【Preface】
Gao Xiumin can be described as a well-known and well-known comedian in the mainland.
She has appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala 9 times, and has become a well-known "Northeast Iron Triangle" combination with Zhao Benshan and Fan Wei, which is sought after and loved by thousands of audiences.
She is a glamorous big star on the stage, but her private love life has always been criticized.
Gao Xiumin has lived with her husband He Qingkui for 14 years, and he has been in and out of love on major occasions.
Surprisingly, Gao Xiumin was forgiven by He Qingkui's wife in the end, why is this?
Gao Xiumin He Qingkui
Confidant
In 1974, 15-year-old Gao Xiumin graduated from junior high school and joined the duo performance team in his hometown in order to make a living.
She was beautiful and had a bright voice, and soon became famous in her hometown of Songyuan City, Jilin Province.
At that time, He Qingkui was just a fisherman on the Songhua River, his whole body was thin and weak, and he could not do farm work.
He Qingkui's father was originally an "old man", and he was used to spoiling his son, so he begged the head of the village troupe to let He Qingkui perform in the troupe, who expected He Qingkui to be in the troupe, but he discovered his creative talent crookedly.
During the performance of various troupes, Gao Xiumin and He Qingkui met each other, but they were not familiar at the time.
An actor, a screenwriter, there is not much communication between the two.
Gao Xiumin in his youth
A few years later, Gao Xiumin, who served on the city's refinery publicity team, made an important decision.
However, she decided to quit the propaganda team and apply for the local formal literary and artistic group to develop her career better.
Unexpectedly, Gao Xiumin was actually selected because she was too thin at that time.
I don't know if it was a blessing in disguise, but Li Yunqi, a handsome employee of the county cultural center, liked her and launched a passionate pursuit of her.
The relationship between the two developed very smoothly and soon entered the palace of marriage, and then their daughter Li Xuan was also born in the world, and Gao Xiumin temporarily focused on the family.
He Qingkui, who is engaged in creation in the troupe here, is a double happiness, first creating the work "Two Clerks" published and awarded, and then married Zhang Yanru, a young man from the countryside, and started a family.
The lives of Gao Xiumin and He Qingkui are two one-way streets, and it seems that they will never intersect.
However, fate always likes to arrange bloody plots.
Gao Xiumin wedding photo
In 1982, Gao Xiumin was admitted to the Buyeo Civic Art Troupe with a song "Xiujin Plaque".
At that time, she had already won the love and support of a large number of audiences in Buyeo City, known as "Little Guo Lanying", and within a few years, she became the deputy director of the Buyeo Civic Art Troupe.
Just when her career was booming, a chance outing made her meet He Qingkui again.
It was winter, and He Qingkui was wearing a torn cotton jacket on the side of the vegetable stall to sell vegetables, his hands were cold and red, as if he had lost the spirit of creating in the troupe in the past.
It turned out that after getting married, He Qingkui lacked Bole appreciation, and he did not write a famous script, so he had to follow his wife back to his hometown to sell vegetables.
Gao Xiumin knew He Qingkui's creative talent, and she couldn't bear to see her old friend so disappointed and said:
"Brother He, you are so talented, write a book for our troupe, and the book can be rewarded with 200 yuan."
At first, He Qingkui did not pay attention to what Gao Xiumin said, feeling that he was not confused and poor for half his life, and he must not be a material that could be done.
But when Gao Xiumin came to buy vegetables, he said too much, and he once again inspired his confidence in creation.
In 1989, He Qingkui took the script of his drama "Who Marries Whom" to the Buyeo Civic Art Troupe.
As a result, the opinion given by the art troupe was still rejected, which made He Qingkui, who was only holding on to a glimmer of hope, fall into complete despair again.
Who knew that at this time, Gao Xiumin got the script of "Who Marries Whom" and said in front of all the leaders of the art troupe:
"This book is very good, and it will definitely be popular after the performance."
At this time, a colleague of the art troupe said: "What can you do if you are not a famous screenwriter?" ”
Who expected Gao Xiumin to say categorically: "I will personally play this script." ”
Under the strong discussion of Gao Xiumin, the book "Who Marries Whom" was finally adopted and retained.
As Gao Xiumin predicted, this book was very popular after the performance, and won the first prize of the provincial literary and art show that year.
As a result, He Qingkui was also hired by the neighboring Dongliao County Cultural Bureau to work as a screenwriter in the drama creation studio, and at the same time had a stable income.
At that time, He Qingkui was full of gratitude to Gao Xiumin because of the script, and the two often created and rehearsed together, and the number of collaborations was increasing.
With the passage of time, the relationship between the two gradually changed.
Although He Qingkui is 12 years older than Gao Xiumin, Gao Xiumin values his talent and pays an obsession with him, and the two have changed from simple confidants to ambiguous romance.
However, they are already married, where should this disgraceful relationship go?
Discrete marriages
Although Gao Xiumin and He Qingkui secretly had feelings for each other, although they had never been broken, rumors had already come out.
At that time, Gao Xiumin had to film and sing, and she and her husband were in a state of gathering less and leaving more for a long time, and the husband and wife always quarreled, and these rumors became the last straw that crushed this marriage.
In 1991, Gao Xiumin divorced her husband and chose to live alone with her daughter.
A year later, Gao Xiumin participated in the Shenzhen sketch competition with He Qingkui's sketch "Baggage", won the gold medal in one fell swoop, and won the ticket to the Spring Festival Gala.
After that, He Qingkui, who could not suppress his inner love, chose to confess to Gao Xiumin, and the two talked about love inappropriately.
In order to avoid rumors, Gao Xiumin decisively resigned and became an individual actor, and He Qingkui also chose to follow Gao Xiumin.
More importantly, He Qingkui wants to divorce Zhang Yanru.
He Qingkui
When He Qingkui confessed that he was in love with Gao Xiumin and wanted to divorce him, Zhang Yanru instantly shed tears.
I want to choose to marry He Qingkui back then, not to seek fame or profit, but to have a stable family, so even if she accompanies her husband to rent a house and sell vegetables, she has no regrets.
For so many years, she has supported He Qingkui's creative dream, taking care of the whole family with her own strength, raising her two sons and daughters, but now she has been ruthlessly abandoned by her husband.
Zhang Yanru remembered that when she was newly married, He Qingkui said to herself: "In the future, I will succeed and I will definitely take you to live a good life." ”
But what she didn't expect was that her husband, who is now a little successful, wants to marry another woman and start a family.
She couldn't accept the divorce from her husband, so she just touched a handful of tears and said forcefully:
"Whatever you do outside, I won't divorce you."
In the face of his wife's tough attitude, He Qingkui, who knew that he was at a loss, chose to leave home and moved to Gao Xiumin to start living with her.
Gao Xiumin did not say anything about this, and thus became a family with a husband with a wife.
With the help of He Qingkui, a screenwriter genius, Gao Xiumin's career development can be described as smooth sailing.
She appeared on the stage of the Spring Festival Gala in 1994, and then through He Qingkui's matchmaking, she was able to form a sketch partner with Zhao Benshan and Fan Wei, and since then she has opened a golden period of her career.
From 1997 to 2004, scripts such as "New Year Greetings", "Selling Abduction" and "Selling Cars" created by He Qingkui became classic sketches of the Spring Festival Gala through the interpretation of Zhao Benshan, Fan Wei and Gao Xiumin, and were loved by the people of the country.
At that time, the three of them were known as the "Northeast Iron Triangle" by the public, and they were a mess in the country.
At that time, the two were busy every day, and He Qingkui never cared about the situation at home.
Once, Gao Xiumin followed He Qingkui home to pick up things, and met Zhang Yanru so openly, without any sense of weakness.
In the face of Gao Xiumin's arrival, Zhang Yanru and the children showed obvious hostility.
However, the poverty of He Qingkui's family really made Gao Xiu sensitive to sadness, and then she left Zhang Yanru a lot of money, and bought a lot of necessities that the family could use, and left without saying anything.
After getting paid for each performance, Gao Xiumin told He Qingkui not to forget to send money to Zhang Yanru and the child.
Perhaps feeling that their marriage had really come to an end, Zhang Yanru called He Qingkui after that and informed him to come back for divorce procedures.
Who knows, He Qingkui at this time was unwilling, he cried and hugged Zhang Yanru's thigh and said:
"You have suffered so much with me, I have not been able to give you anything, I can't even take away marriage! I will never divorce you. ”
For He Qingkui, Gao Xiumin is his Bole, the woman who has led him step by step to success.
The two of them write and act one by one, and they seem to be extremely matched.
However, Zhang Yanru is his original wife, and now that he is in sight to become famous, he turns around and abandons his wife with a bad chaff, and he is unwilling to bear such a name.
He Qingkui's high-sounding reason directly deceived Gao Xiumin and Zhang Yanru to soften, and no one could say anything.
Later, these three people seem to acquiesce to such a chaotic relationship with each other.
Gao Xiumin and He Qingkui officially appeared in front of people as partners, and when introducing each other, they would also affectionately say "this is my lover".
As for Zhang Yanru, she did not divorce He Qingkui, accepted He Qingkui's living expenses every month, and then moved to Guangzhou with her children in order to be clean.
Gao Xiumin also cares about the situation of Zhang Yanru and He Qingkui's children from time to time, and will do her best to help where she can.
The two sons of Zhang Yanru and He Qingkui are inseparable from the help of Gao Xiumin to become actors.
They thought that they would spend the rest of their lives like this, and no one thought about thinking about anything more.
But the gears of fate soon began to turn wildly, and the peaceful life made waves again.
Heaven and man are forever
In 2004, Gao Xiumin and Zhao Benshan completely broke up over the issue of interests, and the Northeast Iron Triangle combination immediately fell apart.
He Qingkui was originally a partner who had cooperated with Zhao Benshan for many years, but for Gao Xiumin, he also left Zhao Benshan Group.
After that, the two used their savings to start investing in dramas on their own, He Qingkui did the previous screenwriting work as usual, and Gao Xiumin served as the heroine in the play, and the rural light comedy "Shengshui Lakeside" created by the two was a great success.
However, just as the two began to prepare for the filming of the second part of "Holy Water Lakeside", a sudden bad news came that disrupted their plans.
Zhang Yanru called He Qingkui and cried and said that her eldest son He Shuchun died in a sudden car accident.
At that time, He Qingkui was nearly 60 years old, how could he withstand the blow of the white-haired person sending the black-haired person, overnight, the whole person was much older.
After learning about this, Gao Xiumin quickly put down all the work at hand and asked He Qingkui to rush to Guangzhou as soon as possible.
In fact, Gao Xiumin herself suffers from diseases, and the obese image maintained for her acting career often makes her breathless.
Before going to Guangzhou, He Qingkui specially told Gao Xiumin not to forget to take medicine, and Gao Xiumin only said that he was relieved and that it was important to deal with his son's aftermath, and then sent him out.
He Qingkui would never have thought that that time was the last time he and Gao Xiumin met.
Just ten days after He Shuchun's death, Gao Xiumin suffered a sudden myocardial infarction on the evening of August 18.
At that time, Gao Xiumin was alone in the room, and she could not call for help in time, and finally she was found suffocating and dead.
When He Qingkui, who was in Guangzhou at the time, heard the news, his whole body trembled, his brain was blank, and he only felt one wave after another of dizziness.
The loss of two loved ones in just ten days is an unbearable blow for anyone.
After dealing with his son's aftermath, He Qingkui had to rush back to arrange Gao Xiumin's aftermath, and he looked more and more haggard at the funeral, and Gao Xiumin's daughter Li Xuan was also very sad at the funeral.
The sad news of Gao Xiumin's sudden death shocked the entire comedy circle at that time.
Many actors and friends rushed to the funeral to mourn, and even Zhao Benshan, who cut off contact with Gao Xiumin and completely broke up, finally rushed to the funeral scene overnight, and cried out sadly before entering the door: "Sister, brother is late!" ”
The most surprising thing about this funeral was that Zhang Yanru brought the children to the funeral site of Gao Xiumin.
In addition, she also generously arranged for her second son to wear linen and filial piety for Gao Xiumin, and completed Gao Xiumin's funeral properly.
Although Zhang Yanru and Gao Xiumin have been rivals in this life, Zhang Yanru knows that Gao Xiumin is not bad in nature.
Thinking of these good, Zhang Yanru was willing to forgive her in the end and give her the last decency.
After Gao Xiumin's death, Zhao Benshan took the initiative to ease his previous grievances and invited He Qingkui to return to his group to work.
Saying that it is work, in fact, it is also why Qingkui solves the problem of livelihood and helps him retire.
Therefore, He Qingkui also put aside the previous grudge between Gao Xiumin and Zhao Benshan and chose to cooperate with Zhao Benshan again.
At the same time, He Qingkui, who was already old, returned to his wife Zhang Yanru and lived a comfortable retirement life.
All the grievances between these people seem to have disappeared with the death of Gao Xiumin.
The sun rises as usual, and the days go on, but everyone can't help but sigh when they recall the past.
Looking back at the relationship between Gao Xiumin, He Qingkui and Zhang Yanru, who can be regarded as the real winner?
It seems that no one has lost, but no one has won.
Zhang Yanru endured the poverty of life and He Qingkui did not abandon her, but in the end she was abandoned.
Gao Xiumin was willing to be a Bole and held He Qingkui in one hand, but he had no name until death.
He Qingkui seems to have enjoyed the fame and love brought to him by two women, but how can he not be whipped by the morality in his heart, and how dare he say that he is an upright man who is responsible for feelings?
Today, he still goes to Chagan Lake from time to time to fish, as he did in his twenties, and when fishing, he always has a lot of free time for him to float on the river and look back on the past.
I really don't know if he has a trace of guilt for his past feelings when he looks at the sunset on the river?
Zhao Benshan once had such a classic line in a sketch:
"People are like flowers in a pot, and life is a mess. No matter how well the house is repaired, it is a temporary residence, and the small box is your permanent home. ”
This sentence seems to be nothing more than a joke, and it is very appropriate to put it on a few people in the text.
Life's grievances and entanglements will always end because of the end of life.
There is a lot of noise in the world, but it is just a dream, and it is empty in an instant.
Everyone will eventually learn a word called "let go."
But true letting go always comes from the purity and stability of the heart, and the sincerity and openness of the past life.
No matter when, we must keep the moral bottom line of doing things, and do not end up living in boundless regret.