One day in March 1922, Xu Zhimo filed for divorce from Zhang Youyi, and although Zhang Youyi was two months pregnant at this time, she resolutely agreed.
Xu Zhimo and Zhang Youyi
In 1915, Zhang Youyi, who was still studying at the Jiangsu Provincial No. 2 Girls' Normal School, was taken home to marry Xu Zhimo, and at this time Zhang Youyi, who was only 15 years old, became the young grandmother of the Xu family in Zhejiang. The marriage was facilitated by her fourth brother, Zhang Jiaying, who was the secretary of Zhu Rui, the governor of Zhejiang at the time, and when he inspected the school, he found Xu Zhimo, who was studying at Hangzhou No. 1 Middle School, and was quite satisfied. The Xu family was already a wealthy businessman in Jiangnan at that time, and being able to marry the Zhang family with political and economic status was undesirable for Xu Zhimo's father, and in the eyes of outsiders, the two could be described as "door-to-door", so Xu's father made a marriage contract between the two.
Zhang Youyi
Xu Zhimo was dissatisfied with his parents' arranged marriage, and soon after the birth of their eldest son Xu Jikai in 1918, Xu Zhimo went to study in the United States, and then transferred to England in 1921 to study political economy at Cambridge University. During this period, he not only met his former friend Lin Changmin, but also met the other party's daughter Lin Huiyin. Since then, he has become "crazy for love"! This is also the fundamental reason why Xu Zhimo filed for divorce from Zhang You at the beginning of the article.
In 1923, Liang Sicheng (first from left) and Lin Changmin (second from left), Lin Huiyin (second from right), Xu Zhimo (first from right) and others received the Indian poet Tagore
Knowing Zhang Youyi's unfortunate marriage, the second brother Zhang Junjiao was very distressed, so he began to frequently pressure Xu Zhimo, and also pressured the Xu family's parents, asking them to agree that their sister would also go to the UK to study together. In desperation, he finally reluctantly agreed, falsely writing a letter to greet his wife and inviting her to come and read with him.
Xu Zhimo
In order to mend the relationship between the husband and wife, Zhang Youyi happily boarded the passenger ship to the UK, looking forward to a better future. However, as the ship arrived at the British port and Xu Zhimo came to pick her up, all illusions were shattered. Years later, Zhang Youyi wrote in her memoirs: I reclined on the aft deck, waiting impatiently to come ashore, and then saw Xu Zhilu standing in the crowd. At this moment, my heart cooled a lot. He wore a slender black fur coat with a white silk scarf around his neck. Although I never saw him in a suit. But I knew it was him. I could see his attitude at a glance, and I couldn't be mistaken, because he was the only one in the pile of people who picked up the boat who showed an expression that he didn't want to be there. ”
Lin Huiyin
At this time, Xu Zhimo and Lin Hui fell in love, and soon Xu Zhimo filed for divorce, and his mourning was greater than his heart's death! Zhang Youyi, who is two months pregnant, resolutely agreed. In 1922, he gave birth to his second son, Xu Desheng, and signed a divorce with Xu Zhimo in Berlin.
Lin Huiyin
In October 1922, Xu Zhimo left a song "Kangqiao Goodbye", happily set off to return to China, ready to tell Lin Huiyin in person that he was single. When Xu Zhimo couldn't wait to come to Beiping, he found that Lin Huiyin had accepted Liang Sicheng's confession. Disappointmentd, despite the dissuasion of his teacher Liang Qichao, he issued a sonorous and powerful scumbag declaration: "I will visit my only soul mate in the vast sea of people. ”。 So, Xu Zhimo still found Lin Huiyin to confess in person, but he was slapped in the face firmly. Seeing that this was already the case, he could only leave with hatred.
It didn't take long for Xu Zhimo to meet Lu Xiaoman, another important woman in his life.
Lu Xiaoman
In 1925, Lu Xiaoman followed her husband Wang Geng to Harbin, but Wang Geng, a straight man of steel, was busy with work and had no time to accompany her, and when Lu Xiaoman wanted to play, he said: "I don't have time, ask Shima to play with you." In this way, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman traveled together many times, and gradually developed subtle feelings. Lu Xiaoman is a famous socialite, beautiful appearance, and very decent conversation, soon, the two fell in love, and at this time, the relationship between Lu Xiaoman and Wang Geng became weaker and weaker, and the two often quarreled. Wang Geng was obsessed with work and somewhat machismo, and loudly insulted Lu Xiaoman during a quarrel, Lu Xiaoman claimed that he would not return to the Wang family in the future, and Lu Xiaoman's behavior was supported by his family, and he finally divorced Wang Geng in 1925.
On October 3, 1926, in Beijing's Beihai Park, Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman held a grand wedding here. Among the more than 200 guests present, there were host Hu Shi, witness Liang Qichao, bridesmaid Jin Yuelin, and heavyweights such as Zhao Yuanren and Chen Yinke, famous tutors of Tsinghua National College, and the wedding lineup was very luxurious.
Wedding photos of Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman
Liang Qichao, Xu Zhimo's mentor and witness, at the wedding, he gave a testimony like this: "Xu Zhimo, you are an impetuous person, so that you can't achieve anything in learning, you can't do learning, and you are even more a failure. Lu Xiaoman, you and Xu Zhimo are both from here, I hope that from now on you can abide by the way of women and review your personality and behavior... I hope you will not make mistakes again and again, do not take selfishness as the criterion of action, do not take absurdity and pleasure as the purpose of life pursuit, and stop treating marriage as a child's play! At the end, Liang Qichao added: "In short, I hope this is the last time you two get married in this life!" That's my congratulations to you! After the speech, the entire wedding scene was silent, which was very embarrassing.
Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman
After Xu Zhimo and Lu Xiaoman got married, their relationship was very good, but life was indeed a chicken feather, Lu Xiaoman continued to mingle in social places, except for smoking, drinking, dancing, makeup, playing cards and shopping, there was nothing serious. Later, he even contracted drug addiction under loneliness, and the whole person became completely decadent.
In order to pay for Lu Xiaoman's huge expenses, Xu Zhimo can only work part-time, in addition to teaching in Shanghai Guanghua, Nanjing Zhongda and East China Normal School, he also writes manuscripts, works as a real estate agency, and partners to open companies. At that time, the income of college teachers was very considerable, but these work income could not meet the wife's squandering, and the life was stretched, which was really self-inflicted.
Lu Xiaoman
On November 19, 1931, Xu Zhimo went to Beiping to listen to Lin Huiyin's speech. In order to save on air tickets, he actually took the postal plane "Jinan" with a low safety factor, but crashed during the flight, and at this point, the love-hate entanglement between Xu Zhimo and his three women was completely over. The original partner Zhang Youyi presided over his funeral and continued to provide for the Xu family as a goddaughter. Lin Huiyin and Liang Sicheng have worked hand in hand for a lifetime and have a pair of children. Lu Xiaoman has stopped socializing since then, silently enduring criticism and accusations from the outside world.
Xu Zhimo was deeply influenced by Western education and European and American romantic and aesthetic poets. The longing love is romantic, free, vigorous, and entangled with three women in love and hate in his life, but I don't know that plain is true.
Would you like such an amorous man?