bride price and comparison of favors, effectively reduce the burden of bride price expenditure on the people in wedding activities, and create a good social environment for the reform of wedding and funeral customs.
So, how much bride price is appropriate for the man to give the woman?
A senior netizen said that there is no uniform standard for how much bride price the man gives to the woman, and the economic situation is different in different regions, and in some areas with better economic conditions, the man can give the woman 780,000, but in some areas with poor economic conditions, the man gives the woman 10,000 or 20,000 is a lot.
The senior netizen went on to say that of course, if there is no region, comprehensive measurement, the man's bride price of 560,000 yuan to the woman is also normal, after all, a man who goes out to work for a year or two can also earn 560,000 yuan, and the woman's parents raised a woman from an early age, at least it will cost more than 100,000 yuan, the man's 560,000 yuan bride price is indeed not much compared with the woman's parents, so if the woman's family asks the man's family for a bride price of 560,000 yuan, the man's family should not be too careful. Be generous.
However, on January 16, 2023, such a thing actually happened somewhere in Shaanxi------
event
January 16 is the wedding day of the man Wu, according to reason, in this day, the man Wu should be very happy, because marriage is a major event in life, under normal circumstances, people's lives are this time, so Wu should be happy for the completion of life events. But who knows, the man Wu not only did not have the slightest joy, but also, at every turn, he made his temperament and complained, and when the emcee issued an order to let Wu marry his new wife Feng, Wu refused to get close to his new wife Feng, and the scene was very embarrassing.
But anyway, with the mediation of the emcee, the wedding is over. But after the wedding, Wu sat alone and sighed, and some guests did not understand Wu's performance. Among the guests who did not understand Wu's actions, there was guest Xie.
Xie said: "I have attended many weddings, but I have never met this kind of wedding. I felt that Wu's performance was very bad, but I didn't know what the reason was, so, driven by curiosity, I started a conversation with Wu. After talking, I learned that Wu's poor performance was mainly because he disliked the bride price, and when I asked him how much he spent, he claimed to have spent 60,000 yuan. Wu's answer really surprised me, in our place, spending 60,000 yuan on a bride price to marry a wife should be enough, how can Wu be too much? But when I continued to ask, I knew where Wu was entangled. ”
It turned out that Wu's new wife Feng suffered from Down syndrome, her mental retardation, growth retardation, and many difficulties in life. The genetic probability of this disease is very high and it is impossible to have children. If a patient with this disorder is given birth, it is very likely that his or her children will also develop Down syndrome. Based on this, before Wu did not hold a wedding with Feng, Wu asked Feng's parents to sterilize Feng.
Wu feels that getting married and having children is justified. But although she wants to marry his wife Feng, she can't have children, moreover, because she has low intelligence, in the life after marriage, she has to take care of herself, so she always feels very wronged. Therefore, he once wrote a novel to him: "She (referring to his wife Feng) is different from others, giving more than 5,000 bride price, but her parents asked for 60,000 yuan bride price, I really suffer a loss." ”
According to Wu, for this family matter, at first, he was unwilling, but his parents had to let him marry Feng, and in desperation, he had to hold a wedding with Feng. His marriage was a helpless move.
The above is a general process of this incident.
When many netizens learned of this incident, netizens started a heated discussion.
Netizen voice
Netizens bloomed silently: The matter has come to this, Wu don't feel that he has suffered a loss. Although Feng has intellectual problems, marrying her can be regarded as having a companion, which is better than being lonely. As for the bride price, Wu don't feel that he is losing, although Feng is different from ordinary people, but people's parents also worked hard to raise Feng, and they don't lose money to give tens of thousands of yuan of bride price.
Netizen fat owner: No matter what Feng's physical condition is, it is good, people are also children raised by their parents, where did Wu lose with the bride price of 60,000 yuan? Be content! It's better than playing singles yourself.
In short, there are many discussions among netizens.
Lao Hu point of view
Lao Hu has not read the Marriage Law and does not know whether people with Down syndrome can get married. However, the matter has come to this, after Feng and Wu held a wedding, according to folk customs, Feng is already Wu's wife. In the future, Wu will have the obligation to take care of his wife, and he will have the responsibility to make Feng happy.
As for the bride price, Wu does not need to worry about it, after all, the person Feng is also raised by his parents hard, and the bride price of 60,000 he gives is not excessive, I hope Wu will not be entangled because of the bride price, after marriage, Wu can earn the bride price back after one or two more years, why should he be entangled?
Everybody says, isn't it?