Recently, 70-year-old Tan Yonglin posted a set of fitness photos, during the epidemic he especially wore a mask, wearing a white baseball cap, hair is slightly messy, glasses due to exercise to emit heat and a layer of mist, it can be seen that he is very serious about exercise.
It can be seen that the years have really left a very deep shadow on Tan Yonglin, and the public's memory of Tan Yonglin is his love songs that sing in the streets and alleys.
Some people say that Tan Yonglin has everything today depends on his own efforts, but the author feels that if there was no help and companionship of that woman, perhaps there would be no Tan Yonglin today.
And this woman is Tan Yonglin's original wife Yang Jiewei.
Unfortunately, this woman has paid her life for Tan Yonglin, but in exchange for another woman's ascension. Exhausted life's efforts can not be exchanged for Tan Yonglin's love, heartbroken, she finally gave up hundreds of millions of dollars of property, chose to escape into the empty door, and never asked about the world.
And although the woman on the top, Zhu Yongting, gave birth to a son for Tan Yonglin, she was never able to raise her head and be a man, and she carried the insult of "Little Three" all her life.
This may be the only pain Tan Yonglin has in this life, the two women she is most sorry for.
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Gan does the woman behind it
Some people say that when a woman falls in love with a man, it is when she begins to be stupid, and this kind of stupidity is to put her whole life on the man.
Tan Yonglin, who is in his early 20s, has just started his career, but he is just a small singer in the entertainment industry.
At that time, Yang Jiewei was different, a beauty consultant of a cosmetics company, who had studied beauty and was quite clever.
The two are said to have met in a nightclub, and although the occasion is a little inappropriate, it still can't hinder the young couple's mutual affection.
One is the future star of the entertainment industry, the other is the behind-the-scenes staff of the powerful faction, and the two people naturally have a lot of common topic exchanges together.
In this regard, Tan Yonglin admires Yang Jiewei very much, and Yang Jiewei does not look down on this poor boy who is not famous, and his career is unstable, his future is uncertain, and the family population is large and complicated.
After a long period of contact with each other, the outside world has not revealed the story of the two of them.
I only know that from that time on, Yang Jiewei quit her job and went all out to assist Tan Yonglin.
At that time, Tan Yonglin's dress and costumes were all handled by Yang Jiewei.
Because she has her own unique aesthetic vision of stage image and appearance costumes, she later learned dance design, stage choreography, and lighting scheduling, and became an art planner who is full of insiders in performing.
Therefore, since the strong support of Yang Jiewei, Tan Yonglin's career can be said to be smooth sailing and all the way up.
At that time, the public did not make any doubts about Yang Jiewei's identity, thinking that she was just Tan Yonglin's assistant.
In this way, Yang Jiewei has been a woman who pays silently behind Tan Yonglin, without complaint or regret.
It was not until 1993, when Yang Jiewei's father died of illness, and her mother asked for publication, she must write that her son-in-law was Tan Yonglin, and at this time, the relationship between Tan Yonglin and Yang Jiewei was completely exposed.
However, at that time, Tan Yonglin and Zhu Yongting spread a scandal, although the outside world said that they were confidants, but Yang Jiewei understood what was going on.
So much so that after two years of enduring, when her father died of illness, her mother announced the truth for her.
It turned out that in 1981, the 31-year-old Tan Yonglin and Yang Jiewei were secretly registered and married in Las Vegas.
As for why it has not been announced for so many years, I guess I don't know it. At that time, during the critical period of Tan Yonglin's high popularity, if the marriage thing broke out, it was bound to affect the future.
But after the matter was exposed, many people accused Tan Yonglin of spending his heart. However, what the outside world does not know is how much Yang Jiewei paid for Tan Yonglin's hidden marriage for so many years.
From resigning to marrying Tan Yonglin, he not only managed his career with sound and color, but also was tricked by Tan Yonglin into being a "Dink" family.
So much so that Yang Jiewei, who was pregnant several times, had to beat up the child for him.
Originally thought that such a payment would be touched and responded to by Tan Yonglin, but in the end it was lost to a girl who was still in college, Zhu Yongting.
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Forced to be helpless
In 1991, at a fan conference, Tan Yonglin met Zhu Yongting, who was still in college.
The two feel sorry for each other and have many common hobbies. Feelings gradually developed between the two, and at that time, Tan Yonglin knew that he was married, so the two could only be underground lovers.
For the outside world, many people only know that Tan Yonglin has a confidant of the opposite sex. And Yang Jiewei was convinced and never doubted their feelings.
It was not until a year later, when Zhu Yongting gave birth to a son, that the fact of extramarital affairs was completely exposed at that moment.
Although the outside world has greatly criticized Tan Yonglin's approach, the saddest person is Yang Jiewei. However, as the original match, although she was very sad, she had to accept this fact.
The reason is that in more than ten years of marriage with Tan Yonglin, she has lost the opportunity to be a mother, and several abortions have made her unable to have children.
And this little third is not only entangled with Tan Yonglin, but also pregnant with a child.
This also gives Tan Yonglin a reason for an extramarital affair, after all, she wants to have her own children when she is older.
At this time, Yang Jiewei began to realize the marriage crisis, so she and Tan Yonglin had a big fight. Even Tam's parents strongly objected.
In order to balance the two wives, Tan Yonglin divided the money into two. All his property was handed over to Yang Jiewei to manage, and everyone before and after yang Jiewei also had great respect.
Because for Tan Yonglin, yang Jiewei is inseparable from her career. It's just that his heart no longer belongs to her.
Privately, Tan Yonglin put more energy into Zhu Yongting and her son.
At that time, Yang Jiewei already knew in her heart that no matter what she did, it would not help, after all, she still loved Tan Yonglin deeply, and she could only choose to tolerate it.
But Yang Jiewei also made a statement with Tan Yonglin first: I don't care what method you use, in short, the two of them should not be seen by others. It is better to let people know than to let people see!
So much so that Tan Yonglin, who has two women, has never let them meet head-on.
In fact, Tan Yonglin has always wanted to disclose that he has a son, but Yang Jiewei has always been unwilling, so he has to bury it in his heart.
For Zhu Yongting, it is indeed unfair to her that she has done someone else's little three, and even her son cannot be made public. After many negotiations with Tan Yonglin, it was still fruitless.
Originally, Yang Jiewei felt that as long as she did not divorce, Zhu Yongting would never be able to enter the door of the Tan family, and she would always be a legitimate wife.
However, what no one expected was that in the past few years of peaceful getting along, Zhu Yongting's son Tan Xiaofeng was quite contentious, had very good grades when he was studying, had a lively personality, and was very close to Tan Yonglin.
Even Tan Yonglin's father slowly accepted this illegitimate grandson.
03
Utter despair, hair cut into nirvana
In 2006, Tan Yonglin's father died of illness, and in his obituary, it was Zhu Yongting who replaced Yang Jiewei.
After careful consideration of his father's dying wishes, Tan Yonglin boldly went out and made everything public.
Perhaps for the sake of this well-behaved son, or perhaps because of the inspiration that he had endured for many years, Tan Yonglin chose to resist ruthlessly.
So that after the death of his father, Tan Yonglin can often be seen with Zhu Yongting and her son.
He never ignored the hot discussions of the outside world.
And the saddest thing is Yang Jiewei. At that moment, she was extremely sad, and only then did she realize that she had become an outsider.
What is even more indignant is that Tan Yonglin publicly said that he left hundreds of millions of his family property to his son.
This made Yang Jiewei completely desperate.
In 2008, Yang Jiewei finally chose to let go and began to dive into the empty door to the Buddha.
From her marriage in 1981 to her renunciation in 2008, Yang Jiewei paid nearly 30 years of youth for Tan Yonglin.
Although she said that she had exchanged Tan Yonglin's great value, she had lost everything, and naively thought that the true heart could be exchanged for the true heart.
I don't know that I am just a tool for other people's fame.
Someone once said that she is a combination of intelligence and ability, gentle and virtuous, decent and dignified, talented, lanxin hui, perfect morality, extraordinary wisdom, extraordinary talent, the best of the best.
Not only do they not take the rich and the poor seriously, but they also support the husband's hard work. Is a very rare good woman.
It's just a pity that the lives of good women are generally not good.
It can only be said that Yang Jiewei has accomplished everything about Tan Yonglin with her own life, perhaps as often said, this is all fate, and the previous life owes him.
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postscript
If it wasn't for Yang Jiewei, maybe there wouldn't be Tan Yonglin today. But there is no possible or what in this world, and there is no if.
Tan Yonglin once said: I have a son named Tan Xiaofeng, I have a wife named Yang Jiewei, and a confidant named Zhu Yongting, these two women are very hard, in the past ten years I have received incomparable care and care, but also got a lot of understanding and tolerance.
It can be seen that between these two women, Tan Yonglin also has unspeakable suffering.
In fact, in the end, it is the consequence of his irresponsibility when he was young. It's not good for anyone.
Even if Zhu Yongting, nameless and nameless, followed Tan Yonglin for so many years, and finally got everything, the hidden tolerance of more than ten years is not something that anyone can endure.
Tan Yonglin once said bluntly: If I can choose, I don't want to have two wives.
But life is never a choice.
There is no chance of starting again in life, and no matter how difficult it is, you have to move forward.
Perhaps for Yang Jiewei, not asking about mundane things is the best choice.