Infographic: The picture shows the sunset view of Anvil Mountain. Photo by Meng Zhigang
Beijing, August 26 (China News Network) (Reporter Xing Rui) Have you ever seen such a person: they always like to point fingers at other people's lives and talk nonsense. When they see friends buying designer bags, they accuse others of worshipping gold; Seeing a colleague's promotion and salary increase, they guess that others are "related households"; Seeing someone buying things and shopping around, they have to laugh at people's stinginess and slamming the door...
They are accustomed to measuring everything around them by their own standards, as if they are always right and always sober. However, there are no two identical leaves in the world, and your ideas may not always be right, and others may not necessarily be wrong.
As the saying goes, "Sit quietly and think about yourself, and gossip about others." "Sometimes learning to shut up is cultivation, it is a pattern, and it is a kind of kindness.
Data map: The picture shows the plum village under wuyi mountain in Fujian Province. Photo by Wang Dongming
Do not persuade others to be good without suffering
I once saw such a news on the Internet: a woman stumbled all the way to the bus, fell several times and then got up. After getting into the car, the woman's face was red, and tears swirled in her eyes.
According to media reports, the woman has just finished hanging injections in the hospital because of physical discomfort, and in order not to be deducted the 300 yuan attendance award, she must also insist on going to work with illness.
The woman's encounter has resonated with many netizens, but at the same time, some netizens have criticized her for "asking for money and not dying", "fighting for 300 yuan"...
I don't know how the woman would feel when she saw these cold words. But if it is not for life, who will drag the sick body like this?
There is a sentence in the novel "The Great Gatsby": "Whenever you want to criticize others, remember that not all people in the world have the advantages you have." ”
Indeed, not all people are born with a golden spoon, and some people need to do their best to live. Sometimes, a quick tongue will cause irreparable harm to others.
Data map: The picture shows the picturesque scenery of Qilian in summer. Photo by Zhao Haimei
The child is not a fish, but the joy of knowing the fish
There is a cloud in "Zhuangzi Autumn Water": "Zi is not a fish, but the joy of knowing fish." "In life, everyone has their own way of life and choices. As the saying goes: "Ru's arsenic, the other's honey", the same thing, different people stand in different angles, will have different views.
Emperor Taizong of Tang once asked Xu Jingzong, the prime minister: "The Manchu Dynasty's civil and military officials belong to you who are the most capable." But there are still people who keep talking in front of me about your faults, why is that? ”
Xu Jingzong replied: "Spring rain is as expensive as oil, farmers love it because it moisturizes crops, and pedestrians hate it because it makes the road muddy and difficult to walk; The autumn moon shines in all directions like a mirror, and the talented people appreciate the moon and chant poetry, but the thieves hate it, afraid of illuminating their ugly deeds. The omnipotent Heaven cannot satisfy everyone, let alone me as an ordinary person? ”
Different positions create different views on the same thing. Sometimes, it is difficult to judge the right and wrong of a certain point of view, and to define a person and a thing without knowing the whole picture is itself irresponsible behavior. The truly wise man is the one who knows how to shut up.
Data map: The picture shows Changji, Xinjiang. Image source: ICphoto
A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June
To this day, the death of Liu Xuezhou, a teenager who searched for relatives, still makes many people feel sad, and his desperate suicide once again makes us see the horror of network malice.
Sold by his biological parents since childhood, his adoptive parents died unexpectedly, he was bullied in school... When encountered again and again by the deception of life, this fifteen-year-old boy smiled and faced it, like a grass growing in a gap, tenaciously growing towards a ray of sunlight.
However, when Liu Xuezhou finally succeeded in meeting his biological parents, a story that should have ended in comedy ended in tragedy.
Prompted by a series of misunderstandings and poor communication, the overwhelming insults and attacks on the Internet mercilessly pounced on Liu Xuezhou, who was physically and mentally exhausted, becoming the last straw that overwhelmed him!
For this teenager who has nothing, the warmth from strangers may have made up for the shortcomings in life, but the truth is diametrically opposed.
When we are accustomed to being invisible behind a screen and enjoying the freedom brought by the Internet, have we ever considered whether our intentional or unintentional speech may affect the fate of others.
Not liking or disagreeing is certainly a right, but it is also a kind of kindness not to vent emotions until the truth is revealed.
Hemingway once said, "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took sixty years to learn to shut up." "Everyone is an independent individual, and they are destined to experience a different fate, and all we can do is to concentrate on running our own lives." Even if you can't empathize, don't hurt people with bad words. Sometimes learning to shut up is also a kind of kindness. (End)