There was once a "master of Chinese studies" named Zeng Shiqiang in Taiwan, who declared in a speech: "Marriage cannot last if a woman chases a man." "Because it's easy for a man, he won't cherish it."
Some people analyze the reason, women chase men, men are easy to have a sense of superiority, and have more initiative in the relationship. And once girls fall into long-term unilateral efforts, they are often reluctant to let go, and can only fall deeper and deeper, and finally bring themselves only painful endings.
Is it really only men chasing women to be happy for a long time?
In the sports world, there is such a marriage in which a woman chases a man, which still makes their friends around them envious: a rich girl born with a silver spoon, despite her parents' opposition, finally succeeded in "pasting" a poor boy from a working family and has loved each other to this day.
The secret of the couple's happiness is worth learning from those who have been seduced by the "masters of Chinese studies".
A surprise in the corner
In 2012, in a high-end club in Beijing, a handsome boy sat alone outside a noisy crowd. In general, people who go in and out of such places are usually rich or expensive, and his cheap and affordable clothes look so out of place with the environment.
The young man's name is Zhang Chenglong, born in Zhangdian, Zibo City, Shandong Province, his father Zhang Bingguo and mother Geng Qinghong are ordinary workers, and the VIPs in this club seem to belong to two worlds, Zhang Chenglong never thought that he would come to this kind of place one day to consume.
Zhang Chenglong sat calmly on the sofa, neither flattering anyone, nor dictating to anyone, but no matter what angle he looked at, he could not hide his handsome and compelling appearance.
At this time, a beautiful girl in bright clothes actually took the initiative to approach Zhang Chenglong and greeted him.
Different from Zhang Chenglong's origin, this girl named Zhao Ziyan is a native of Tangshan, Hebei Province, her parents are high-level intellectuals, her family has been rich since childhood, and she grew up to study fashion design in the UK.
Only today, when Zhao Ziyan saw Zhang Chenglong for the first time, her heart became more excited than ever, and many people could not recognize Zhang Chenglong's identity, but Zhao Ziyan was very familiar.
As recently as July 2012, Zhao Ziyan was at home, nervously watching the London Olympics with her parents, thousands of miles away. Gymnastics is a sport that Zhao Ziyan's whole family pays attention to, and it is also one of the key gold points of the Chinese team.
In the preliminary round, the Chinese gymnastics team made a series of mistakes, and her parents felt that winning the championship might be no show, and Zhao Ziyan was disappointed with hatred that iron could not be made of steel, and she didn't want to watch the final a little.
Even so, the family can't let go of gymnastics after all, and would rather stay up late to watch the game to the end despite jet lag.
On July 31, it was the final of the gymnastics men's team, starting from the rings, Zhao Ziyan already felt particularly sleepy and was too lazy to watch TV in the living room.
After a while, when she came out of her room, the hanging ring had finished comparing, and when it came to the vault project, Zhao Ziyan sat on the sofa, looked up, and a young man on the screen was playing perfectly, and Zhao Ziyan immediately had only one feeling: "It's so handsome!" ”
Through the screen, Zhao Ziyan firmly remembered the name of the athlete: Zhang Chenglong, and also followed the vine to touch melons, found his Weibo and quietly followed.
In this final, the Chinese team did not make a single mistake in all six events, and finally won the championship with a total score of 275.997 points, Zhang Chenglong and teammates Chen Yibing, Zou Kai, Feng Zhe and Guo Weiyang stood on the podium and played the national anthem for us.
Of course, Zhao Ziyan is also happy for the excellent performance of Chinese gymnasts, but among these heroes, only Zhang Chenglong can become her idol, and even Zhao Ziyan has no heart to pay attention to other competitions.
True destiny
After returning from the Olympics, the gymnastics teammates pulled Zhang Chenglong to the clubhouse to celebrate, which was originally reasonable, but such a luxury consumption place and Zhang Chenglong's growth environment were too different, Zhang Chenglong could not adapt for a while, seemingly deep and cold, but in fact, it was better to be in a daze on the side.
But this daze created a dream opportunity for Zhao Ziyan, who also happened to come to the clubhouse.
As a beautiful woman who wants to have a family lineage, a career, appearance, knowledge and knowledge, Zhao Ziyan has never lacked suitors since she was a child.
After the summer vacation of the London Olympics, Zhao Ziyan returned to university.
In order to chase her, an indelusive boy repeatedly half-knelt to confess and give gifts, but Zhao Ziyan couldn't look at it at all, and he clearly refused. The boy was very drunk because of this, and after drinking, he poured bitter water with his friends and said how deeply he was affectionate, but Zhao Ziyan was not moved.
It's not that Zhao Ziyan doesn't understand people, she has completely become Zhang Chenglong's little fan sister at that time, but Zhao Ziyan just treats the other party as an idol that can only be seen on TV, and never thought that this unrequited love would produce any results.
However, today the idol really appeared in front of him for the first time, as well as his real and incomparably handsome face, athlete's fitness materials, Zhao Ziyan's heart completely fell.
Once faced with the real favorite object, the cold goddess temperament on Zhao Ziyan's body completely disappeared, she seemed to be full of care, but in fact carefully considered every word she said, neither too enthusiastic to scare the male god, nor too cold for the male god to answer.
After a few simple words, Zhao Ziyan got something she had never dreamed of for a long time: Zhang Chenglong's contact information.
At this time, Zhang Chenglong did not realize that a gentle heaven and earth net had enveloped him, and then tightened little by little in Zhao Ziyan's careful calculation.
Zhang Chenglong did not have a special impression of this girl he met by chance at first, after all, people have face, wealth, knowledge, and their own family is very ordinary, only relying on an Olympic team champion will not change much, and there is a huge gap between the two worlds that can be seen with the naked eye.
"I like gymnastics and want to understand the training and daily life of athletes" This is the reason Zhao Ziyan used to ask Zhang Chenglong for contact information. But for Zhang Chenglong, the daily life training of athletes is extremely boring, and his personality is not very lively and interesting, what is there to know?
Therefore, the relationship between the two people was really limited to the scope of honestly "understanding the life of athletes", and even Zhao Ziyan took the initiative to ask Zhang Chenglong to go out to watch movies and eat several times, but he never inspired Zhang Chenglong to understand his original intentions.
At this time, Zhao Ziyan was anxious, and he seized the hard-won opportunity, which is not a fruitless ending.
Cultivate positive results
The authorities are fans, and the bystanders are clear. Gradually, except for Zhang Chenglong himself, everyone knew Zhao Ziyan's deep affection for Zhang Chenglong.
This incident caused the jealousy of the boy who pursued Zhao Ziyan at the beginning, and he even regarded Zhao Ziyan returning to Tangshan from England and transferring in Beijing as Zhang Chenglong deceiving and seducing Zhao Ziyan and reporting to the instructor, which once caused Zhao Ziyan a lot of trouble, but when he could see Zhang Chenglong, all these troubles immediately disappeared.
From the time they met until 2013, Zhao Ziyan fell sincerely on Zhang Chenglong, never getting a proactive response, and daring not to say her true thoughts.
Strange to say, in the first two years of knowing Zhao Ziyan, Zhang Chenglong's team results were very good, and personal results would always make mistakes due to unexpected factors.
On August 7, after winning the gold medal at the London Olympics, in the men's parallel bars final, Zhang Chenglong dropped the equipment due to a mistake, and finally scored only 13.808 points, ranking ninth; in the 12th National Games in 2013, Zhang Chenglong scored the highest horizontal bar score of 16.000 points, becoming the hero of his hometown Shandong team winning the men's gymnastics team gold medal with a total score of 352.707 points.
As a result, two days later, in the men's individual all-around final, Zhang Chenglong made a serious mistake in the fifth round of his strong floor exercise competition, and only finished 14th, missing out on a medal.
The ups and downs of the results have aggravated Zhang Chenglong's psychological and training pressure. Zhang Chenglong, who is 1.73 meters tall, once hesitated between diving and swimming as early as his sports school days, finally entered the national team, and also experienced the embarrassment of being returned to the provincial team.
Fortunately, he has always had the momentum to not admit defeat, and later returned to the national team, but this is bitter for Zhao Ziyan, who is very affectionate. Zhang Chenglong is busy training every day, and his feelings for himself seem to be only stuck in the stage of "good friends" and cannot take a step forward, how can it be good?
Finally one day in 2014, Zhao Ziyan, who was tormented by feelings, decided to go out, let go of everything, and took the initiative to find an opportunity to confess her feelings to Zhang Chenglong.
He also explained clearly how he "glanced at Zhang Chenglong for ten thousand years" on TV, took the initiative to find opportunities to approach, ask for contact information, and spend every minute together was the pain of his unrequited love, and explained all of them clearly.
After all the feelings in her heart were poured out, Zhao Ziyan did not dare to look back at Zhang Chenglong, silently waiting for the pronouncement of fate.
The answer she got made her almost cry with joy: Zhang Chenglong also realized that he had already fallen in love with Zhao Ziyan.
Shortly after the two confirmed their relationship, they ushered in the first final day of the 45th World Gymnastics Championships in Nanning, Guangxi on October 7, 2014. The match between China and Japan is a title fight.
Chinese teenager Cheng Ran, who played in the first round of floor exercise, made a serious mistake, resulting in two rounds still trailing Japan by 3.583 points.
There were 6 rounds of the game, halfway through the competition, and the psychological pressure of the players who came out later could be imagined, and everyone tried hard to control their nervousness and told themselves to play steadily.
After the ring race in the third competition, the Chinese team began to catch up and the score gap narrowed, but until the end of the fifth round of parallel bars events, the difference between China and Japan was still 0.691 points.
In the horizontal bar event, Japan scored 15.4 points for a total of 273.269, and China's last hope is Zhang Chenglong, who must score more than 15.866 points to not lose the championship on his doorstep.
Zhang Chenglong riveted with full strength, jumped on the horizontal bar to complete his designated movements: straight body spin over the bar, group body spin over the bar, middle wear 180 to pick up the teka turn 180, middle wear 360 to pick up Makelov, including landing, every action can only be described perfectly.
The referee showed the final score: 15.966 points. Due to Zhang Chenglong's outstanding performance, the Chinese gymnastics men's team achieved a desperate reversal with 0.1 points, becoming the first team in the history of the gymnastics world championships to complete six consecutive championships in the centennial history of the gymnastics world championships since its inception in 1903.
At this moment, a stormy applause sounded in the arena, and Zhao Ziyan, who was guarding in front of the TV, shed tears of excitement.
On July 26, 2015, a huge electronic screen somewhere in Beijing read the three words "Marry me."
This was wrapped up by Zhang Chenglong, Zhao Ziyan finally waited for the male god's marriage proposal ceremony, and was tightly hugged into Zhang Chenglong's strong body under the electronic screen, and the two then completed the marriage registration.
Live happily
"It's good to find a boyfriend who is the right door, find such a public figure, I am afraid that you will suffer in the future." When she first learned that her daughter was in love with a gymnastics champion, Zhao Ziyan's mother once objected worriedly.
But as the party who took the initiative to chase backwards and take the initiative to confess, Zhao Ziyan has long been irrevocable, she unmistakably confessed her weaknesses to Zhang Chenglong, and how she lived after marriage depends entirely on Zhang Chenglong's character.
To everyone's surprise, Zhao Ziyan declared that after getting married, she quickly "powdered" her former idol. Is it because Zhao Ziyan is a "scumbag", and she lost her freshness when she successfully chased Zhang Chenglong?
Of course not, after marriage, Zhao Ziyan often quarreled with her husband over some worries in life, which was originally an indispensable ingredient in the couple's life. However, as his wife's idol male god back then, Zhang Chenglong never mentioned anything backwards, and always finally softened to his wife and admitted his mistakes.
In fact, Zhang Chenglong knows very well that his wife has always loved him deeply, and he also loves his wife deeply.
On January 21, 2017, the birth of their lovely daughter "Xiao Zongzi" is the most precious crystallization of love, and also announces the end of Zhang Chenglong's career as a professional gymnast.
Thanks to the identity of the Olympic champion and Zhao Ziyan's rich background, Zhang Chenglong began to learn business after retiring, and Zhao Ziyan switched to self-media in the mother and baby industry.
What many people don't expect is that in fact, after getting married, Zhao Ziyan's identity as a rich girl did not make her a huge help in her career, and her income was only at an ordinary level.
Zhang Chenglong, who worked hard, earned much more than his wife, and was said to be worth hundreds of millions at one time, which can be said to be completely worry-free.
Zhao Ziyan proudly shows off that her husband is an all-round player who makes money, brings children, loves his wife and does housework.
Zhang Chenglong always thinks: "If I earn more, then I will bear more of the family's expenses, and you don't have to be pressured if you earn less, because we are all for this family." Therefore, Zhao Ziyan is always a little princess who can be coquettish, enjoy life, and be pampered.
Zhang Chenglong could not give up his love for gymnastics in his heart, and he still maintained the necessary training at home. On August 8, 2022, the "Sports General Cup" gymnastics team championship opened in Leling, Shandong Province, and people were surprised to find the name of Zhang Chenglong, the Olympic champion, again in the list of 254 team members who appeared.
Through hard study, Zhang Chenglong went to obtain the gymnastics referee certificate again, and successfully appeared in the gymnastics field as a referee for the first time on August 19, 2022.
From October 29 to November 6, 2022, the 51st World Competitive Gymnastics Championships were held at the Martha Bank Arena in Liverpool, England, and Zhang Chenglong followed the progress of the competition every day, especially cheering for the juniors and disciples of the men's team.
On November 3, the men's team won the championship, Zhang Chenglong remembered his glorious history in the team competition, and said with satisfaction: "Congratulations to the Chinese men's team for winning the championship, the championship bloodline remains."
Zhao Ziyan wrote affectionately to her husband: "You have always been my idol, your hard work, your perseverance, your optimistic and positive attitude towards life, have always been an example for me. The power of idols has always been there, not so much to love you as to always admire you. ”