Wen | high baby
Some time ago, a small friend in the group said that her baby was in the kindergarten class, and his courage was particularly small. During class, the teacher told her to stand up and read from 1 to 10, and she cried with fright. But when everyone read with the children, she was fine.
The little friend asked: Is there any good way to make the baby's courage bigger.
Later, other friends told me the same situation. Today, I will talk to you about this topic.
There are children in each class who are often more comfortable and fluent when reading, memorizing, and answering questions with other students. However, once the teacher names them and asks them to stand up and answer the questions individually, they often behave very nervous, flustered, and even overwhelmed.
There are four main reasons for children's performance: their own personality, family factors, the teacher's attitude, and the mastery of knowledge.
I. My own personality
Some children are naturally outgoing and have a strong desire to perform, and such children will behave calmly in most cases.
And some children are naturally introverted, and they dare not speak loudly or even dare to speak in public, and they will cry when they are anxious.
Second, the family factor
Some parents have too high requirements and expectations for their children, and whenever their children do something wrong, or do not satisfy them, they will complain, ridicule, blame, and even scold those who are impatient.
In addition, there are some parents who always like to compare their children with other people's children. The result of this will make the child become inferior.
In addition, there is a situation that some families are excessively doting and protecting their children, and they like to take care of them no matter how big or small. Such a child loses his independence over time.
Third, the teacher's attitude
Some teachers have a gentle personality, smile during class, and have a special understanding of the psychology of their students. When asking students to answer questions, those children who answer quickly and accurately are always able to give appropriate and sincere affirmations and praise.
And for those students who are "stuck in the shell", they can also give timely and effective reminders to guide children to find answers according to the right ideas.
However, some teachers always have a serious expression in front of their students. In front of such a teacher, whether the student is confident or not, when he is named, he will be cautious, even trembling, for fear of being ridiculed and criticized for answering incorrectly.
In this case, the bold child is still walking on thin ice, and the timid child naturally does not dare to answer the question easily.
Fourth, the mastery of knowledge
Sometimes, children are timid and afraid to answer questions, simply because they do not have a clear and solid grasp of knowledge, and they are not sure whether their answers are correct or not.
Rather than being teased for saying the wrong answer, it is better to "keep your mouth shut."
This is easily overlooked by most teachers and parents.
In all four cases, "timidity" will be shown.
So, what are the countermeasures for "timid" children?
I. My own personality
For children who are naturally introverted, first of all, parents should spend more time with them and give them a sense of security. Secondly, when a family chats and discusses a matter, we must encourage them to participate, and when they speak and express, we must not interrupt or stop them, and we must let them finish their words.
In addition, we must create more opportunities for them to gather with other children, so that they can get used to getting along with more people and dealing with them. And when they perform well, give praise and appropriate rewards in a timely manner.
If possible, they can also be sent to participate in some group activities of recitation and storytelling.
The longer the exercise, the child's courage will increase.
Second, family factors
We must resolutely put an end to the idea that "children are good for other people's families", even if there is such a thought in the heart, you can't say it on your lips.
What's more, other people's good children, it is not blown by the wind, but other people's parents spent a lot of effort to cultivate.
I've written a lot about this in my previous articles, so I won't say more about it today. In short, when the child is doing well, don't skimp on your praise, and don't fake it. When the child does not do well, it is necessary to replace criticism with encouragement.
Remember: if you can't do it yourself, don't ask for children.
Also, cultivate and exercise children's ability to be independent, and do not let them develop the habit of relying on parents for everything.
Third, the teacher's attitude
Whether it is a kindergarten or a school, try to choose a better one for your child. Because, under high-quality conditions, the probability of encountering high-quality teachers will be greater. And meeting a good teacher is a blessing for a child.
In addition, usually, try to maintain appropriate and normal communication with the homeroom teacher. This is especially important for parents of introverted children. Because there are so many children in the class, no matter how dedicated the teacher, not every one of them can pay attention to it.
Impressed children will naturally have more opportunities to speak in class. What's more, children's emotions are also more likely to be noticed, and parents have more opportunities to get feedback.
Also, it's important to help your child fall in love with the teacher.
Fourth, the mastery of knowledge
Many parents, when their children encounter setbacks in the classroom, or are depressed because of unsatisfactory test results, they will not complain and criticize, but tell their children in a loving tone: "It's okay, the next test is better!" Come on! Mom and Dad believe in you! ”
Then, with an exaggerated expression of triumph, I went on my own business.
In fact, they don't know that many times what children need most is not these empty encouragement and comfort. They do not know that many times children lack self-confidence, not because they are timid, but because their knowledge is not strong enough, so they lack self-confidence.
At this time, what you should do is to sit down, open the child's bag, take out his book, and go through the relevant content with him. What you should do is to help and guide your child to consolidate the knowledge that is weak to him.
Finally, I would also like to emphasize that we must encourage and cultivate children's ability to express emotions. Whether happy or sad, nervous or scared, make them accustomed to speaking out.
When children express their inner feelings, we must give them emotional and emotional feedback and support in a timely manner.
The comfort, encouragement and help of parents all the time and unconditionally are the strong backing of the child, the unbreakable armor of the child, and the "guts" of the child.
Thank you for reading.
About the Author:
At the age of 15, he wrote novels,
At the age of 38, he was admitted to the Graduate School of the University of Chinese, Hong Kong, and has 20 years of experience in Chinese education.
She single-handedly trained her daughter to become a Bachelor of Honors from the University of Hong Kong.
The World's Number One Master of Education from the University of London School of Education.
Only one year after graduation, the little girl's annual salary has reached 500,000.
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