What do you do when you are stuck in an emotional well and can't extricate yourself?
In the past, I would choose to take a piece of paper and a pen, and then let my thoughts wander, put all the thoughts in my brain into the pen, think of where to write, without thinking about whether the words are good or not, without thinking about literature, without thinking about grammar, that is, to write a pain.
When the pen stops, you will find that either anger, or suppressed emotions, seem to have disappeared for the most part.
So, I took this as my own way of venting. It was not until I saw Zhou Liyuan's "Self-healing Power of Writing" that I found that this behavior has a theoretical basis, and can embark on a road of self-healing on the basis of emotional catharsis.
Author Zhou Liyuan combines writing with psychology, and elaborates on the four milestones of writing therapy in the book: activating feelings and finding core emotions; Face the pain and start the journey of healing; Initiate a dialogue and develop healing powers; Reinvent yourself and achieve psychological transformation.
A very simple book, which involves some psychological knowledge, but it is simple and easy to understand, and the difficult thing is that you need to follow the instructions in the book and complete one exercise after another. However, I still recommend that everyone get one for the following reasons:
1 The most cost-effective way to heal yourself
In the past three years, the background has left many people emotionally depressed, or anxious, or depressed. Life, work, relationships, all kinds of problems superimposed, everyone will be in a bad mood, can not find someone to tell. There was once a joke that said that middle-aged couples, if they can still talk to each other, it is already quite perfect.
In such a situation, mental health is receiving more and more public attention. At the same time, weak psychological support institutions, high fees, and popular acceptance of psychology are all holding back. Then we can only save ourselves. When self-help cannot be cured, turn to professional psychological institutions for help.
Therefore, with such a book by our side, we can follow the guidance of the author Zhou Liyuan in the book, start with text doodling, activate ourselves step by step, find our core emotions, and then begin to heal.
2 The simplest and easiest means of self-healing
There are many ways to talk about self-healing. Offline, online, group, individual, but they have one thing in common, for the public, it is often necessary to sign up for classes or buy courses to learn, and often not at one time.
For writing healing, you can choose to record words with a computer, or simply a pen or a piece of paper can complete the entire healing process.
Adulthood, adolescence, childhood, what events make you remember deeply, get emotional when you think about it, write it down over and over with a pen, let the emotions be storytized and visualized, lift the veil of defense, lift off the inhibitory emotions, turn out the core emotions (anger, sadness, excitement, happiness, disgust, fear) and face it.
This process often takes many times to complete, but fortunately, in addition to ourselves, at most a few more pieces of paper and a few more pens.
3 A journey of self-healing with a solid theoretical foundation
In "The Self-healing Power of Writing", author Zhou Liyuan integrates various methods such as free writing, psychoanalysis, positive psychology, emotional focusing, narrative, etc., combined with her years of psychological counseling practice, and fully integrates theory into the entire healing process.
How to heal childhood wounds? How to repair the relationship with the parents of the family of origin? How to crack intergenerational inheritance? Our writing, guided by the author's theory, completely goes beyond simple emotional catharsis, but constantly touches the small knots in the heart in the writing again and again, until it is solved, or at least no longer affects our current life.
What if you still can't write? The book is also accompanied by intimate sample texts, like a friend whispering his story around him, and while we are immersed in it, we gradually remember our own stories...
Write at the end
"The Self-healing Power of Writing", I position it as a psychological self-help book. If you're interested in psychology or self-healing, don't miss it. At the same time, it should be reminded that the author has also emphasized many times in the book that if you lose emotional control in the process of writing self-healing, or have experienced major trauma, and cannot carry out self-healing, please seek help from professional institutions.
Finally, I hope each of us can grow into a better version of ourselves in 2023!