Not long ago, the goddess Tenkai Yuki, who said directly to the TV camera, "Rest assured, I will not get married," celebrated her 55th birthday.
Born in 1967, she remains celibate and has lived her life to the envy of almost everyone: clarity, self-consistency, career and spirit are all online.
Her reasons for choosing to be single sound simple and even a little wayward: marriage is too troublesome, and not wanting anything needs to be concerned about the feelings of the other half.
"I don't want others to come into my life now, and I hate taking care of people other than myself."
"I don't want anyone to be at home, and I don't want to be home if someone is there."
"If there is a real object, I hope he lives next door." The different floors are the best. ”
Many girls secretly thought about it in their hearts, and Tenkai Yuxi said it all in this interview, and said it so straight.
Truly worthy of being the most legendary single female role model of this century!
However, this passage she said will resonate with many people, because singleness has become a global phenomenon.
According to the survey data, China's single population has exceeded 240 million, close to 17% of the total population, of which the number of single women has exceeded at least 100 million. The number of singles in the future is still increasing. Of these, 77 million live alone.
Accordingly, China's marriage rate has been hitting new lows. In 2021, the Ministry of Civil Affairs announced only 8 million marriage registrations, a record low since the release of marriage data in 1986.
Looking at other countries, the situation looks similar. For example, the census data in Japan, the home country of Tenkai Yuki, found that the proportion of young men and women who do not marry and do not fall in love has been rising in the past 20 years, and the proportion of women has increased by 1.5 times.
In the United States, 28 percent of the population lives alone, with women being the majority of them. The proportion of people living alone in Nordic countries such as Sweden and Norway is an incredible 40-50%.
Why do young people, especially young women, enjoy being single so much?
What is visible to the naked eye is that more and more women around them not only choose to be single, but also enjoy being single. Of course, there are many reasons for enjoyment, and the most tempting one may be the reason that Tenkai Yuki said: We will have more freedom and time to do what we like, without looking at the face of the other half, and we do not need to lower ourselves to the dust just to seek perfection.
To tell the truth, after we have to give one-third to one-half of our lives to work hard, and have to look at the faces of bosses and colleagues, in the little time left, who doesn't want to be able to control it at will? Love to travel, love to pick up cats to pick up cats, love to raise flowers to raise flowers, love to bungee on bungee, shouldn't this be the true fragrance of life?
In this day and age, one's life can already be so interesting, if one more person is to participate, if it can become more interesting (at some point), then at least it must be carefully weighed and measured.
Angelababy also recently threw out her feelings in the love roundup: "After being single for a long time, you will find that it seems that a person is also very good."
In addition to the simplest freedom, the personal experience of people who come over and the news that "wife/mother is unfriendly" that breaks out from time to time in society is enough to dissuade many people.
For example, the American talk show comedian Huang Ali sent out a deafening question after marriage: Why should the old woman get married???
This marriage was what she had once wanted, and this elite husband who graduated from Harvard Business School was also the one she had tried her best to "trap", but after giving birth to two children, buying a house, and a career fire, she began to deeply regret why she had to go to the final city.
Just this year, she finally ended the marriage that she once talked about, and happily entered the "only want to live by herself" day.
Once a woman becomes a wife, especially a mother, it seems to have entered a whole new phase of life – and if society still has all kinds of terrible rules and punishments for wives and mothers, it is not surprising that women have a fear of wanting to escape every minute.
For example, we have written the appalling Korean Pregnancy Guide before. The Seoul Metropolitan Government's Pregnancy and Childbirth Information Center has publicly made various strange requests to pregnant women, such as "Pregnant women should pay attention to appearance" and "Complete housework on time so that you can manage your weight even if you don't do any exercise." "Before giving birth in the hospital, pregnant women are also advised not to forget to take care of their families so as not to inconvenience their families.
Looking at these strange news, and then thinking about the single self, it is no wonder that so many girls sigh: Yes, two people, a family do have more untouchable happiness of single people, but solo's happiness will definitely not come less!
Single = shameful, this belief once penetrated the hearts of the people. In the past, singles were dogs. But now, singles have a tendency to become aristocrats.
Japanese drama "Escape shameful but useful" line
Although it is difficult to say that our society has fully accepted singleness, on the whole, society is still moving in the direction of becoming more open and inclusive.
Just this August, the National Health Commission said that the marriage certificate is no longer a necessary material for maternity insurance and maternity allowances, and the birth restrictions on unmarried women have been gradually lifted.
A while ago, the "Shanghai Women's Federation" was also a positive statement of a man, which was praised by the wild brush screen. The origin of the matter was in a "girl who is afraid of pain in the ear piercing, blocked 8 knives for her colleagues", but there was a message that caused ridicule because of the "strange painting style": "Tell her, I am willing to marry her, really." ”
In the face of such remarks, the Shanghai Women's Federation "super rigidly" shrugged back and said: We have really seen enough of the behavior of measuring women's value by "suitable for marriage and childbearing".
The "support" of the Shanghai Women's Federation and the Health Commission, coupled with the increasing number of single role models visible to the naked eye, allows women who choose to be single to feel more at ease - this does not mean that the blind dates of the seven aunts and eight aunts and the parents' regular marriage promotion every year will not be upsetting, but at least, such a choice is definitely no longer a shame in society.
Regarding the matter of singleness, Japan has the goddess Tenkai Yuxi, and China has the goddess Yu Feihong.
"I'm not a celibacy, I'm not an unmarried person, I'm just not married." The 51-year-old goddess Yu Feihong's summary of singleness out of the sky is really good.
"Marriage is not a necessity of life, single or married, is just a choice for myself, which way to make myself comfortable, I will choose which way to live, for now, single life must make me more comfortable, so I chose to live alone." 」 But still cherish the good, believe in love. ”
The point of choosing to be single is that it's an ability.
And loving people is also an ability.
May all girls freely choose to be single, free to choose love, free to choose life.
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