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Monogatari:
Chinese's life, but three tables.
For Chinese, eating is a top priority. And the dining table is like a testimony to many moments of our lives.
But in fact, the testimony of life does not stop at the dinner table. Just like Ye Shengtao's grandson Ye Yonghe, when he remembered his grandfather, he started from the Eight Immortals table at home. Grandpa's education for him, from the rules of attendance, the etiquette after the meal to literacy and writing, was all on the eight immortals table.
When the table is used to eat, it is the dining table; Used to learn to read, that is, the desk; Sitting with guests is the tea table...
Our big things and small things, human feelings and sophistication, all seem to be around the table. Because of this, the table Chinese is the most emotional.
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I remember that there was a festival in my childhood, and the whole family rushed home from all over the world to celebrate the Mid-Autumn Festival. My brother came from a university in the north, my sister came from a city by the sea, and many elders from my uncle and aunt came from my unit in the city.
The ceremony of the festival is often started by a reunion dinner.
The agreed time had long passed, I didn't expect my brother to block the road, everyone had been waiting for a long time, and the dishes were also cold.
The little brother wanted to "steal" two pieces of meat, but he did not expect to be knocked off by his father. After another moment, he shouted "I'm hungry!" His mother whispered in her ear, blaming him for not understanding things.
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Grandpa has always been very fond of his brother, and finally spoke: "Let's wait while eating!" "A few of the older children were actually hungry, pretending to slowly pick up the chopsticks, and then quickly picked up the meat and sent it to their mouths, and the adults began to eat.
The brother finally entered the door, looking apologetic, but relieved to see that everyone was eating.
He sat down, and suddenly saw that the dishes and chopsticks in front of his grandfather were still clean, and a little red under his eyes, and he immediately held back. He just put down his bag and immediately raised his glass to punish himself.
Only I saw that when my brother was about to sit down, he filled himself up again and touched Grandpa's cup alone.
"People don't come together, you can't move chopsticks." It has become a lesson of childhood warmth: Grandpa's waiting is a tolerance for his grandson, or love.
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I also taught my brother a lesson: if you don't want the person who loves you to wait for a long time, you must remember to be punctual.
At the dinner table, the elders teach us various rules: to love clean, so wash your hands before meals; Respect the elders, so don't move the chopsticks first, don't talk loudly...
When eating, how to take the dishes and chopsticks, how to sandwich the dishes; Don't be selfish, so you can't just keep your favorite dish; Be sensible, help wash the dishes and wipe the table after eating...
As everyone knows, they have done a lot more than these. Mom always said that she loved to nibble on chicken feet, and Dad often clipped the big stick legs to us first... Gradually, we also understood caring and humility.
The rules of love have become the warmth and habits between getting along.
Many people always feel that drinking tea is a matter of elegance, but Liang Shiqiu said: "Wherever there is Chinese, there is tea." No one is noble, and everyone has a share. The upper yan people sip famous seeds, the lower ones drink tea soup, and even the roadside banks are served tea. ”
Drinking tea is just a very life-like thing, hiding the human feelings in the secular world.
Sichuanese people should agree with this sentence. It is said that one-tenth of their lives have sat at the tea table.
Young tea guests play with mobile phones, and middle-aged tea guests sit, but from time to time they have to look at the children playing around the table.
The elderly tea guests nagged their parents about the short, and gathered on the square table to play mahjong, with a bowl of tea brewing in their hands. While thinking, holding the bottom of the bowl in one hand and the lid in the other, he skimmed it twice and took a sip.
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If you say that today's tea table in Chengdu is like a secular style painting, it is good, but it is still far worse than in the old days.
The teahouse of the old days was a decent place to meet guests. The tea table is crowded with people, three teachings and nine streams.
When guests talk, there will inevitably be contradictions and ridicule. The tea table became the best place to "judge". The so-called "a table with four feet, said to take off and walk off."
Two-way theory, mediated by an intermediary. If both parties have their own, they will pay half of the tea money; If one party is in a loss, it must concede defeat and pay for tea...
Wang Zengqi said that his knowledge was brewed from inside the teahouse.
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This sentence is good, if you come to Chaozhou, you can almost see that every house has a set of kung fu tea sets. "Tea thin and affectionate" Chaoshan people's hospitality, tea in the human feelings are concerned, because not everyone who comes to Chaozhou loves to drink tea.
Therefore, the tea owner will know how to control the thickness of the tea color according to the preferences of the guests, how to make a cup of tea less bitter, more sweet.
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And if you come to Beijing, you can see that the tea and people here are very free. In addition to teahouses that drink tea while watching plays, there are also "chess teahouses" that can play chess, "book teahouses" that listen to commentaries, "tea taverns" that drink and talk about the sky, and "wild tea houses" that open in the wilderness mountains...
Drinking tea in Beijing, the human feelings in tea are very casual. At different tea tables, they meet friends with tea and meet people with similar souls.
The tea table is a small society, and there is the richest human feeling at the table.
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The study is like a place where one's spiritual world is realistic, and the desk is the epitome of the study, or more like a magnifying glass, where one's cultivation, aesthetics, and even temperament can be glimpsed on the desk.
Many people want to have a quiet, elegant little study. The garden designer Xie Tumin, in a corner of the city, built a "mountain house" of the ancients to recreate the life of the literati.
The one that impressed me the most was the study here. On the right is a desk, and in front of the desk is a quaint Song-style window.
Many of the utensils on the table have a sense of age, a red brick box, finely decorated. A pair of bronze paperweights, held in the hand, with weight, very calm.
He felt: "Although the ancients are far away from us, many of their ways of life are still worth playing with. ”
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In the mountain house, reading books, writing, painting, in front of the window full of greenery, calming pen and ink, but also calming people's hearts. "Books and paintings, one is to nourish the heart, the other is to entertain, and finally to write love, and the meaning is not comparable to computer typing."
Sitting at such a desk is like sitting in a state of mind. It's too hard to have a desk like this, but it's not hard to create your own mood.
Thinking of Liu Yuxi, there is only one burrow, but "the moss marks are green, and the grass is green" makes the burrow a little more elegant.
Therefore, today, many people who love books will put some small flowers and grasses on the desk, as if with a little bit of the tranquility of the mountain and wild countryside to the eyes. More exquisite people will put a pot of "Seven LiXiang" on the desk, which was called "Brassica" in ancient times. Because the ancients often used it to help books prevent insects, the bookstore is also called "Yun Window" and "Yun Guan".
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The writer Xiao Qian's desk is not exquisite, although it is very chaotic, it is still his "home".
He also admired his friends' clean study and neat and clean desk. But I still hope that the desk should be very "real" and "it has to work". After all, it is necessary to continue to write and compile a million-word book here.
As an editor, his desk has always been chaotic. Essays, letters, and contacts' addresses are clearly categorized and placed in many boxes around desks—most of them modified with coffee boxes pasted with cellophane in the middle.
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Remembering when I was a child, our desk should also be so "practical", we can't put too many things, otherwise we will be worried by our mother and will not concentrate on reading. Can't be too small, otherwise you can't put down the book, and you can't bear so many expectations and pressures.
When you grow up, you can finally decide what the desk looks like, so it is better to arrange it according to your own wishes and mood.
When you are tired of sitting on the desk, you close the book, play with the ornaments, and water the small potted plants. With leisure, there is a little more good temperament.
Liang Shiqiu once heard a joke about the greatness of China to foreigners Chinese, and the diameter of the round dining table could be so large that it was almost a mile away. The foreigner asked, "How long are your chopsticks?" ”
"Six or seven feet long."
"How can chopsticks of such a long length be picked up and delivered to their mouths?"
"Our most important courtesy is to use chopsticks to pick vegetables for the people sitting opposite to eat."
The etiquette on the table is indeed very exaggerated, but the love on the Chinese table is never exaggerated. Whether it is eating around the table, talking around the table at night, or sitting alone at a table, there are different feelings.
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I think of an American architect who said, "Wood is the most humane." ”
The wooden table is also the table that Chinese most often touch. When sentient wood, turned into a table; The table is full of sentient meals, carefully cared for flowers and plants; There are people sitting around the table, and it becomes the most "sentient" table.
Some people see upbringing at the dinner table, some people see aesthetics on the desk, and some people see the secular style from the tea table...
So what does your table look like? What kind of love is hidden on the table?
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