According to common sense, most women have retired after the age of fifty-five, and men are preparing to retire.
Retirement means leaving the workplace and truly opening up the mode of old age. Logically, the relationship between husband and wife has also entered the "old state", and if there is no accident, it is very stable.
People who want to toss marriage have divorced and remarried when they have just gotten married, after their children have taken the college entrance examination, and when they get rich. After experiencing the wind and rain in marriage, there are contradictions, and no one is willing to toss.
The wife is a noble person in life, the best nanny, and should be cherished for the rest of her life.
There is a sentence in the "Romance of the Three Kingdoms": "Luoyang, the capital of eastern Han, has been exhausted for more than two hundred years." ”
Looking back at the path of life, you will find that marriage, like the dynasty, has a "qi number" - sometimes there must be a fate. There is no relationship, and it will be intact without hard work.
Therefore, smart people will sum up experience and ignite hope, thereby prolonging the "qi number" of marriage and making the rest of their lives happy.
01
Mix your mouth, not "over-the-top".
A cartoonist said: "Husband and wife get to know each other better through quarrels; When they know enough, they break up. ”
Many people, when divorced, throw out a sentence of "I see through him, I hate him."
The real beauty is the hazy beauty, not the "one-eyed look".
All kinds of misunderstandings, trivial matters, mutual incomprehension, suspicion, etc., are the fuse of quarrels. Once the words are spoken, it's fine; Hold on to each other, take a step back, and get better.
You are not a roundworm in the other person's stomach, there is no way to really empathize, you can only watch. Therefore, you don't have to "see through" at all.
In middle age, the pressure of life is very large, and it is inevitable to be angry when you see that the people around you are not angry. But when you reach old age, the pressure is less, and the temper should be smaller.
Angry, no relationship, quarrelsome, angry up, not afraid, the key is to restrain within a certain limit. Anything happens, don't throw a word – we divorce, don't run away from home without moving.
02
Travel, to be "atmospheric".
Just a few years after retirement, many couples will travel, and if possible, they can drive themselves to travel.
The outside world is very tempting, but everyone sees different landscapes, and there is a difference between the poetry they want to pursue and the distant places.
There was a couple who went to the Mongolian steppes.
The wife was very uncomfortable and complained: "A lot of horse dung, the garbage cans have not been cleaned up in time." ”
The husband said: "The blue sky and white clouds, the sunset, I was really shocked." ”
The same meadow, but the scenery is 108,000 miles apart.
It is recommended that you learn from "husband", be a little more atmospheric, and tolerate all imperfections.
If the husband and wife have a dispute because the destination is different, they should learn to be courteous,
Provide a rule for reference: First, the husband and wife disagree, subject to what the wife (husband) says; Second, if the husband (wife) has an opinion, please return to the first article.
Two people along the way, one leader. Parallel driving is the landscape, and one strong and one weak is the line of life.
03
Pension, there is "confidence".
Whether you can live a good old age, the amount of money is very important.
With pensions, houses and cars, savings, and healthy old people, life will be better.
Couples get along, often quarreling because there is too little money. Especially in middle age, some couples divorce because they are too poor. As the ancients said: "Poor couples mourn." ”
Relatively speaking, couples who are close to retirement, the economic pressure will be less, the key is to find a way to retain a sum of money, to create conditions for the elderly.
For example, a couple with a monthly income of two thousand will also have a deposit of one thousand yuan if their daily expenses are set at one thousand. Expenses are divided into many portions, and couples follow the rules together, and no one complains.
There is a definite amount of money in a person's life. No one should expand their desires, but learn to be content.
Times are getting better, and all the old people, compared to the life of the 1970s and 1980s, are earth-shaking. Be proud because your life is better, and you can't be upset because your life is a little worse than others.
The confidence of the pension comes from money, and success is "simple, physical and mental health".
04
Life, there is "calm".
Ma Weidu said: "People have three pursuits in life, the first is to seek profit, the second is to become famous, and the third is to be quiet." ”
When we reach old age, the pursuit of fame and fortune is obviously unreliable, if you are blinded by fame and fortune, you will live very badly, and even consume yourself too much.
Retirement is inevitable, that is, you can re-hire, and you can't be promoted and raised like you were in the beginning; To start a business, you must also stop at the right time and avoid being overwhelmed.
No one needs a peaceful day.
Liu Bang, a hero of a generation, deeply loves Lady Qi, but Lü Hou has a tiger's eye on her. Liu Bang was caught in the middle of it, embarrassed.
For a while, Liu Bang wanted to make Lady Qi's son Liu Ruyi crown prince, but things did not work out, but Lü Hou further annoyed Lady Qi, because Lü Hou's son Liu Ying was already a prince.
When Liu Bang passed away, he was very uncomfortable because he was worried about the safety of Lady Qi's mother and son.
The quality of life is not determined by status or money. We must settle down, keep everything we have in the moment, and not seek to be doomed to get. Coarse tea light rice, sweet taste.
05
Between heaven and earth, when there is poverty at the end of the world, there is only the endless place of acacia.
After the wind and rain, after seeing the rainbow, the next step should be to see the life of the long stream.
As long as husband and wife are together, buy vegetables together, and taste the taste of green vegetables and turnips together, they will also be sweet to the depths of the soul.
When you're old, sitting by the fire and snoozing, and someone gently draping you with clothes, or gently leaning on your shoulder, the romantic atmosphere, it goes without saying.
When you are sick, someone brings hot soup, brings a spoon to your mouth, and it will get better soon.
When you are tired, someone accompanies you to rest in place, do not rush to the road, you will not be alone.
After the age of 55, the husband and wife are accompanied, the number of good qi, and the coming to Japan is long.
Once upon a time, you and I were petrels in the storm.
Now, you and I are mandarin ducks in the water of Tsuzu Spring.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.