He lay on the bed in the nursing home and weakly called out to his friend of the opposite sex sitting next to him: "Please help call out to the nurse."
The nurse came over to clean up the old man's filth, wiped his body, then changed into clean adult diapers and turned him over.
The friend silently turned and waited, his face unbearable, but there was nothing he could do.
He had a stroke, he lay in bed all day, "I stink," he said slowly, there was no vitality in his voice, "I can't do anything", "I can't even think of dying".
The friend listened helplessly, and could only come to see him when he had time, and someone accompanied him, even if there was nothing to say, it was always better.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="30" > this is an old fox spirit</h1>
One day, his son's family returned to visit him. The son's daughter-in-law said that it is really inconvenient to take his father to the United States to take care of him now, and ask his father to recuperate with peace of mind. The old man listened and didn't say anything.
The son called the grandson and granddaughter on the side to come and say hello to the grandfather, originally the two leaned against the wall and played with the mobile phone, carelessly, heard the father shouting, finally put down the mobile phone and said a word. The son asked them to come over and hug Grandpa again, but he didn't expect them to stink and didn't want to come forward. The old man still didn't say a word.
At this time, the friend came, and when he saw that his son did not know this strange woman, the daughter-in-law's eyes changed instantly. The old man finally spoke, telling them that it was his friend and coming to see him.
Even so, the daughter-in-law still thinks it is strange, she and her husband said, this looks like an old fox spirit, with a ghost fetus, after all, even they don't come to see the old man, if it is not another plan, how can this woman come to see such an old man!
Before leaving, the daughter-in-law also deliberately said to her friends, "You don't have to come back in the future" and "Daddy has no money." Then the family said they had walked away laughing and planned to go on a date.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="32" how can > do such a thing</h1>
In a sense, the daughter-in-law is not all wrong. This woman was an old prostitute named Su Ying, who made a living from the sex trade, and there was a time when the old man was kind to her, and she was grateful, so when she learned that he was sick, she came to visit the deceased.
The old man used to be very dashing, with a pension, rich and idle, known as "Director Song", he is also very good at taking care of himself. Unexpectedly, I suddenly had a stroke, and every day was hopeless. His own son visited occasionally, completed his mission, and spent years in a nursing home.
Later, Director Song begged this friend who had a dewy marriage to help him get rid of it as soon as possible. Su Ying couldn't bear it, but still bought an insecticidal poison and fed it to him, Su Ying turned her head and cried while feeding the medicine, and Director Song tried to comfort her while swallowing hard.
Then she waited quietly for him to fall asleep and quietly left. After doing this, Su Ying was very upset and silently waited for the punishment of the law. However, there was still no news. Later, another friend said that The death of Director Song was originally a bit strange, but the family did not ask for an autopsy, so it was calculated. Su Ying could no longer bear to confide in the truth, "This is what I did."
The friend originally said that it was good to die asleep, but when he learned that it was Su Ying's handwriting, he couldn't help but sigh.
It was the first person she had killed, and she thought it was the end, but she didn't realize it was just the beginning.
She seems to have become a killer, sending away old friends who have had several fates one by one.
This is the story in the Korean movie "Miss Dionysus", when you watch the movie, you will feel that everyone is very calm, and this calm contains great sadness. This kind of sadness is a disease, and it is also the ultimate loneliness of being alone in aging.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="37" > where the dignity of the elderly comes from</h1>
In the past, Director Song took a pension, had money and time, and the days were very moist, but the good days said that they were gone.
It is said that "raising children to prevent the elderly", the son's economic conditions are already good, and he is willing to spend the money of the nursing home, but the days are still loveless.
In the end, the son's care is limited, he can only pay the money of this nursing home, the elderly to the side to take care of, obviously more troublesome, the son's family is not willing to bear this trouble.
The old man's life has no dignity and is naturally lifeless.
Where does dignity come from? It is very important to have someone to accompany, to have a home to live in, to have money to make, and most importantly, to have a good body.
If the old man's wife is still there, maybe the days will be different, at least someone to accompany, not so lonely.
As the saying goes, "young couples come to be partners", children and grandchildren have their own families and lives, and it is still their wives who are in love with each other when they are old. The older you get, the more you must cherish your partner, who is the one who is really with you.
Director Song lives in a nursing home, although there are people to take care of, but in the end it is not his own home, although it is sheltered from the wind and rain, but all the memories have no items to pin, he is like a guest, waiting for the wordless ending.
For the elderly, staying at home, having a wife, and having the cost of old-age care can be more free and comfortable. But the most fundamental thing about all this is health. No matter how much money there is, no health, it is also in vain.
Just like Director Song, lying on the bed, nothing can be done, eating and drinking water to be fed, defecating and cleaning, there are no relatives around, it is really difficult to feel dignified. For Director Song, the only thing to rely on is his son, but his son cannot be trusted.
The son and daughter-in-law are not willing to take him to care for him, and they are not willing to live with him, and although the grandchildren know that there is such a grandfather, they are indifferent to him, and it seems that they are no different from treating a stranger.
They are so directly disgusted with the old man's body odor, they are not willing to hug it, probably visit the old man, but the agenda that needs to show his face is not as important as a playful party. Very sad, very helpless. Therefore, There is no hope in Director Song's life.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="47" > the future has come, live every day</h1>
Just in May this year, the National Bureau of Statistics released data from the seventh census.
At this stage, China's total population is about 1.412 billion, 60 years old and above population of 264.02 million people, accounting for 18.70% (of which, 65 years old and above population is 190.64 million people, accounting for 13.50%), China is gradually entering the aging society.
How to provide for the elderly is a problem in front of the whole society and is closely related to everyone.
The pension industry will become a sunrise industry with great potential, so the corresponding medical services and entertainment services will gradually develop over time. Because of the heavy family concept of Chinese, the pension model with home as the main and community-supplemented in the future may become the mainstream.
If the elderly want to live a tasteful and dignified life, in the final analysis, they must still have a good body, at least be able to move independently; have a pension cost, at least to ensure basic needs; have a place to live, can support each other with their wives, or can be taken care of by their children. External infrastructure and services are ultimately auxiliaries, and physical and mental are the foundation.
I hope that more and more elderly people can spend their old age in peace and let every day of life have happy moments.