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If you don't watch the first three episodes of "Know It or Not", you can't feel how deepLy Minglan hates Lin Wanshuang.
Minglan's biological mother, Wei Xiaoniang, was framed by Lin Tuoshuang to give birth, lying on the bed again and again, and did not see the child moving.
The stable woman took advantage of the boiling water kung fu to slip away, leaving two inexperienced female envoys to take care of. Wei Xiaoniang was thirsty and wanted to drink some water after exerting herself, but she couldn't pour a drop of water out of the kettle.
Eight-year-old Minglan ran east and west in the vast Sheng Mansion, one would go out to find water, one would go to the kitchen to find Mama, one would climb the dog hole to go out to find Lang Zhong, she was anxious, flustered, helpless, no one could understand.
Watching her mother swallow a little in front of her, she could do nothing but cry, and this pain of losing her mother was perhaps only understood by Gu Tingye, who had experienced it.
Therefore, later, Minglan grew up and set up a bureau to lure Lin Yanshuang and Mo Lan into the circle, in order to seek justice for his late mother.
Mr. Yang Dai once said: In the most difficult times, don't think too far into the future, just encourage yourself to live today.
After Minglan lost her mother, how did she survive those difficult days?
01. Not all pain can be erased by time
Sheng Xuan rose high, the family moved to Beijing, Minglan sat stupidly on the bow of the boat, looking at the billowing river, crying heartbreaking.
The grandmother took her in her arms and choked up and said, "We know that someone hurts." ”
I don't know how many people cry in this scene, not to mention that an eight-year-old child bears such a heavy price in life, that is, it is difficult for adults to slow down when they encounter the death of their loved ones.
Once, in the world of Minglan, the mother was everything to her. She dared to take the lead and win back the dowry for Hua Lan because there was a mother behind her, and someone was carrying it.
At that time, Minglan lived a carefree life, and he did not understand the sinister nature of people's hearts. She thought that there was a lack of food and clothing in the house, and she just had to talk to her father.
But she didn't know how difficult it was for an unfavored concubine to make a living in a large mansion, but if she was found to be competing for favors, she would inevitably be framed.
Wei Xiaoniang's death made Minglan fall into self-doubt. She couldn't help but ask herself if Old Father Sheng had ever loved the little girl? Have you really hurt yourself? Will Old Father Sheng remember the appearance of the little bride?
She had no solution to these questions, but she stayed in her heart for many years, until when she grew up, she knelt in front of the ancestral hall and asked Father Sheng again: "Do you remember what my little lady looked like?" ”
After Old Father Sheng's perfunctory answer made Minglan completely chill, she really saw that her father, who had been respected since childhood, was such an incompetent person. Later, she went out on her own to avenge her mother's hatred.
However, not all pain can be crossed. Maybe time will dilute the pain, but once touched, the wound will be torn again.
Just like many years later, Mo Lan wanted to take Lin Yanshuang's tablet to the Sanqing Temple, touching Minglan's bereavement again, forcing her and her sisters to almost turn against each other.
Because of the death of her mother, she not only lost her life dependence, but also lost her spiritual support. The saddest days can only be survived by one person. Although she had also longed for her father's love and attention, she did not wait.
Later, Minglan and the two sisters were punished by Grandma Kong and beaten, sheng lao dad remembered to care about Minglan, but without saying two words, he was called away again, Minglan held his palm, tears swirled in her eyes, she only said one sentence: "Don't worry, when I need him, it has passed." ”
Once, she was a naïve little girl, and her daily wish was that her father could come to the house to see the little girl more, have a good meal with the little girl, chat for a day, and be as warm as an ordinary family.
But Minglan did not wait for his father's attention and love, because Sheng Laopa gave all the warmth and tenderness to Lin Yanshuang and Mo Lan, so that Minglan's waiting became empty, and his wishes became disappointment.
Fortunately, her grandmother adopted Minglan and gave her careful teaching and care, so that her heart grew towards the sun and lived as a woman like the sun.
Even without her father's dependence, she could grow up strong and independent.
Some people say: A person must have light in his heart in order to support himself to live.
The light could be a belief, it could be a person, it could be an object, and as long as the light is there, the hope is there.
And the most difficult time to support Minglan to survive that period was her mother's exhortation before she died: "Everything is the greatest to live."
Therefore, after her mother's death, no matter how difficult the life was, she silently endured and let the light illuminate the road ahead in her heart. Later, coupled with the careful care of her grandmother, Minglan's life had confidence and hope.
02. Although it is difficult to rely on yourself, it is the only way to grow
After losing her mother, Minglan lived with her grandmother.
Although he had the protection of his grandmother, Minglan did not dare to act arbitrarily.
She knew that her grandmother was not Sheng Lao's biological mother, and many things were inconvenient to come forward, let alone have no position to say. Therefore, every time Rulan and Molan quarreled, Minglan hid far away, for fear of causing unnecessary trouble.
Even the wolf pen sent by the little grandfather, Minglan did not dare to hide it privately, and took it out and distributed it to Rulan and Molan. Only in this way can Minglan survive in the back of the Sheng family.
Even if the grandmother hurt Minglan and wanted her to learn more things, she did not dare to hurt her openly, and she had to turn around and play the banner of being good for Rulan before inviting Grandma Kong to teach.
In order for Minglan not to attract the jealousy of the other sisters, the grandmother could only teach some inconspicuous skills, such as riding horses, throwing pots, and fishing. But elegant skills like flower arrangement, tea tasting, and incense burning can only make Grandma Kong come forward.
Minglan understood her grandmother's difficulties, knew that her grandmother was not only her grandmother, and there were many pairs of eyes staring at her behind her back. To this end, she tried not to bother her grandmother as much as possible.
In order to let Minglan get exercised, her grandmother deliberately won her stewardship. He wanted to arrange for The Right Lady to work as an assistant to Minglan, but Minglan refused her grandmother's help.
It wasn't until the eldest lady and Lin Wanshuang sent a lady that Minglan opened her mouth to ask for someone from her grandmother. Because she did not want her grandmother and eldest lady to destroy the relatively harmonious mother-in-law relationship for such a common woman as her.
The grandmother gave all her love to Minglan, and Minglan was even more unreservedly sincere to her grandmother. They became a tyrant to each other, supporting each other and healing each other.
Later, Minglan found out the truth about the death of Lin Yanshuang's mother that year, and with ironclad evidence, she still did not dare to tell her grandmother, but secretly carried out her own plan.
She did this not because she did not trust her grandmother, but because she was worried that her grandmother was implicated by herself, so she preferred to bear it all herself.
Some people say that growing up is a cruel thing, and you need to bear the good and bad that the world gives you alone.
Once, we thought that the years were quiet, but our parents carried the weight for us.
We can walk smoothly on the road of life, many times because our parents quietly helped us crush the stumbling blocks and remove the thorns in the road ahead.
But they also deprive us of the opportunity to experience, and we only have to jump out of the greenhouse they have built and bravely break out of a new world alone, so that we are qualified to tell them: In the first half of our lives, you carry the weight for us, and in the second half of our lives, we give them years to be quiet.