"Crazy Stupid Love", couples who suffer from midlife crisis save themselves through these two points!

Couples have been together for a long time, will they be like boiled water, tasteless? As Woody Allen said, even if the other person is stripped naked and dangling in front of him, he can turn a blind eye.

In the movie "Crazy Stupid Love" I watched today, my wife Emily cried and told her husband Carl that we had not felt together for a long time. Carl and Emily have been married for 25 years, have their first child at 17, have stable jobs, beautiful big houses and beautiful gardens, but Emily says she cheated on her male colleague and wants to divorce Carl.

This movie Douban score of 7.3 points, not high, very fair, because I think the plot is indeed quite speechless, the wife cheated, the husband and then the bar hooked up with 9 women to bed, and finally the husband and wife reconciled. But today I want to use this movie to talk about how to survive the midlife crisis? How to survive the uneventful period of marriage?

First of all, still pay attention to the image. Why use still two words, hehe, people who have been married for more than two years know that there is no one who wants to attract, the image is really two words, casually. After his wife cheats, Jacob, a playboy he meets at a bar, tells him that your wife cheated because you forgot that you were a man, a husband, or a lover. Then take him to the mall to shop and replace him with a new line, and sure enough, people rely on clothes. "Jin Zhiying born in 82 years" Zhiying resigned after giving birth to a child as a housewife at home, life was depressed and bitter, once she returned to her mother's house, her aunt said to the gray-headed Zhiying: Zhiying, even if you are tired with children, you must pay attention to dressing, girls are going to be beautiful. After getting married, having children, life after marriage is still calm, and the image is not so important in our eyes. But we forget about "others", and others still start to look at us as a person, whether it is the other half or other people, as long as we are not living alone on a desert island, we should wear the colorful world on our bodies.

The second is to have a common time. Staying together doesn't mean having a common time, after work, you do housework, he doesn't have a common time playing with his phone, the common time is to do the same thing together for the same goal and direction. In the movie that solves the problem of mid-life crisis, I am most impressed by such a movie, the beginning of the movie is that the husband and wife seek professional help, to see if they can pass the expert guidance, the couple will not divorce the relationship break, the psychologist listened to their respective complaints and gave advice to do one thing together every week, common hobbies, everything is good. In the end, the two of them chose to play tennis, and when they first started playing, the two were very out of tune, each with their own rules, and almost every time they were unhappy. But later, with the contact between the two, understanding, understanding, slowly can receive the ball, can experience the fun of playing with the other party, and the psychology of the other party. This is the best advice I feel, to have a common time. Couples who have been married for a long time spend a lot of time in the same room, but very little time together. Couples who rely on children, couples who rely on houses, and couples who rely on money are not the most stable couples, just watch the Korean drama "The World of Couples". Now many couples know this, weekly or monthly, will arrange activities that belong only to both husband and wife, watch movies, eat out, travel, sports, etc., in those few hours there are no children and nothing else, only them.

These two days the "president's wife" is on fire, why does the president hook up with Internet celebrities? Is the president's wife not attractive enough? No, the president's wife, whether it is the external image temperament or the academic connotation, makes many people look forward to it. The above two points are not to tell the "president's wife", "the president's wife" does not need to make any effort or change, or she does not make any effort and change to no avail. Because some people meet "this kind of man", they try not to exchange "this kind of man" for the whole single-mindedness. Women who do "this kind of man" either leave or endure, there is no other way.