So obscure!
On September 5, Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin Studio simultaneously issued a statement, instantly rushing to the top of the hot search list.
Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin, what's the big deal that happened?
After probably understanding, I was completely speechless.
It turned out that some netizens found that a certain variety show used the wedding photos of Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin as material in the game, and used it to set suspense clues for players to reason about horror stories.
The key is the archetypal couple in this game, involved in a murder.
The woman is the deceased, the cause of death is the dismemberment, and the man is suspected of killing his wife in the early stages, and the means are extremely cruel.
Using photos of people's big day as a metaphor for the victim, is there anything more obscure and immoral than this?
As soon as the incident came out, it caused a burst of anger from netizens.
Some netizens also broke the news that this program group had taken the birthday of the guest who failed to participate as the number of the deceased, and the years, months and days were exactly the same.
This time, because of "improper review", taking people's wedding photos as a clue to the murder case can be said to be very unprofessional and immoral.
Fortunately, Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin are both smart and decent people, and after the other party apologized, they did not stay too long on this bad thing.
Nothing to live in a low-key life, something to solve quickly, not to bring more unhappiness to both sides, it can be said that it is a very tacit partner.
Therefore, some netizens commented:
"Although this thing is not beautiful, Zhang Ruoyun Tang Yixin's handling of the two mouths is very beautiful."
Speaking of which, Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin had not been bubbling for a long time.
The last time I was cue, when Sun Yi and Dong Zijian officially announced their divorce, a group of netizens shouted straight up:
"Zhang Ruoyun Tang Yixin, you must be well!"
Today, watching a pair of loving couples in the entertainment industry walk and disperse, Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin have become the focus of the public.
However, after 6 years of underground love, spanning the 7-year itch, Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin, who have been in love for 11 years, have actually written the ending long ago.
The movie "Tuina" has this line:
"There's a guy coming over the other side, and you bump into it, and that's love; A car drove up to you and you crashed into it, it was a car accident.
However, cars and cars always collide, and people always let go. ”
Zhang Ruoyun and Tang Yixin "collided" in this way.
It is a "car accident" and it is also a "love".
On a rainy night in 2010, Zhang Ruoyun came out of the cinema after watching "The Love of hawthorn trees" and went to the gas station to refuel, because Liu Zhenyun and Liu Baowen delayed for a while, and came out just to rear-end Tang Yixin's car that stayed at the traffic light.
Later, Zhang Ruoyun wrote a rather literary poem to describe this fateful encounter:
"Be careful, if you are not careful, the two people will become a group"
It wasn't a pleasant encounter, but as the lyrics say: "The first time you met you didn't look good, who knew how close the relationship would later be"
Zhang Ruoyun described this encounter as "scorched barbarism" meets "indifferent stubbornness", and the two people look at each other.
No one expected that they would love each other like life later.
They tattooed a declaration of love on their ankles:
Tang Yixin's: "Love Life as Love you"
Zhang Ruoyun's: "Love you as Love Life"
Just like Wang Xiaobo's love letter to Li Yinhe: Loving you is like loving life.
She changed his name: changed her original name "Tang Ting" to "Tang Yixin", just to match his name more.
He wrote her down in a memo: about her preferences, about her personality, about her cute and charming moments, and his love story core made countless straight men ashamed of themselves.
There is no obnoxious machismo, but full respect, understanding and tolerance for the other person:
"Men shouldn't be emotional. Protect her, trust her, support without domination. ”
"Be her earth, don't be her heaven."
Do not impose your own will on the other person, but give the other person the love they want, understand her, more than love her:
"No matter how sweetly she smiles, no matter how stubborn she walks, don't think she's not made of water."
"She loves romance, but romance is not everything. Understanding her is more important than being romantic with her. ”
Secretly love her, but love her so bravely and without reservation:
"Love her, don't convince yourself"
In order to commemorate that encounter, Zhang Ruoyun also moved the love relic "Traffic Light" into his home.
Knowing that Tang Yixin likes to eat cherries, he sent boxes of cherries to her crew.
Later, a cherry tree with an annual output of 100 catties was planted into the home.
Like Wu Kequn sang in "Write Poems for You", he wrote many romantic and moving poems for her, and he never forgot to hold Tang Yixin's hand everywhere he went.
Some celebrities talked about Zhang Ruoyun, who used to participate in fashion parties together:
"There were countless people around him, but he only had her in his eyes"
When Tang Yixin fell into a scandalous dispute with Wu Xiubo, Zhang Ruoyun also stood up for the first time to domineeringly protect his wife:
When they got married, Tang Yixin's skirt was also embroidered with her and Zhang Ruoyun's couple tattoo: "love you as love life."
The wedding was chosen in Ireland because it meant a lifetime of companionship. (Ireland used to be a country where divorce was not allowed.)
The above sweet and explosive idol plots are enough to make people cry for this fairy love.
However, what is more touching is Zhang Ruoyun's points that have been ignored by everyone.
Behind his deep and dedicated love is the respect for women from the heart.
When talking about what should be given to girls on Valentine's Day, he felt that kitchen utensils should not be sent:
"I think girls can cook, she wants to cook, but don't think girls should cook"
The reporter asked:
"What about yourself?"
He said very simply:
"I cook, I wash the dishes"
Speaking about what girls wear, he said:
"Each girl's own dressing style is the most important, because women themselves do not exist to please men, so girls themselves feel that 'I like' is the most important." 」
He will subconsciously defend women, think from a female perspective, and empathize with women.
Shortly after Mao Xiaotong and Chen Xiang broke up, they were maliciously asked about their feelings: "Is there a new trend in the current feelings?"
Seeing that Mao Xiaotong was a little cramped and uneasy, Zhang Ruoyun, who was standing on the side, stepped forward to block her words:
"Refused to answer this question"
"Something's coming at me!"
The embarrassment is resolved in a very humorous way, both gentlemanly and heartwarming.
Since many years ago, Zhang Ruoyun has carved respect for women into his bones.
Today, as always.
When Tang Yixin made his first public appearance after giving birth, he boldly and proudly confessed:
"This is my wife, and it's also my baby's mother."
I respect her, I admire her, and she has accompanied me through the difficult years."
He will always love her as ever; He looked at her, always cute and moving.
Compared with those naïve and arrogant boys, he exudes the most essential and calm gentleness.
In his words, there is the accumulation of reading, and there is also a kind of cultivation and correct three views that emanate from the inside out.
He is sincere, delicate, steady, and rational, respectful, and atmospheric.
The so-called three views are more positive than the five senses, which is more or less the same.
Some netizens commented on him:
"There is a kind of woman who is happy to marry anyone, and there is also a kind of man who is happy with whomever marries, such a person is the best Zhang Ruoyun in the world"
This is because long-term and high-quality marriages have always been based on character.
Being with people with good character is the basis for long-term happiness in marriage.
Those romantic plots full of pink bubbles are really attractive, and many people can do it in the hot love period, but compared to those who are good on the outside, a person's core is the most reliable.
This is also why people often say: "Starting from the appearance value, falling into the character." ”
Just like the male god Wu Yanzu.
He once tried to save the harassed women, and was knocked on the head by a drunk man and stitched 6 stitches.
I also once posted a long article accusing the photographers who attended the Tokyo Motor Show with male gazes:
"A lot of men on the scene have been staring at various parts of the model, zooming in to satisfy their fetish, which is very weird"
He understood early on what kind of situation women live in, understood that women have to cross many men to reach that position, and can face up to the structural discrimination suffered by women.
The commonality in them is still rare today.
They respect women, not just wives.
They are loyal to love, but also loyal to their own conduct.
Ang Lee once mentioned in the interview of "Yang Lan Interview":
"In any relationship, respect is more important than love"
Without respect, even the most intimate relationship is difficult to maintain.
As Yi Nengjing wrote in the book:
"I am in your house, with your family, the television is always on regularly, cartoons at five o'clock for your sister's children, entertainment news at six o'clock is your mother's concern for your work, and at seven o'clock your ninety-year-old wife will listen to the news will be particularly loud.
You don't read my words, you don't watch my performances, you don't care about my glory, you just love me and ignore the exit of my soul. "
This kind of love, of course, is also love, but it is only wrapped in selfishness and self-righteousness.
He loves you, more is to love you under the identity of his wife, you under the identity of his girlfriend, not from you as an individual.
He does not value your interests, feelings, needs, does not care, does not affirm your value, and does not regard you as an equal individual with an independent personality.
He has no interest in your soul and only needs you to meet the standards of a virtuous and considerate wife.
In his eyes, you exist as a tool property.
Just like in the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng's most poisonous love words to Luo Zijun: "I will raise you."
Chen Junsheng regarded Luo Zijun as his attachment and did not have any expectations for her except for his wife's identity.
Luo Zijun also thought that such "pampering" was to be good to himself.
And this kind of love is nothing more than a "captivity" in the name of love.
There are also people, in the name of love, restrain you and control you.
For example, you are not allowed to wear skirts, you are not allowed to cut your hair short, you are not allowed to make friends of the opposite sex, and so on.
Just because of an inexplicable sense of "you are mine", and this kind of machismo is called "overbearing president".
But as Zhang Ruoyun said: "Support rather than dominate"
True love, by no means unconditional obedience, is in accordance with His requirements.
You belong to yourself, you are a free individual, with your own mind and personality, not the property of others.
Respect is the premise of love, without respect, even the most beautiful love is just an empty shell cloaked in gorgeous clothing.
In the music program "The Voice of China", Nicholas Tse praised a singer for choosing a song very interestingly, and looked at Li Ronghao and said:
"It's a sister-in-law's song"
Li Ronghao responded without hesitation:
"Not a sister-in-law, but a song by singer Rainie Yang"
This sentence answers, countless circles of fans.
Li Ronghao did not want to put Rainie Yang into the identity of a wife and wife of whom, erasing her value, but expressing full respect in her profession.
Understanding romance will hurt people, many people will learn to do it in the hot love period, and they can do it, but long-term feelings, respecting her is better than being good to her, it must be more important.
Just like In Maslow's hierarchy of needs, respect needs are placed above social-emotional needs.
Care about each other's ideas, understand each other's difficulties, affirm each other's value, think from the other's point of view, communicate with each other equally, and be true to yourself.
Such love is mature and rational love, and it is also a higher dimension of love.
Only on the basis of respect, those who love and reconcile, can make sense.
When it comes to love, many people will describe:
"Love is like a big gamble, the right bet is a lifetime, and if you are wrong, you will lose everything."
A good marriage is never the right bet.
Love is not by luck, and choosing what kind of person you choose determines what kind of marriage you have.
A person who knows how to respect and cherish women, every word and deed is a natural expression of his cultivation and connotation, and with such a person, marriage is naturally not too bad.
Like the old saying goes:
"Marriage for a lifetime, character as the foundation." The foundation is thin, and the love is also thin; The foundation is rich, and the love is also strong."
In the end of marriage, the fight is a person's character.
Love is out of order, but there must be traces to follow.
If you want to be lucky, you need to be sober enough.
Thumbs up, may all girls choose a good person, and wish you a long time of joy.
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