Reading good books and making friends with high people are two great blessings in life. But good books are easy to find, and high people are hard to find.
In the rolling red dust, a thousand people have a thousand faces, how to distinguish each person's right and wrong, good and bad, good or bad, is an extremely important thing.
Just like eating, interacting with people who have no ability and poor character will not only not increase their knowledge for themselves, but will damage your character, lower your level, and even mislead your life.
And those who really have the ability, will invisibly affect you, enrich you, side by side with it, in order to meet more beautiful, the so-called "in the fluffy, not to help but straight", it is said that this is the truth, these people usually have these characteristics in the world, encounter must be deep friendship.
Speak softly and never with anger
As the old saying goes, "Character is destiny, tone is luck." "The tone and volume of a person's speech are the most likely to reflect the person's personality and cultivation.
Often interrupting others to speak, often without measure, arbitrary and arbitrary; do not know how to take care of the feelings of others, most of them are selfish and selfish, and they are rude; they are loud and noisy regardless of the occasion, most of them are uncultivated, vulgar and barbaric, they will not "speak", and they can always turn the simplest words into a sword that hurts people, hurts others and harms themselves.
And really smart people, no matter what the occasion, will lower their voices and breathe softly.
By observing the color of words, they can capture everyone's emotions at the first time, as well as distinguish the importance of the occasion, and then abide by their words and deeds, so as to be generous and decent.
Song Qingling is the best example. At that time, 15-year-old Song Qingling attended a women's university in the United States.
At one point, there was a heated discussion in the class about a historical issue. One of the American students said: "The so-called ancient civilizations, such as China in Asia, have been eliminated by history. ”
Song Qingling, who heard this sentence, although he did not agree with it, still patiently listened to her speech.
When the classmate had finished speaking, Song Qingling stood up and made a reasonable and well-founded rebuttal of his speech in a soft tone.
Confucius said, "A gentleman is sensitive to things and cautious in his words." ”
Not being angry when angry, staying calm when excited, and always speaking gently is not only a skill, but also a top emotional intelligence.
Being with such a person is like a spring breeze, which is relaxed and pleasant.
Act decisively and never drag mud with water
Someone said, "Decisiveness is a kind of upbringing and ability." "Indeed it is.
Those who can make a decision on the spot and never drag mud and water must not only have the courage to be decisive and uninhibited, but also need the courage to take responsibility and the strategy to see the essence.
This kind of person, who did things without distraction, was also more likely to succeed, and after five years of Jian'an, Cao Cao and Yuan Shao held each other at Guandu and fought a decisive battle here, at that time, in addition to the soldiers guarding the base camp, Yuan Shao had a total of 110,000 elite soldiers and 50,000 warhorses.
However, Cao Cao removed some sick and wounded in his hands, and the total number of people who could go to the battlefield was only about 20,000.
Such a disparity in troop strength ended with Cao Cao's surprise attack on the granary of Yuan's army and the defeat of Yuan Shao, which also laid the foundation for Cao Cao's unification of northern China.
The reason for this is that Yuan Shao is a person who is self-conscious, jealous of xianxian ability, and lacks the ability to make decisions, so he has repeatedly missed good opportunities.
In Cao Cao's own words: "I know that Shaozhi is a man, with great ambition and small wisdom, fierce and timid, jealous and less powerful, many soldiers and unclear divisions, arrogant and inconsistent government orders, although the land is vast, although the grain is abundant, it is enough to serve me." ”
Many times, no matter how talented people are, if they are always indecisive and hesitant, they will lose a lot of opportunities, and eventually do nothing and go to mediocrity.
There is a cloud in the "Chronicle of History": "It is better to be a horse than a horse." ”
Only by being resourceful and decisive at the moment of crisis and resolutely making decisions in the face of opportunities can we strengthen ourselves and forge ahead.
Such a person is also more worthy of our emulation and learning.
Be a person of good character and never be deceived
In life, encounters depend on fate, acquaintance depends on feelings, and fellowship depends on three views. But whether the road ahead can always be traveled depends entirely on the character of this person!
Just as the Internet said: "Appreciating a person begins with appearance, respect for talent, in line with character, long in kindness, loyal to character." ”
Only good character can gain long-term appreciation and favor from others.
On the contrary, those who are calculating, falling into the well, being abducted and deceived, and ungrateful, must stay away as soon as possible when they encounter it, otherwise, they will add to their own blockage.
I remember that in the movie "Best Bid", the male protagonist Virgil ended up with a tragic end because of his bad character.
Wiergier was originally an expert in the art industry, and in the eyes of outsiders, he was a successful person who was envied by everyone in a suit and leather shoes, with a lot of money.
Behind the scenes, he often bought some precious works of art with his old friend Billy through black box operations at a price far below the actual price.
However, the good times did not last long, and after encountering a female liar who was higher than his "rank", the famous paintings that Vergier pit had been abducted by the pit were all deceived.
There's a saying that goes: "Your intelligence and talent determine what you get, while your character determines where you end up." ”
Compared with the family wealth and famous paintings, the character of kindness and honesty is a person's most valuable wealth.
Only by treating others with sincerity and frank respect can we reap the same treatment. After all, good character is the real hard power.
The rest of your life is not long, and it really matters what kind of person you are with.
Walking with good people, you will be better yourself; with inferior people, you will only be in the quagmire.
Su Qian said, "You don't have to invite too many people into your life." If they can't get inside you, they'll just crowd your life. ”
After that, learning to distinguish between good and bad, borrowing the wisdom of others, and achieving oneself is the real way to success.