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"Unborn" is a Golden Earth series broadcast by TvN korea since October 17, 2014, and is a special project for the 8th anniversary of Taiwan.
Adapted from the webcomic of the same name created by Yin Tae-ho, which is known as a "working-class textbook", "Unborn", it depicts the face of people in the workplace from the perspective of a newcomer in the workplace.
Since its inception, the ratings have climbed all the way, and it has set the second place in the local TV ratings record of South Korean cable TELEVISION stations, second only to the Fengshen drama "Please Answer 1988", which set off the so-called "unborn trend" at that time. On Douban, the score is as high as 9.3, which is widely loved by Chinese audiences.
"Unborn" tells the story of Zhang Gelai (Lin Shixian), who was completely engaged in Go when he was young, after losing the election, with a high school education and zero social experience, holding a resume as pale and thin as a blank piece of paper, parachuting into the top five large general trading companies in South Korea for internship, and the lone struggle to become a regular employee. Thinking that it is living is actually just fighting to "survive" in the adult world.
The story is very simple, there is no love element that must be in the domestic drama, there is no dog blood tearing, all dressed for a unified professional outfit, there are few tricks, that small cubicle room, there is abandonment, there is blood, there are tears, there is also joy, just simply tells a social newcomer into the workplace story, seemingly simple plot, but contains the first time we will almost all face many problems, so vivid and real.
The tone is mainly dark blue, the rhythm is very slow, not cruel and not sadistic, the bland narrative, the delicate portrayal of the plot similar to our daily life, from time to time poke the audience's heart socket, moved to tears.
The main line of the character is also very clear, 26-year-old social white Zhang Gelai, together with the female elite An Yingyi in the workplace, the social shrewd Han Xilu, and the high-achieving student Zhang Baiqi entered the top five large comprehensive trading companies in South Korea for internship at the same time, although they successfully passed the examination, they continued to face various new tests in the workplace, constantly breaking problems and constantly transforming.
Here, although Zhang Gelai is a pure white who can't even copy after graduating from high school, he can always meet noble people in the face of various moments, Andying Andi and Han Xilu can also cope with the plan in the face of "challenges" and adjust themselves in time, compared to them, Zhang Baiqi, who thinks he has great ability and has worked hard, but the result is not satisfactory, is more like us.
In today's article, we mainly analyze from Zhang Baiqi the three stages of growth as a young person who has just entered the workplace and has a responsibility, and the practical significance it brings.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" >02 Three stages of White Flag's growth</h1>
When I first entered the workplace, I was handy and full of energy
Being able to intern at one of The top five general trading companies in South Korea means that the natural ability to enter them is not bad.
Zhang Baiqi graduated from college, in the same period of interns is the best, good popularity, the same period of time also like him, will often be in the pantry together to chat about the superior, talk about the future expectations, will also eat together to commute in groups, just like the normal workplace is no difference, compared to Zhang Gelai, because he is an airborne soldier, introverted restraint, the same period everywhere to make him trip, talk with thorns, the elevator has time not to let in, together with a drink and dinner, leaving Zhang Gelai to work alone;
He also has high emotional intelligence, eye power is explosive, good at observing words and colors, when the leader will take the initiative to undertake the work, and complete it very well, and do the work in the eyes of the leader.
Hearing that several leaders were going to go out to eat at noon, he called early to make a reservation, which impressed the seniors.
Because of the flexible use of social interpersonal communication, Zhang Baiqi is comfortable in the same period and before the leadership, and has a full sense of security and self-confidence in this new place, which can be described as a bright future.
When facing the paratrooper and high school education, Zhang Gelai had an undisguised pride, although he did not realize it himself, but it was reflected in a small detail, "What can I not understand, what photocopier..." "Are you too nervous, you can take off your suit jacket." ”
At this stage, the white flag is like a shining star hanging on a high place, with self-confidence, unlimited expectations and ambitions for the future, and looking forward to emitting more light.
Go further, take two steps back, doubt yourself
After careful preparation and solid professional skills, Zhang Baiqi was unsurprisingly successful, and when he received his work permit, Zhang Baiqi was full of momentum, ready to show his fists in the workplace, highlight his personal value, and make a career.
However, after passing the regularization assessment, he wanted to enter the company's most glamorous marketing department, and was assigned to the steel department, a department that was not outstanding and felt that there was no development, and then in the following days, there was a sense of imbalance in psychology.
Because before in the internship period, it was popular with everyone, and now it is ignored by the snub, except for the fact that when I first arrived at the new department, I submitted a career plan to the superior Jiang Agent, and the Busy Jiang Agent never talked to each other again, the superior did not do the work, every time there was nothing to do, and even the working hours were idle to read.
I couldn't stand it, I looked for a job with the leader, but what I got was a job of making forms, but when I was done, I was pointed out a lot of loopholes, and I said quite seriously: "What is this format?" Which working procedure are you? If you want to work somewhere else, you can go out now. ”
In the days that followed, the work was basically these Dirty Jobs: sorting out Excel tables, sending emails, checking for typos, etc.
Slowly, Zhang Baiqi couldn't help but find his superiors and say:
"I'm here to make a career, not to reconcile accounts, draw tables, or revise corporate directories!"
The superior's answer was:
"Our team members, more than those who are good at gorgeous eloquence and packaging, need people who can silently develop their careers to a farther distance, the kind of people with basic skills."
Zhang Baiqi, who regarded himself as high, was indignant and felt that his boss was unwilling to deliver any work to him because he was afraid that he would steal the credit of his boss, while Zhang Clay, who was despised by him, was repeatedly entrusted with heavy responsibilities, and after thinking about it, he contacted the headhunting company to want to jump ship.
The Amazing Me: The Psychology of Self-Development says:
When we are disconnected from our original relationship, our original identity, our original goal, we also temporarily lose the soil for a sense of meaning. The old life has passed, and the new life has not yet arrived. You are left in a vacuum of a very special sense of meaning, not knowing where you are and where you are going.
Zhang Baiqi at this stage only wants to make a big cause in his heart, but there is no foundation and details in his eyes, so ambitious, before turning right, he was in the left and right of the Ministry of Resources and the Ministry of Steel, which made him enter a period of confusion, because he could not see the change in the status quo for a while, he wanted to break the situation, jump away, and regain the home field.
Think about it carefully, there are many people around us, and even we ourselves have such problems, eager to show ourselves, for a while did not get the opportunity, think that it is a problem of others, is the environment, thinking of changing places will be absolutely different, as the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning, as a newcomer where to go is to start from the foundation, are the most difficult time at the beginning.
Let go of yourself, go through the transformation, find the rhythm
Because Agent Jiang was not there, Zhang Baiqi faced the urgent business alone, looked through the data, checked it against each other, but was finally approved back, for the simple reason that it was stuck in the "basic" issues that Agent Jiang had seriously mentioned before.
Zhang Baiqi, who was at war with heaven and man, made a call for help to Jiang Agent, with mixed feelings, one was to realize his own shortcomings, before the eye was high and low to ignore the most basic content, the second was that the feelings of Jiang Agent were very complicated, he felt that he did not like himself, but he was eager to get his approval, emotions were mixed together, Zhang Baiqi was very congested.
Zhang Baiqi is a person who relies on anyone who depends on others, and needs timely positive feedback from the outside world, such a personality is an extremely sensitive person, because he needs to find his own reason for existence from the outside world, and the continuous pursuit of excellence is also to prove his own value, there are pros and cons, such a person will be very good, but the degree of grasp is not good, he will be disappointed, hateful, doubtful, and eventually fall into the strange circle of self-denial and self-condemnation.
Psychologist and philosopher William James said that the strongest human disposition is the desire to be recognized. Carnegie also once said that for being recognized by others, feeling that he is important is the main characteristic of human beings that are different from animals.
He had ideas about work and superiors before, when he heard Jiang Agent's "see you tomorrow" at the end of the call, he looked at the agent's seat for a while, smiled for the first time, and the state of the whole person immediately changed, because Zhang Baiqi read expectations and recognition in Jiang Agent's "See You Tomorrow", which greatly satisfied the needs of inner emotions and self-identity.
By the end, Zhang Baiqi was able to carry out the project by himself, and he was really affirmed by the implicit steel group leaders, and the whole person was radiant, confident, and more down-to-earth.
At this stage, Zhang Baiqi has changed from only seeing the distance and not seeing the present, to seeking advice with an open mind, being cautious and careful, with a distinct personality and a strong real environment, constantly running into and colliding, and finally finding the right posture and reaching a reconciliation.
From the perspective of these three stages, although Zhang Baiqi's early internship period in the Resources Department is more than enough, it seems that the opportunities are unlimited, but in fact, they are all virtual shelves, if they turned into the Resources Department at that time, it is mostly to follow the leaders all day long, with a shaky face and the opportunity to fight for a big career, it is inevitable that he will become another Park Section Chief, lost himself in the intricate workplace life, although he went to the Steel Department, in the face of the business without bright spots, stereotyped and in principle, there is a real number of torments in principle. But Jiang Agent, who has few words, is teaching him in his own way, in addition to personal ability and professional skills, there are also many growth and changes in other aspects, laying a solid foundation for a better future.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03 The gap between ideal and reality needs to be crossed by everyone</h1>
Zhang Baiqi, who graduated from a famous school, with self-confidence and even conceit, his whole body was full of pursuits for his career, he was snubbed by the leaders, and he saw that Zhang Gelai, whose qualifications and academic qualifications were not as good as his own, was quite valued, which was something he did not expect, and it was also something that his self-esteem could not accept.
At this time, we will inevitably have such a question: from the success of the internship to the embarrassment after the regularization, which link has the problem?
It goes back to the contradiction between "I feel good, I feel good" and "I feel like I can't do it" and "I'm thought I can't do it".
Why?
Agent Jiang once said such a sentence: Our team members, than those who are good at gorgeous eloquence and packaging, need more people who can silently develop their careers to a farther distance, the kind of people with basic skills.
The subtext is that you're good at flashy eloquence and packaging, you don't have basic skills, in short, you're unreliable.
The reason is actually very simple, at that time for the steel department did not know anything about Zhang Baiqi, on the first day of entering the department submitted a career plan, the first basic work was also completed according to his own understanding, hasty and loopholes, exposing his impetuousness and complacency.
Lao She, a famous novelist and playwright in our country, once said: "Pride and complacency are our terrible traps, and this trap is dug by ourselves." ”
Zhang Baiqi's understanding of life and the workplace is too simple and idealistic, thinking that as long as there is talent, as long as he works hard, he will be able to do a great cause, but who is not working hard, there are not so many reversals and highlight moments, always step by step, especially as a young player who has just stepped into the adult world, don't be in a hurry.
If Zhang Baiqi's internship period is the "star period", then this period can be called the "mushroom period".
In a way, the "mushroom experience" is a good thing, is a kind of polishing, tempering people's will and endurance, so that fledgling young people to be "mushrooms" for a period of time, can eliminate their unrealistic fantasies, so that they are closer to reality, more practical, more rational thinking and handling of problems, and how to spend this period more efficiently, rapid growth, is a necessary subject for every young person.
If you can quickly find your own problems like Zhang Baiqi, change and grow in time, the sense of value and achievement you want will come faster, but it is inevitable that some people will not withstand the test of life in the early stage, lose their fighting spirit, and flee into the wilderness, after all, not everything will be as smooth and simple as we think, life is uncertain, what the future is, it all depends on how you challenge and cross in what posture you take.
As Ma Dong once said in "Strange Story": There is a gap between ideals and reality, and not being able to cross the past is called setbacks, and crossing the past is called growth.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >04 Overcoming external temptations and inner contradictions is the first step to growth</h1>
Some people say that the temptation you can feel from the outside often comes from the inner float, because you will shake your mind before you will find your place in real life.
Zhang Baiqi did not find his position in the company and did not have a sense of belonging, but because he was very hard at the company and was not willing, in the sense of work value and dignity groping, the inner balance was constantly tilted, so he has been hesitant to meet the headhunter, when the appointment interview is also simply answered will be on time to the appointment, but when Jiang Agent is not responsible for his responsibility to deal with emergency business, he can feel the cherishing of this job now, although the decision to make a job hopping is also a matter of an instant. But behind it is not just leaving a company, but saying goodbye to one's self-confidence and self-esteem, that is, escaping from facing reality.
Zhang Baiqi is a person with strong self-esteem and loves feathers, which can be reflected in the fact that he never actively participates in the gossip and gossip of the same period, even if the words are thrown at him, he will smile less and cope, so he is confident and even somewhat conceited, he does not allow himself to leave in this way, but such a state is not what he wants, and the inner entanglement and the struggle of whether to leave have been carried out in his heart until Jiang Agent's "See you tomorrow." ”
"The Psychology of Self-Development" points out: "The essence of transformation is not the external replacement of old and new, but the process of self-reconstruction. ”
What really makes Zhang Baiqi turn around in self-consciousness is the moment when he has the patience to pluck up the courage to call Jiang Agent, Jiang Agent has no mustard and frank guidance and help, so that his emotions at the end of the phone are turned thousands of times, and after talking with Jiang Agent, Zhang Baiqi has understood his flaws. At first, he was not convinced, he may also understand the significance of the company's arrangement, as a person who has always been excellent, he seems to be accustomed to praise, affirmation and praise, lack of patience and practical motivation, and lack of a normal heart.
Agent Jiang told Zhang Baiqi, who wants to do a big job and does not focus on the foundation and details, if he wants to be in the limelight and wants to show himself, he will be very anxious in his heart, and what the steel group does is basic, rigorous, even if it is not gorgeous, do what should be done, we may not be conspicuous, but we can't think that it doesn't exist. Finally dispelled the idea of Zhang Baiqi jumping ship.
Zhang Baiqi has also completed the process of self-worth being broken into reshaping, his thinking is more mature, and his view of problems is more comprehensive and mature, detached from only looking at the distance, not seeing the whole and not seeing the limitations in front of him.
As a newcomer, you need to have a pragmatic heart, don't be arrogant, the eyes are high and low, in the face of temporary "dimness", the best way is not to complain and escape, but to do a good job of the current "basic work", accumulate strength, even if it is not gorgeous work, it has the meaning of perseverance, any kind of work has its unique meaning and value, only in your positioning and mentality for it.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > written at the end</h1>
The title "Unborn" is a Go term, which means the last move in Go, but there is a chance to come back to life, and the pieces that cannot survive at present are not dead, but they are still dead chess pieces, but they are chess pieces that still have room for survival.
And society is like a game of Go, we are all pawns in it, as long as it continues, even if there is only one step, the opportunity is still in their own hands, choose to actively work or helplessly abandon the child.
We sometimes rush to prove ourselves, as if we have done a lot of things, but we continue to fall on the road ahead, but do not give up easily, do not easily doubt ourselves, failure and confusion are not terrible, people are in such a difficult transformation, become deep and precipitated, find their true self.
Adding up all the moments of making choices is life, is life, and what choices are being made in each moment are not the elements that determine life?
Author: Lucky, a middle-aged health girl who has expectations for life and has something to say about the world. I am trying to be a person who is always alive and happy to meet you on the road to growth.