Feelings need to be cared for, and life is suitable for casual.
Author: Insight Pure Incense
Everyone will know a lot of friends in this life.
Some people walk and walk and disperse, and some people get along longer and have deeper feelings.
I have seen a saying: "Feelings need to be cared for, and life is suitable for casual." ”
The deepest friendship of adults is never tied to each other, inseparable, but each at will, caring for each other.
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Best friends, busy with each other, concerned about each other.
Some time ago, my friend Peach went on a business trip to the city where I worked and took an hour's drive to see me.
When she sent me WeChat, I was a little surprised, but very happy, because we have not been in touch for nearly two years.
I invited her to a meal, and she pulled me aside and talked about a lot of interesting things with me.
Although we hadn't seen each other for two years, we didn't have the slightest sense of restraint of not being in touch for a long time.
What surprised me the most was that Peach, who had not appeared in the circle of friends for more than half a year, knew my things very well.
In the face of my surprise, she said lightly: "I have been paying attention to you, every circle of friends you send, every article you write, I have read, but I know that you are very busy, so I have not contacted you." ”
I remember reading a question on the Internet: What do you think the best friendship is?
There is a paragraph that says it well:
"Don't often contact, because you know that the relationship between two people does not need to be maintained by frequent contact;
I always think about it, because no matter where I am, I always want to share it with you when I see something that suits you, see beautiful scenery. ”
I used to think that true friends needed to meet each other in the twilight and be with each other all the time.
Later, I found out that in the adult world, there is a chicken feather waiting for us to deal with.
Perhaps, in their respective lives, it is the greatest satisfaction to know that someone is worried about themselves.
02
Best friends, not around, but in the heart.
There is a self-media author who has shared such a story.
Every winter, netizens @Alice big whale's home to receive a piece of homemade bacon from 3756 kilometers away, which has not stopped for 20 years.
The person who delivered the bacon was his father's friend Uncle Song.
When he was young, his father and Uncle Song were good friends, they shared common hobbies, common ideals, and also planned to live together after starting a family.
However, the confusion of time and fate not only made the two fail to achieve their wishes, but also separated by nearly ten thousand miles.
However, in this way, the exchange between his father and Uncle Song has never stopped, and Uncle Song has been thundering over mountains and mountains every year, crossing a distance of 3756 thousand miles to come.
If nothing else, just for the old brothers to talk, the two families have a meal together.
This habit has been going on for more than 20 years.
Every time he came, Uncle Song would bring a piece of homemade bacon, which was a local specialty, a precious specialty that had to be pickled by killing pigs several months in advance.
Father said that what he looks forward to most every year is to meet with this old friend, talk about family life, talk about the troubles in life, and recall the past of the two people when they were young.
He said that it was enough to have such a confidant in his lifetime.
In a relationship, what we fear most is time and distance.
Because time will blur many memories, distance will dilute each other's friendship.
But in a lifetime, there will always be such a person, even if they are thousands of miles apart, even if they do not often contact, they will always be in their hearts.
As the saying goes:
"It is not necessarily those who have amazed you to the end, but those who have been gentle with the years."
Truly unwavering friendships are not alienated by the passage of time, nor are they changed by geographical dispersion.
There is a tacit understanding that even if there is not much intersection, they still care about each other.
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Best friends, get along casually and care in your heart.
Some time ago, the famous musician Zhao Yingjun died of illness, which made many people sad.
As a good friend, Xue Zhiqian did not publish any condolences on the online platform, which attracted insults from netizens.
Later, Zhao Yingjun's doctor published the truth on the Internet, and everyone learned that Zhao Yingjun's medical treatment in the past two years was Xue Zhiqian's help to contact the doctor and find special drugs.
It was not until attending Zhao Yingjun's memorial service that Xue Zhiqian published his condolences on the online platform.
A long Weibo post also let us see the best look of friendship.
Because Xue Zhiqian's temper was not good, Zhao Yingjun once said to him: "You stubborn donkey, I can tolerate you!" ”
However, as long as Xue Zhiqian needed it, Zhao Yingjun could always appear at any time.
Even if he was asked to fly to Qingdao to help record on Christmas Day, he only complained that "there is no food on the plane of the festival!" ”
After middle age, the happiness of the two of them becomes very simple, every once in a while, listening to each other's recent works, and then humiliating each other head-on, opening a commercial step-on mode.
When you are tired of arguing, you can listen to other people's works together, and you can silently praise or shake your head together on the same lyrics, and be as good as ever.
Zhao Yingjun was sick and had surgery, it was Xue Zhiqian who was busy before and after, the first two times when Zhao Yingjun crawled back from the ghost gate and woke up confused, the first sentence was "Cry, love you." ”
Some people say: The fairy friendship between the two of them is touching.
In this world, there is a kind of friend who says words of mutual damage on his lips, but understands each other's goodness in his heart than anyone; he is relaxed and casual when getting along, but he cares more than anyone in his heart.
I heard a saying:
"The most comfortable relationship between people is not to please.
Getting along is relaxed, interaction is sincere, contact is natural, two people are together, appreciate each other, get closer and closer; the three views are together, the deeper they are. ”
Perhaps in the eyes of outsiders, they are disorganized and arbitrary.
But in fact, deep down, the other party has long been placed in the most important position.
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There is a saying: "The best state of friendship is probably when we are together, natural and happy, and when we are not together, we are all right." ”
The best friendship does not have to be in touch all the time, but can remember each other;
It doesn't have to be inseparable, but it needs to be sympathetic;
You don't have to please each other, but you can get along comfortably.
Sanmao once said: "The best among friends is like good tea, light but not astringent, fragrant but not fragrant, slowly wafting, like a long stream of water." ”
May we have nothing to do without disturbing each other, and contact each other at any time.
May our friendship be as light as tea, but as mellow as wine.