The TV drama version of "All Is Good" has been over for a long time, and when I first watched the drama, it earned me a big wave of tears. Su Mingyu, played by Yao Chen, is independent and courageous. But in the face of the original family, she is still like ordinary people, and it is difficult to let go for a long time.
Those hatreds for their deceased mothers, their helplessness towards Su Daqiang, who is constantly being a demon, and the struggle and difficulty in reconciling with themselves in their hearts, are like a scale, and Mingyu is overwhelmed.
The plot of the drama version is very exciting, and the only place that makes people feel unreasonable is that in the ending, Su Daqiang is forcibly washed. Even Mingyu chose to resign and take care of Su Daqiang at home full-time.
Now looking back at the ending of the drama, I am still thinking, Mingyu should take care of her father as a child, but it is really appropriate to give up her career like this? The most important thing is that the eldest brother Mingzhe has gone abroad again, and the second brother Mingcheng has also focused on personal career.
This kind of reconciliation for the sake of reconciliation with the original family is really unfair to Mingyu.
Speaking of the original work of "All Is Good" created by Anai, as soon as the opening chapter, the Su family faced a major test of life and death, that is, Su Mu's unexpected death.
Su Mingzhe, who is far away in the United States, decided to return to China to mourn, and Mingyu's attitude of meeting and getting along with his eldest brother Mingzhe was obviously better than that of his second brother Mingcheng.
You know, there are many opportunities for Mingyu and Mingcheng to meet and get along, and in theory, aren't their feelings more intimate?
So why is that? The reasons behind it, I summarized three points.
Reason one: Su Mu prefers sons to daughters, and prefers Ming Cheng, ming yu and Ming cheng have been resentful for a long time
Just to fight for face in front of Mingcheng's wife, Zhu Li, Su Mu dismantled the bed in the original Mingyu room, moved Mingcheng's bed in the living room, and transformed it into Mingcheng's residence.
In this way, the living room was vacated, and Mingyu had no place to live when she returned home, so she had to choose not to go home. After that, in order to raise money for Mingcheng's decoration, Su Mu changed the house into a one-bedroom and one-hall.
Su Mu did this, and angrily blamed Mingyu for not understanding things, usually did not return home, and quarreled with her when she returned home. Even Su Mu thinks that everything she does is for the sake of this family, and complains that Mingyu does not care about the overall situation.
In this way, Su Mu only considered and planned for Mingcheng, and did not care about the feelings of her daughter Mingyu. It was precisely because of Su Mu's preference for Ming Cheng that she chilled Ming Yu's heart little by little.
Mingyu moved out of the house and no longer easily returned home. She also has a deep grudge with Ming Cheng, and looks at him unfavorably everywhere.
Mingyu always subconsciously felt that Mingcheng was useless. At the same time, Ming Cheng was not accustomed to Ming Yu.
This conversation after Su Mu's funeral is enough to clearly show the-for-tat confrontation between the two.
Ming Cheng sneered, "Well, thank you for coming here." ”
Mingyu still sneered, "Su Mingcheng can't take your turn to say this on behalf of the Su family." ”
"Yes, you deserve it best. There are a few stinky money to support the pole. Ming Cheng was on fire, or Julie reached out and hugged him, not letting him be impulsive.
"It's a pity that you have the ability to also take out those few stinky money, you have a feeling not to ask the family to reach out for stinky money." I said that you are not worthy is unworthy, on the contribution to the Su family, on the sacrifice for the Su family, you still look at the bottom of the line on your share of the Su family's blood. Do you dare to ask yourself? ”
Ming Yu and Ming Cheng have a long-term grudge, and the two do not like each other. Comparatively speaking, Mingyu naturally looks forward to being close to his eldest brother Mingzhe, who has just returned from the United States.
Reason two: The independent Ming Yu and the old school Ming Cheng have a huge difference in life attitude
Ming cheng good face, usually eat and wear, daily necessities are all picked the most expensive, the best, even the car is also exquisite.
These "face projects" of Ming Cheng are also the crux of his efforts to earn more and spend more, spend all his wages every month, and finally have to nibble on the old.
Since Su Mu started her work on her college and let her stay in the local provinces and cities to study, she no longer used a penny from her family out of stubbornness. Coupled with Su Mu's neglect of Mingyu from a young age, she is very lacking in love. As a result, she developed a competitive, independent personality.
Everything Mingyu got, money, fame and fortune, etc., was obtained by her own hard work, which was completely different from the old-fashioned Mingcheng who had already earned money but still reached out to the family for money.
Mingyu deeply experienced not being loved, and she changed her destiny with struggle. She knows the hardships of life and the hardships of earning money, and she understands more deeply that people who lack love are more eager for love and more afraid of being hurt.
Mingyu is not perfect, but this does not prevent her from working hard and taking work and life seriously, she is beyond the hard work and persistence of ordinary people, Mingcheng may not understand.
For Ming cheng, every day is passed, simple and happy to enjoy, and the beautiful two-person world with his wife Zhu Li is the greatest happiness.
The joys and sorrows in the world are really not necessarily the same, especially for Mingyu and Mingcheng, whose attitudes in life are very different, it is more than half a sentence.
Therefore, it is not difficult to understand that Mingyu diverted his attention and deepened his communication and understanding with his eldest brother Mingzhe.
Reason three: The difference between Mingyu's familiarity with Mingzhe and Mingcheng' understanding
The eldest brother Mingzhe caught up with the tide of self-funded study abroad, went to the United States to study, and stayed in the United States. It wasn't until Su Mu died that he risked losing his job and flew home.
Before Mingzhe could make a sound, Mingyu, who was four years younger than him, had already fallen to the ground and spoke generously: "Big brother, I haven't seen him in nine years." But Mingyu walked to a distance of one meter from Mingzhe and stopped, slightly indebted, and smiled at Mingzhe. There is a clear alienation among the politeness. Mingyu was also looking at this excellent big brother, but although Mingzhe in front of him was more than eight meters tall, the whole person felt like a mess.
Mingzhe's impression of Mingyu was still stuck on the yellow haired girl before he went to college, at this time, he suddenly saw a handsome and charming big girl, who was very uncomfortable for a while, and he also consciously kept the distance between the two of them one meter away.
When Mingyu and Mingzhe first met, they were bound to be strangers and needed to be more understanding. At this time, mature Mingyu, of course, will not rush to touch Mingzhe's bottom line, but more to take care of Mingzhe's feelings.
After Mingyu picked up his eldest brother Mingzhe and came to Mingcheng's house, Mingcheng went out to buy food. Su Daqiang discussed with Mingzhe the question of where he would live in the future. Mingzhe was very angry when he saw Mingyu's indifferent look.
Mingzhe, who was not familiar with Mingyu, took out his eldest brother as a pie and ordered her to discuss the matter together. At this time, although Mingyu was reluctant, he did not refute Mingzhe's face, but really put together the computer at work and sat aside.
And Mingyu is very familiar with the second brother Mingcheng. It is precisely because of familiarity that Mingcheng's shortcomings are more easily discovered and magnified.
The sweet aroma of coffee is in the air, and although Mingyu can't serve it himself, he can also recognize that this should be the aroma of freshly ground and boiled coffee. She was in her heart again, drinking freshly ground coffee and eating fast food, what an interesting picture. No way, when she saw Mingcheng, she unconsciously became mean. It can be seen that most of Mingcheng's quality of life is attributed to Zhu Li. Only when Julie returns can everyone enjoy the warm fragrance.
Since Mingyu knows Mingcheng's disposition better than Mingzhe, he knows that Mingcheng will not have the heart to grind coffee freshly. But it also magnifies Mingcheng's flaws, but does not understand Mingcheng's care for his wife Julie.
This difference in Mingyu's familiarity with Mingzhe and Mingcheng also caused Mingyu to alienate mingzhe who had just returned from the United States. And her more familiar Ming Cheng, her eyes are full of pickiness and dissatisfaction.
The so-called "distance produces beauty". In order to attend Su Mu's funeral, Mingzhe recklessly chose to return to China for funerals in spite of the happiness of the small family, but he lost his job. Nor is he perfect.
But perhaps it is the sense of distance and strangeness that makes Mingyu hope to know more about Mingzhe, and hopes to know how this big brother, who has been far away in the United States and has only come back once, is living.
From the difference between Mingyu's attitude toward Mingzhe who has just returned to China and Mingcheng's attitude, we have analyzed three important reasons. In this, there is a way of getting along with family relations.
In a family relationship, it is not said that the closer the better, often the relatives maintain a certain distance, and the appropriate sense of boundaries, is the more appropriate secret to get along.
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