In reality, there is often such a phenomenon: the same class, the same teacher, but the children are very different.
Some children are well-organized, knowledgeable, self-disciplined; And some are rambling, procrastinating, not inferior in their speech, and their studies are worrying.
Why is this so?
A thought-provoking quote from an education expert:
"The competition between children in the same class, in the final analysis, is a competition between parents in terms of comprehensive quality and hard work."
Perhaps, there are differences in children's talents, but the parents' dedication to companionship, careful discipline and leading by example are the stepping stones for children's growth.
Parents are "diligent", children have good habits
On the first day of the holiday, my sister-in-law called and cried that my little niece had made a mess in the recent monthly exam, and the reason was that the test paper had not been completed.
The sister-in-law was angry and aggrieved, and said that she would send the child so that I could enlighten her well.
This is not surprising at all.
The younger brother and sister-in-law were usually busy with business, and the niece was taken care of by the grandparents in her hometown since she was a child, and when she reached school age and considered education, they took the children to the city.
Business is busy during the day, and when they come back at night, they are physically and mentally exhausted, just want to brush their mobile phones, and have no intention of disciplining their children, and their little niece slowly develops the habit of writing homework and inattention.
As soon as you write homework, either bite a pencil or poke an eraser, or squat in a chair, put your shirt on your lap, try to write homework while watching TV, and 10 calculation problems can be done all morning.
My little niece is in fourth grade, but she often stays up until 11 p.m. for homework.
It's just a matter of rubbing in normal times, but now even exams are like this.
The head teacher found the parents and said helplessly: "Maybe the child has not cultivated good habits since childhood, and the parents have spent too little thought." ”
Source: Panorama Vision
Childhood is the initial stage of a person and a critical period for habit formation.
A psychologist in Japan once did a survey and found that students' scores on study habits did not increase with age and grade.
In other words, whether a child's good habits can be developed depends on the early years, and it is more difficult to cultivate and correct them when they grow up.
The child is still young, the habit has not yet been set, at this time parents are busy and tired, please also get up the spirit, put down the mobile phone, spend time with the child, and patiently teach the child to develop good habits.
Only by accumulating efforts can parents achieve a bright future for their children.
Mr. Barkin said that the successful education of children begins with the cultivation of good habits.
Good habits are like foundations, bringing children self-confidence and sunshine, igniting their passion and love for life, and helping children walk more firmly and steadily.
Parents are "stricter", children are of good character
A 9-year-old boy in Chongqing, Hanghang, was obsessed with an online game and stole 2,000 yuan from his grandmother to buy game equipment.
When the mother found out, she was greatly annoyed and punished her son to go out to pick up waste to "pay off the debt".
That National Day holiday, Hanghang was canceled with entertainment and leisure arrangements, and could only wear gloves to pick up waste.
Hang Hang said while wiping his sweat: "(Picking up waste) is very tired, I earned more than 100 yuan in the morning, and I won't do any entertainment activities until I pay it off." ”
When the child makes mistakes, the mother does not turn a blind eye and does not have a stick education, but let the child bear the consequences in making up for the mistake, so that the child realizes that some mistakes will affect character if they are not corrected, and some mistakes have a price.
Source: Panorama Vision
The "strictness" of parents is not harshness, let alone scolding, but love and squareness, strict and measured.
It doesn't matter if children make mistakes, what matters is that parents correct them in time, especially in character education.
Children have no rules, parents must guide them, have a sense of boundaries, in order to respect others and protect themselves;
Children do not know how to be friendly, parents should warn their children, have good intentions, in order to meet a good road;
Children lie and steal, parents should teach strictly, only if words and deeds are appropriate and reverence, can they embark on a smooth path in life.
Yu Minhong once said: "Cultivating a child is like planting a tree, only by nourishing him on the roots first, and then irrigating him with the nourishment of morality, can the child grow lush and closer to the sun." ”
Parents are their children's first teachers and can teach their children to tell the first lie, as well as to be honest people.
The hand of parents shaking the cradle is also the hand that pushes the world of children.
Only by strictly grasping children's character education can we push children to a farther and better future.
Parents "fight a little", and the child has excellent grades
The National Survey Report on Family Education (2018) shows that "parents" ranked first when surveying the role models most revered by primary and secondary school students.
Parents are the people their children trust the most, and the present of parents may be the future of their children.
If the parents are good, the children will be fraternity; Parents are diligent, and children will work hard.
The 49-year-old father of Henan Zhu attracted the envy of countless netizens because he passed the national judicial examination by self-study.
It turned out that in order to have a common chat topic with his daughter who majored in law, Zhu's father used his commute time and weekend time to actively prepare for the exam, watch videos, brush questions, and memorize the test center, which lasted 8 months and finally passed the exam successfully.
Not only Zhu's father is excellent and self-disciplined, but the child's mother is also motivated, and she has won the CPA (Certified Public Accountant) certificate across the computer major.
Father Zhu and Mother Zhu are both zero-based, but they have no hesitation, thinking of fighting a little more, working harder, catching up with their daughter's footsteps, and moving forward side by side together.
Source: Panorama Vision
Motivated parents gave birth to equally excellent daughters.
Her daughter Zhu Linxiao won many national scholarships in school and was dismissed from studying for a master's degree in law at Peking University.
Seeing their parents' excellent "report cards", children feel the weight of growth and honor, see their parents' efforts and difficulties in preparing for the exam, and children also learn self-discipline and persistence.
Leo Tolstoy said: "All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine thousandths, comes down to example, to the integrity and perfection of the parents' own lives." ”
Just imagine, you are immersed in the drama, how can the child study attentively? You are at the mahjong table, how can the child focus on the desk?
Parents' words and deeds, ways of dealing with the world and three views will be passed on to their children silently.
Educating children, parental anxiety and persecution are not as effective as personal demonstration.
Only when parents are not hurried and practice can their children achieve a brilliant life in the clouds and breeze.
Raising children is also a self-practice.
If you do it yourself, the child will naturally not be bad.
American educator Tayman Johnson once said: "Successful tutoring creates successful children; Failed tutors make failed children. ”
The gap between children is, in the final analysis, the gap in family education.
Parents work hard and accompany more, so that the child will be calm and focused, and flowers will bloom all the way;
Parents are strict discipline and do not indulge, so that children will be elegant and noble, and born into the sun;
Parents always discipline themselves and strive for improvement, so that children will be determined in their hearts and move forward.
Only parents who value education are wise parents.
No matter what your education or level, leading children on the right path of growth is the ultimate mission of parents!