Editing / Little Love Letter
"I think he's very powerful."
This is what Wang Xiaowei said when he heard Wang Xiaohai sing "Ao Bao Meeting". Before that, every time Wang Xiaohai sang at the party, he could deeply amaze Wang Xiaowei.
The two got together because of singing, like-minded people, walking together is fate, Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei are fateful.
Not only the names are similar, but even the hobbies and specialties are similar, and the two got married in 2016 after several years of running-in.
Unexpectedly, after getting married, Wang Xiaohai changed greatly and made many demands on Wang Xiaowei. In the end, Wang Xiaowei couldn't bear it anymore and chose to let himself go and be fine.
Now, when Wang Xiaowei talks about her ex-husband, there is only one sentence "be cautious when choosing a partner".
Behind these words, how much pain and tolerance is hidden by Wang Xiaowei?
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Wang Xiaowei was born in Liaoning in 1983, has loved music since he was a child, and participated in the international piano competition at the age of 14 and won the championship.
Not only that she plays the piano well, she is also the first master of double-row electronic keyboard in China, and her musical talent is very high.
In contrast, Wang Xiaohai, born in 1980, is much worse in terms of musical talent and education.
Wang Xiaowei became the leading actor of "Chinese Variations" after graduation, while Wang Xiaohai is just a bar singer-in-residence.
One has a good career, the other is still struggling for music, and there is no connection between the two at all.
Once when friends formed a dinner bureau, Wang Xiaowei and Wang Xiaohai both went. We didn't know each other at first, and we didn't plan to make friends.
Until he sang on KTV that night, Wang Xiaohai sang a song "Little Poplar", and his singing skills really surprised Wang Xiaowei.
Until many years later, when Wang Xiaowei mentioned their first encounter, he would also exclaim: "Wang Xiaohai's folk songs are very professional."
Not only the folk songs are amazing, but in KTV Wang Xiaohai also sings a male and female voice "Ao Bao Meet", Wang Xiaowei, who went to the bathroom, happened to hear it, and instantly felt that Wang Xiaohai was very powerful.
After the first meeting, the two did not meet or contact each other for a long time.
A year later, Wang Xiaowei held a music concert, and Wang Xiaohai was friends and got a ticket.
On the field, Wang Xiaowei played music affectionately.
Wang Xiaohai in the field listened with relish, but at this time, he did not realize that the girl on the stage was the person who had sung with him.
It was not until the end of the concert that Wang Xiaohai saw Wang Xiaowei who was leaving, and for a while, by fate, let each other recall the past, and they finally officially met.
Wang Xiaohai relied on two songs to be completely rooted in Wang Xiaowei's memory.
When they met again, Wang Xiaowei recognized him at once, and affectionately called him "Brother Hai", which made Wang Xiaohai a little flattered.
After that, Wang Xiaohai frequently asked Wang Xiaowei to come out to chat, and the two were repeatedly regarded as brothers and sisters by friends because of their similar names.
Wang Xiaowei also had doubts about this, and deliberately went home to check the family tree, but did not find Wang Xiaohai's name.
The fate of the world is always inexplicable.
With similar names and the same hobbies, the two gradually deepened their impression of each other.
Later, Wang Xiaohai left his hometown and went to Beijing to drift north. He also did not forget his friend Wang Xiaowei, who promoted and performed songs for her in distant Beijing.
Unexpectedly, this move would directly change his and Wang Xiaowei's lives. Once, the director of "Avenue of Stars" found Wang Xiaohai with a disc and asked if he could help find the girl who played.
After listening to the other party's intentions, Wang Xiaohai immediately called Wang Xiaowei and asked her to come to Beijing.
Wang Xiaowei is very happy to know that she can be on the "Avenue of Stars", but she is very grateful and knows that this opportunity was brought by Wang Xiaohai.
So, she found Wang Xiaohai to discuss, or we will go on the stage together and form a group.
Wang Xiaohai felt embarrassed at first and refused without hesitation, but he couldn't resist Wang Xiaowei shouting "Brother Hai", and finally Wang Xiaohai relaxed and agreed.
After that, the two formed the group "Nine Moon Miracle", and the name of this group is based on the month when the two met, and the miracle created by the September acquaintance, spreading their wings with dreams.
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At the beginning of frequent contact, Wang Xiaohai would take into account the feelings of the other party and often tolerate the other party.
But when they officially developed together as a group, each other's personalities became difficult to get along.
Wang Xiaohai is more rigid and straight, often ignoring Wang Xiaowei's mood, in ordinary life, maybe Wang Xiaohai will let one or two, but really into the work, Wang Xiaohai wants to let it, and can't let it.
If he holds back his thoughts and does not express them, he feels very uncomfortable, so the two often have great differences because of their different concepts in music.
But what makes Wang Xiaowei speechless is that every time a new work is released, Wang Xiaohai will take the initiative to make several pianos.
Arrange in a row and let Wang Xiaowei try, which sound better.
But for Wang Xiaowei, these operations are definitely laymen guiding insiders, and there is nothing to do.
Wang Xiaohai has a dedication to music, while Wang Xiaowei will use his professionalism to consider problems. Often the two will quarrel because of a new work, and when they quarrel so much that they can't quarrel, they just ignore each other.
Once Wang Xiaowei was angry, and when he went home from a quarrel, he practiced the piano frantically. One shot lasted for hours, during which time he couldn't get up except for going to the toilet to drink water.
He kept playing the piano until dawn the next morning, when Wang Xiaowei wanted to take a break. As a result, he found that his legs could not move, and he almost fell to his knees when walking.
When she couldn't go out, she could only lie silently on the bed to rest, and she didn't call Wang Xiaohai to tell Wang Xiaohai when she was angry.
Wang Xiaohai composed the competition song alone at home, but he didn't see Wang Xiaowei appear for many days, and he was more puzzled. Just ask a friend what Wang Xiaowei has been doing recently.
Friends told him that Wang Xiaowei hadn't gone out for many days and didn't know what she was doing at home.
For this reason, Wang Xiaohai was very worried about whether something would happen to Wang Xiaowei, so he didn't think much about it, and went directly to Wang Xiaowei's house to find her.
After seeing Wang Xiaowei, seeing that she was walking unsteadily, Wang Xiaohai felt uncomfortable in his heart.
I had to help her go to the hospital step by step, because Wang Xiaowei's home was not far from the hospital, only five minutes away, but because of Wang Xiaowei's situation, the two walked for half an hour.
After doing an examination, Wang Xiaohai felt a little angry when he saw the inspection report, and he couldn't figure out why Wang Xiaowei wanted to abuse himself like this.
It turned out that the reason why Wang Xiaowei would do this was because he stayed up late to play the piano for too long, causing a waist injury and taking a long time to recover.
However, after this toss, Wang Xiaohai left Wang Xiaowei for a long time, and only after Wang Xiaowei recuperated did the two continue to cooperate, and at this time, the two were more tacit.
At this time, on the eve of participating in the "Avenue of Stars" weekly competition, the two once again worked together to advance and retreat, and finally with this, the group became famous, and the two also became each other's most tacit partners.
The two who enjoyed the taste of overnight popularity were also invited to the Spring Festival Gala in 2011, and they had countless scenery for a while and reached the peak of their careers.
After the career became more and more prosperous, the flame of love between the two could no longer be hidden.
In fact, in the years of getting along, Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei have long been in love, perhaps not wanting to expose their private lives too much, so the two fell in love all the way to marriage quietly.
After it was made public, the relationship was blessed by many people.
After several years of getting along, the two got married on December 16, 2016, shared the news of their marriage on Weibo, and posted the wedding photos taken when they received the license.
They also openly shouted at each other to show their affection.
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However, this marriage that everyone blessed was not friendly in private.
Wang Xiaohai is very macho and often forces Wang Xiaowei to do things he doesn't like.
Every time Wang Xiaowei took the stage, he was already very tired of playing the piano with his hands and feet, but Wang Xiaohai was still not satisfied with this, and asked Wang Xiaowei to break through himself, not only to play the piano, but also to learn to dance in the piano.
This kind of request is simply unreasonable for Wang Xiaowei, she can't spare other energy to dance in the piano, Wang Xiaohai's move has no intention of forcing Wang Xiaowei to a dead end.
From childhood to adulthood, Wang Xiaowei grew up in a relatively free environment, and it was his own will to learn anything. But since getting married, she has often felt strong pressure.
When Wang Xiaohai is creating or the two have concerts, Wang Xiaowei will be very afraid of Wang Xiaohai and let her do things she has never done or is not sure of.
And to what extent is Wang Xiaohai domineering?
Before a concert, Wang Xiaohai guarded Wang Xiaowei and wanted to test the notes of all the electronic keyboards. Not a single note can be broken, it is simply harsh to the extreme.
Although Wang Xiaowei will finish, there is always a knot in his heart.
Wang Xiaowei prefers to treat his career with a professional attitude. Wang Xiaohai, on the other hand, considers things from the audience's perspective every time.
This leads to more and more points of disagreement between each other on their careers, and indirectly affects the direction of marriage.
The so-called marriage is like drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Sometimes on the surface, each other is indeed beautiful, but whether life is good or not, only you know.
Wang Xiaohai's dedication to his career has completely taken up the private time of the two.
From the beginning of their marriage, the two have neither a wedding nor the blessings of relatives and friends.
In Wang Xiaohai's words, it is a little more low-key.
But from Wang Xiaowei's point of view, it was she who swallowed all her unhappiness, and it was she who cooperated with Wang Xiaohai's decisions.
From the beginning of the run-in, to the later Wang Xiaowei could not bear it, this love came to an end in just two years.
After the two divorced in 2018, the two did not immediately announce the news of divorce, considering that they were still partners and business dealings.
It was not until October 4, 2020 that the two had been divorced for two years were disclosed on Weibo.
The two people have been tied together by music for many years and finally freed, divorce does not mix the difficulties of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no disagreement between aunts and sisters-in-law, and there is no relationship between parents of both parties.
It's just because Wang Xiaowei can't tolerate Wang Xiaohai's machismo.
To this day, when it comes to her ex-husband Wang Xiaohai, Wang Xiaowei only has one sentence: "Choose a partner carefully." And behind these words, what is hidden is her tolerance and forbearance over the years.
Since 2021, Wang Xiaowei has posted a video of herself and Xu Ziwei on the stage together.
Xu Ziwei and Wang Xiaohai's dressing style is very similar, often a white suit, exquisite and atmospheric.
While singing, the two looked at each other affectionately, and cooperated tacitly, just like the original "Nine Moon Miracle".
In an interview after the divorce, the host asked Wang Xiaowei if she would use "Nine Moon Miracle" in the future. She smiled and said, "Will use."
It's just that in her lens, there is no Wang Xiaohai's figure.
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After the divorce, Wang Xiaowei seems to live more relaxed and comfortable, and gets along more harmoniously with his new partner Xu Ziwei, both professionally and privately.
Perhaps, Wang Xiaowei said that the choice of partner should be cautious, not only referring to the work partner, but more to the marriage partner!
Gorky once said: "Marriage is the spiritual union between husband and wife to overcome the hardships of the world together." But Wang Xiaohai and Wang Xiaowei regard marriage as a stable point in their careers.
Wang Xiaowei has always only worshipped Wang Xiaohai, and she regarded this worship as liking.
When the former idol walked down the altar and got married, she discovered that Wang Xiaohai was not perfect, and compared to life, Wang Xiaowei may really like Wang Xiaohai on the stage.
They may be each other's best partners, but they are not the best couples and partners for each other.
And when marriage is mixed with too many careers, it is no longer pure.
I hope that everyone can find their own pure love, not mixed with career and interpersonal relationships.