The world seems to be like this, crying children have sugar to eat, and to understand things is to suffer more suffering.
But if they could, they wouldn't have wanted to be so sensible.
In the recent hit "In the Great Examination", Tian Wenwen is such a child who understands things in the eyes of her parents and parents, but she has never asked her if she wants to be so sensible.
After seeing it, my empathy point is the same as everyone should be:
Why is it always the child who seems to know the most that endures the most?
Why do parents of second-child families give the most love to their youngest child?
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Because of the poor living conditions, her parents have been working outside the home for many years, and they will come back two or three times a year, leaving her and her grandmother to rely on each other.
Become what we all call "left-behind children".
But she is only a child, but at the age of being a child, she learned to be strong, and when she comes home at night and is followed by the dark shadow, she will be afraid, but when she picks up the phone, she still reports good news and does not report worry.
Dad and sister on the other end of the phone had fun, only she herself guarded the cold home, she wanted this, she didn't want to, but she knew that far water could not solve the near fire.
She was afraid to find a symbol marked by a thief at the door, but she could only ask her neighbors for help when she clearly needed the protection of her parents.
Because she knew that even if her parents knew about it, they would not come back to accompany her.
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Even if she is sick and has a high fever, she can only seek help from the teacher, who hurts her, but she still wants to comfort the teacher.
New Year's Eve to the interval. The mother and sister who are away from the middle school deliver meals, the father is having dinner with the workers, the mother is eating with the sister, Tian Wenwen carries the lunch box and walks alone on the Chinese New Year's Eve, but also comforts the parents, "The family of four is safe and sound, and everywhere is the gathering."
In the face of heavy high school preparations, in the face of big and small things in life, her independence is always so painful.
However, when the father's infection was confirmed and the father called her to hide the matter from his wife, perhaps in the eyes of the father, she was already a girl who could be alone, but he forgot that it was a daughter, but also a child, sometimes very fragile, and also needed someone to hurt.
Because the eldest daughter has lived independently, it is reasonable to feel that she is stronger, but as a child who is about to take the college entrance examination, she really should not bear this.
After her father was infected, she hid it from her mother, and her mother blamed her for being too alone and not telling her anything!
Tian Wenwen is lonely and independent, but her mother does not understand, her independence and understanding are forced.
Her mother said, "You've always been the most sensible. ”
So people who have always been sensible will occasionally be said if they don't understand things?
Tian Wenwen said: "What I hate most is to be sensible." I also hate these two words the most, especially very annoying.
The results of the joint examination came down, Tian Wenwen scored 520 points, Tian Wenwen was in a low mood, but although her mother was at home, she did not care about her grades and mood, even if it was a question.
Hearing the frolicking sound of her mother and sister, at this moment, Tian Wenwen's resentment and grievances accumulated for many years suddenly broke out.
In fact, this is not accidental and inevitable, because she seems to be strong in heart, but in fact, she is still a sensitive and loveless child.
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My solitude is a lonely solitude, an independent independence.
But she didn't want that, because when her parents were young, they couldn't afford to take themselves with them, and they came back to see them two or three times a year, leaving her and her grandmother to live together.
But they have the ability, not the first time to take her to the side, but when they have the ability, they have a sister, and they can take the sister with them.
I had worked very hard to convince myself not to be jealous of her because she was my sister.
Throw stones to ask for directions, I am a dew roadstone, throwing bricks to lead jade, I am that brick.
Every sentence makes people feel painful, and every sentence makes people break the defense.
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These words also touched me the most, because I was born in a patriarchal family.
Because I'm a girl, what I hear the most is:
"You can't let your brother do it, he's still so young."
"What your brother buys, you want, can you understand something?"
"What kind of college girls go to, it is better to go out to work early."
"Anyway, there is nothing to do at home during winter and summer vacations, go to work with XXX in the village"
Since they were young, they felt that girls were useless, so they ate and put on the lack of me, did not provide education, emotionally indifferent to me, and even wantonly hurt me.
But when I grew up, when I finally could escape from this life one day, they began to constantly ask me for "returns", all kinds of moral kidnapping and oppression.
If you save more money, it is up to you whether your brother can scrape together enough money for the bride price."
But I especially want to ask, "You don't love me, why did you give birth to me?" ”
And the only thing I can do now is stay away.
Away from the people in life who make my emotions out of control, whether it is this person Mom and Dad, or girlfriend friends...
However, for such a "parental eccentricity" problem, parents seem to find a suitable solution.
After all, children are of different ages, genders, and need to take care of nature, and it is difficult to want a bowl of water to be flat...
But I still hope that parents can try to care about the psychological changes of their children, give some care to the neglected child, and remind them that they are being watched and not forgotten.
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Many times, adults think that children are small and do not understand, but in fact, you have emotions, they also have, even more delicate and sensitive than you.
Because children don't lie to themselves, their joys and sorrows are hard to hide.
Please listen to their voices with your heart:
Ye~: When I was young, my father probably didn't hurt, my mother didn't love it, in order to have a brother, our family was particularly patriarchal, I was thrown at my grandmother's house since I was a child, once it snowed a lot, they went again, I followed and ran outside, to chase them, and ended up falling into the snow pit.
Circle circle: Originally life was not bad, with a brother to protect, parents to spoil. But since I had a little sister, my life has plummeted, often bullied by my sister, robbing me of things, bumping is my fault, always from time to time back the pot is scolded.
Hello sir: There is an annoying little sister in the family, who really can't afford to provoke, cries at every turn, and says that I recruited her, and every time I was scolded.
Anonymous: I have always been afraid that my father will not want me, but I have suffered the greatest grievance. I didn't feel safe, and my dad didn't give me a sense of security.
I often wonder, is it the most sensible one that parents in the world don't hurt?
That's why they are ignored again and again by their families.
But sensible children can comfort others, and they cannot redeem themselves!