"There is a unique skill that is both magical and beautiful, a face that is lively, hot and spicy with a tremor, that is, the Sichuan opera on the stage - the face change in Sichuan opera..."
In the tight sound of gongs and drums, Eun, who had just turned 4, held an open bright yellow paper fan in his right hand, the fan tightly covered his cheeks, pinched the hem of the red cape in his left hand, leaned over, stepped on the floor urgently, rushed out of the bedroom with care, ran down the aisle to the living room, his head in a hard hat swung and swung to the rhythm of the music, and then lifted his left foot to make a "white crane bright wing". Wait for the adults sitting on the sofa in the living room to applaud and shout in unison: "Good! "Good!" His small body ran back and forth in the living room.
This is another performance show after "raising the national flag", grandson Eun.
Maybe children have a desire to perform, or Eun Eun has a natural love for agitated singing, and we are also particularly tolerant of him, Eun is the "performance freak" in the family. When the national anthem is heard, the national flag is raised; When I hear Sichuan Opera, I have to change my face. The least thing that can be done to these games is that there must be adults as audiences for him.
Sometimes, when I sit in front of my computer and busy, I "ask him for leave", but I don't get "approved" much. When I was about to get angry, Eun began to "lecture" me "in a righteous and strict manner": "Grandpa, you have been working for so long, don't you pay attention to rest?" Are you comfortable when your eyes are broken? Looking at his little adult appearance, I couldn't bear to see him disappointed, so I had to "swallow my anger" and sit in the "audience" in the living room.
We always try to help Eun realize the ideas he wants to achieve. I wanted to raise the national flag, but I didn't have it at home, and the mall downstairs didn't sell it, so Eun pointed to the map I hung on the wall and said, "Grandpa, isn't that?" "I thought about it, cut out the red flag logo on the map, and made a flagpole out of a small bamboo pole. He danced with joy: "I'm so happy! "I'm overjoyed!" Eun used such words as a mantra.
A 4-year-old child, naïve, carefree, growing physically and mentally, and his understanding of the world has just begun, why should an adult interfere when he wants to be happy?
It's funny to say, I used to agree with "don't let your child lose at the starting line", and long ago reminded my daughter and son-in-law to "pay attention to Eun's education problems", which means to teach him to read and read as soon as possible. It's not that I want Eun to become a "child prodigy", but he will definitely be able to support himself when he grows up in the future.
This is also my wish for my daughter.
Eun, like other dolls, has a soft spot for shows such as "Color Fun Garden" and is not tired of watching it for a long time. I was afraid of affecting his eyesight and stopped it many times. Later, when I found out that he knew all kinds of colors and could speak some of the fruits in English, I no longer firmly opposed him watching TV, but only slightly constrained in time.
No matter how small dolls are, they all have their own temperament personalities. For example, Eun learned to swing in the community playground, and he couldn't put it down all of a sudden. This is "love can't let go", purely "love does not let go", not only does not even eat at home, even if you pee, you have to hold it, pull the swing and don't let go. As long as he goes to swing, it is basically impossible for other children to wait for him to come down. I am a little worried about his personality, but no amount of education can help. Until he grew up again, he could take the initiative to change with other children without our persuasion.
In order to allow Eun to concentrate on one thing well, a lot of puzzles were prepared at home. It became his favorite. It's just that the little one wants adults to play with him. I didn't have good hands-on ability and no patience, so I had to be a student for Eun. Seeing the "grandson teacher" who is half a century younger than myself, "teaching" one by one, and acting as a "teacher" in a similar way, I feel a lot of emotion in my heart.
When I was a child, how could I have enjoyed such a tolerant love? The father, who was overwhelmed by life, not to mention playing with our brother, even a warm hug was rare. When I realized that the lack of love and warmth in my childhood was likely to increase my character flaws, I made up my mind to make up for my children. When I became a father myself, life was just as hard. Although I may have treated my daughter better than my father, looking back, I still have a lot to lose. So, I gave the love I once wanted to give my daughter to her son.
Man is an emotional animal, and any love responds. Eun saw that I stayed in the study every day, basically did not do housework, just stood at the door of the study, facing me who was playing the computer, and began to fight for his mother-in-law: "You don't do anything after eating all day, and you don't play with me, you see I'm going to educate you..." I heard him muttering in a low voice, feeling funny, wanting him to continue to "perform", pretending not to hear. When he repeated it again, I deliberately lowered my voice and responded to him: "It's not 'education', it's 'lessons'." ”
Eun had long been ready to escape, and when he saw that I was not moving, his outstretched leg was retracted. When he heard me talking, he was stunned, and he listened to me repeat it again, and then he became "You see I'm coming to teach you a lesson." In this way, Eun learned a lot of words, and even inflection words such as "but" and "however" can be used smoothly in one sentence.
In the past, I used to live every day as the last day of my life, and I thought that the only way to succeed in life was to constantly increase the pressure on myself. Pressure is motivation. When Eun came into my life, I learned that happiness is also a kind of productivity, and it is also an indispensable factor for a happy life. I shortened the time spent reading and writing, and took the initiative to help my wife do housework and play with Eun. If there is only ascetic concentration in life, it is a kind of "self-discipline" that is not worth the loss.
Eun has to hold a white pajamas he wore as a child to sleep peacefully. Once he came to us and forgot to bring his "white pajamas", this kid refused to sleep. Whoever persuades him, he will not do it. Seeing him crying and moving, I rubbed his head with my head, and he suddenly quieted down. It turned out that he had just watched "Animal World" and knew from the frolic of animals on TV that it was also a way to express love. I took the opportunity to explain to him that "everything cannot go well, and you must know and respect people to be a person", and he naturally seemed to understand whether to understand or not. I think that in the future of life, Eun will understand the true meaning of the words love, awe, and warmth.
Imagination and warmth are a kind of love. I grew up with Eun, and Eun made me grow again. On these unforgettable days, I reflect on my life and reflect on my mistakes. Life gives suffering, not to spread suffering. Life is short, why can't we create more beauty and see everything as simple?
Growth is to let go of all the baggage that restricts life and travel light; The joy of growing up is actually the happiest.
About author:Feng Junlong, male, Han nationality, born in the 1970s, member of Sichuan Provincial Writers Association, member of China Prose Literature Society, member of China Reportage Society. His works have been reprinted many times by Xinhua Digest, Writer's Digest, Chinese and Foreign Digest, Selected Biographical Literature and ▪ other publications. Xinhuanet, People's Net, China Military Net, China Writers Net, etc. have repeatedly forwarded his works and comments.