#我在头条搞创作第二期 #
Author: Insight Ciyu
Making a living is big, becoming strong is big, and only face is small.
Meet a senior in the advertising industry who shared one thing.
His company made a brand video idea for a shoe company in Jinjiang.
Because of the tight deadline, the seniors let the two employees A and B, who were quite optimistic, work together on the project.
A few days later, the two men made a plan to come out.
But before he could finish reading it, the senior angrily criticized them.
Because they put one of the schematics as a competitor of the customer; Mistake the product concept that the customer emphasizes to be highlighted... Porous.
The seniors picked out the faults one by one, but because the more they talked, the more annoyed they became, and the tone couldn't help but change their tone.
A calmly accepted the opinion, responded, and waited for us to change it immediately.
However, B felt that the words of his predecessors had gone too far, and while making excuses for various mistakes, he could not help but shed tears.
This cry of hers overwhelmed the seniors, who in turn softly comforted her.
Later, when the seniors faced Employee A, they were unceremoniously blunt about the problem, and A also accepted the criticism every time and did not delay at all.
But for employee B, he can only try to be euphemistic, taking into account her glass heart, afraid that halfway through the project, she will not do it.
Over time, A has been favored because of his stable mentality and ability to work for thousands of miles.
Remembering a quote from Jobs, working with great people doesn't have to care too much about their self-esteem.
In fact, for the real strong, they will never take "face" seriously.
01
The Book of the Later Han Dynasty records such a story.
Once, the Guangwu Emperor Liu Xiu went out hunting and did not return to the city until late at night, violating the rules.
The small official guarding the northeast gate of Luoyang City refused to open the door.
Liu Xiu had no choice but to take a detour to enter the city through other city gates.
The next day, before Liu Xiu could find trouble, Zhi Yun came to the door himself and criticized Liu Xiu's behavior.
Liu Xiu humbly accepted the criticism and gave Zhi Yun a hundred horses of cloth as encouragement.
Another time, Liu Xiu feasted on the courtiers, the great Sikong Song Hong, found that the newly added screens in the palace were all painted with beautiful ladies, and Liu Xiu looked back absently from time to time.
So Song Hong deliberately said, "I have not seen a person with good virtue like a lustful person." ”
This is tantamount to ridiculing Liu Xiu's lustfulness in person.
People with a big temper are expected to have a seizure on the spot, not to mention the dignity of the emperor.
The courtiers in the hall stared wide-eyed and did not dare to make a sound.
Who knew that Liu Xiu was not angry, but gladly listened to the advice, ordered the left and right to remove the screen immediately, and smiled and said to Song Hong: "If you hear righteousness, you will obey, can you?" ”
Song Hong replied, "Your Majesty is in good spirits, and the subject is overjoyed." ”
Truly mature and transparent people will never be discouraged by losing a few thin surfaces.
A generation of empress Wu Zetian, who values her own face, can also laugh at those who scold her.
Luo Binwang, who is known as one of the "Four Masters of the Early Tang Dynasty," followed Xu Jingye in rebellion and was the backbone of the "rebellion."
He wrote "Asking for Wu Zetian", which listed Wu Zetian's crimes and scolded Wu Zetian with a bloody head.
Not only did Wu Zetian not get angry, but even praised Luo Binwang's literary talent.
She also blamed the prime minister: "This person has such talent, and it is the fault of the prime minister to keep it uneven." ”
The higher the level, the more people can withstand the frustration of one thing and endure a moment of ridicule.
They don't care about the stray arrows coming from the outside, they only care about what they need.
02
I have seen a very vivid picture.
If a person cares too much about self-esteem, self-esteem will become a roadblock and a stumbling block on the road of life.
The Japanese writer Junichi Watanabe once knew a very talented writer.
The writer has long been in the literary world, and the published novels have caused a small sensation, and the future can be expected.
But because of an ordinary retraction experience, his self-esteem was frustrated, and he has been devastated ever since.
Junichi Watanabe called to comfort him and said that he didn't have to care about this. He was just feebly perfunctory.
Junichi Watanabe visited him at his residence, and he just scratched his head and sighed, completely losing the desire to create.
A few years later, the writer disappeared completely from the literary scene.
Lu Xun mentioned a point in "Speaking of Face":
"Face is the program of the Chinese spirit, just like the long braid of the late Qing Dynasty, as long as you pull the braid, the human body will follow you completely."
Caring too much about the face is equivalent to letting others hold the whip and putting a shackle on yourself.
03
There is a line in the Korean drama "Please Answer 1988":
"People really become stronger not because they guard their self-esteem, but because they put aside their self-esteem."
The famous director Takeshi Kitano is known as the new emperor of Japanese cinema, but his early experience was very bumpy.
Before he became famous, Takeshi Kitano made a living by speaking manga (a form of performance similar to cross-talk).
Due to his lack of fame, he could only receive a job performing at a strip club.
For many actors, performing on such occasions is a shame.
But Takeshi Kitano cherished the opportunity, and no matter how mocked and despised the audience, he always insisted on performing until the end.
In the hard work of performance, his acting talent was gradually recognized by more and more people, and finally went to a bigger stage.
The French writer Youssenar said that there is nothing in the dirty world than self-esteem.
When a person knows how to abandon excess self-esteem, he can push open the door to growth.
When I was in high school, there was a freshman in the class, who came from a backward mountain area and had a mess of spoken English.
The English teacher even joked, "Your English is estimated to be self-created, no one can understand it, only you can understand it." ”
The whole class laughed, but he didn't think so, and every day after class, he went into the office and asked the teacher for various questions.
As a result, his spoken language also improved by leaps and bounds, and after graduating from university, he went to work as a translator for a Taiwan company.
Because Chinese and English are translated into each other, it is not the same thing as reading it in black and white.
Therefore, when accompanying the leader to discuss the project, there were several jokes, and the blue-faced leader said a very hurtful sentence: "As far as your translation level is concerned, I am not worthy of the salary I gave you." ”
Being hit like this, changing it to someone else, maybe just slapping the table and leaving.
But he did not pay any attention to it, immersed himself in learning translation skills and finally the leader was impressed by him.
In this society, it is common to fall and plant pits, and it is not uncommon to be slandered and ridiculed.
If you always think that face is greater than the sky, you can only be crushed to the bottom by fate.
Only by holding up the heart and practicing thickness of the face can we open the way to the mountains and go far away.
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Li Ao once said a passage:
"When you meet a beautiful girl, many people are embarrassed to chase, afraid that people will refuse to have no face, then it proves that face is more important than this girl, then you deserve to miss it." 」
In the same way, if you regard the so-called self-esteem and face as more important than work and growth, then you can only stop.
In this life, people have a big livelihood and become strong, but their face is small.
Give it a thumbs up and encourage your friends.