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Monogatari:
May someone think of me in pieces and accompany me year after year.
Author: Insight Alpaca
Source: Insight (ID: DJ00123987)
I have seen a sentence: a good relationship, not necessarily getting along day and night, inseparable, but it must be cold and not cold, people are not far away.
Busy and not forgetting, is friendship; What is inseparable is the heart.
The best friendship in this world is not to disturb when busy, to worry when idle, to support when tired, and to accompany when difficult.
Don't bother when you're busy
Zhou Guoping once said: True friendship is not noisy.
Everyone has their own life, work to be busy, children to raise, parents to take care of...
In the adult world, often disconnected, occasionally remembered, is the truest form of friendship.
Sanmao and Lin Qingxia are particularly good girlfriends, but the two are busy with work and have seen each other a handful of times.
Later, Sanmao became famous again with "The Story of the Sahara" and promised to write a script for Lin Qingxia's crew. Lin Qingxia originally wanted to take advantage of her free time to go to Sanmao for discussion, but when she learned that Sanmao was busy giving speeches in various places, she did not bother.
Later, when she heard that Sanmao had fallen and was injured, she was so anxious that she wanted to visit. But director Yan Hao said that Sanmao's disease can take advantage of the time to write a script at home.
Sure enough, after being discharged from the hospital, Sanmao could not go downstairs, so he began to write a script, and the food was delivered by others. And Lin Qingxia also knew that Sanmao did not like to be disturbed while writing, and went to visit her several times, but only went downstairs and did not meet with her.
It wasn't until Sanmao wrote the script that she went up to the attic to discuss with Sanmao, and when she got to the emotional place, the two danced together.
Sanmao once said:
"Knowing that zero implementation is the norm of life, and being able to talk occasionally while still being gentle in your heart is a good friend."
Between friends, no contact, does not mean that they do not care; No greeting, does not mean not missing.
Because each has its own things to deal with, not disturbing when busy, is not only a respect for each other's choices, but also a consideration for each other's difficulties.
Many times, we think that we can only enhance our feelings by connecting every day.
But in fact, true friends will not be estranged because of busyness, nor will they be alienated because of distance.
Being busy with each other, worrying about each other, and caring about each other is the most beautiful form of friendship.
Idle time to worry
Liu Tong once told the story of him and his friend H in the book, the two are college alumni, and their feelings have always been very deep.
Later, Liu Tong went to Beijing to work, and H opened an optical shop in the local area, because of the busy work, the two did not have much contact.
Once, Liu Tong returned to his alma mater, planning to stop by H's shop to see, but did not want H to go out. H, who answered Liu Tong's phone, hoped that the two could get together, but the time was in a hurry, and Liu Tong was going to leave Changsha in the afternoon.
Helplessly, H can only ask the clerk to give him the gift he has prepared when he is leaving. Later, Liu Tong opened the gift and found that inside were several pairs of sunglasses.
It turned out that every time H saw the sunglasses that suited him, he would throw a pair into the cabinet, thinking that when they met, they could give it to him.
Liu Tong sighed that although he did not know when he would see each other again, he would always think of each other in his leisure time.
Among old friends, common noodles are not the norm, everyone has their own river, they have to paddle up the oar in their own river, so the inability to see noodles is the essence of life.
Many times, we have to run for the ideal of each other's future; Also had to live in order to live, the sky is north and south.
Time, like an hourglass, sifts away one relationship after another.
But good friendship can stand the test of time, and true friends can withstand the wash of the years.
Support when tired
Sui Wenjing once said: What is the best relationship between friends? It's about being able to do something earth-shattering, a legendary thing together.
At the Beijing Winter Olympics, Sui Wenjing and Han Cong jointly performed "The Golden Bridge on the River of Sorrow" and won the double skating championship.
Today, the two have supported each other and supported each other for 15 years.
In 2016, Sui Wenjing was seriously injured in ligaments and almost gave up her career, but it was Han Cong who encouraged and supported her, pushing Sui Wenjing, who was in a wheelchair, back to the ice rink and pulling her back from her grief.
Later, Han Cong underwent hip surgery and grinded bone nails on the hip joint, and it was Sui Wenjing who in turn encouraged and supported him and cheered him up.
Along the way, they have always supported each other out of the trough and challenged the top again and again.
When they are upset and tired, they will support each other; When they are in pain and helplessness, they also lick each other.
Friendship is never about icing on the cake, but about having someone who will support you when you are tired and support you when you are in pain.
I agree with a passage that Fu Seoul said:
"Not many people really like to comfort others, and not many people really want to listen to other people's sad stories, and all listening is patience.
If there is a person who pays attention to your heart, your pain, it is not because he is always with you, but because he really cares about you. ”
Life is very tiring, the days are difficult, and many times, we are carrying pressure and enduring pain.
But in front of a good friend, you can take off your mask, let go of your tiredness, and don't have to worry about being exposed or afraid of being ridiculed.
Because you know: as long as there is a ta, you have the strength to retreat and move forward.
Companionship when difficult
Bacon once said, "False friendship is like your shadow, when you are in the sun, it will follow you closely, but as soon as you go into the shadows, it will leave you immediately." ”
Friendships between adults, mixed interests, true and false are difficult to distinguish. But if there is a person who does not abandon him when he is killed, he deserves deep friendship.
Hu Ge and Yuan Hong were in college, and they had similar personalities and gradually became the best buddies. Later, Hu Ge took Yuan Hong to sign a contract with Tang Ren, and the two co-starred in "The Legend of the Eagle Shooter".
However, while filming this play, Hu Ge suffered a major car accident. After Yuan Hong learned about it, he was sad and could not help himself. Took the initiative to put down a year's work, accompanied Hu Ge, chatted and joked, comforted and enlightened him.
Hu Ge once said in an interview:
He often felt confused during the time when he was in a car accident, but whenever he was very helpless, his eyes would unconsciously fall on Yuan Hong, even if he did not speak, he could make himself feel at ease.
Now the two have known each other for 21 years, but the friendship is still deep.
Fallen leaves know autumn, fall difficult to know friends.
Life in the world, has always been a scenery, the most friends; When you're down, you have the fewest friends.
When you fall into the abyss, the majority will leave you, the minority will pull you along, and there are very few who are willing to accompany you to fight the abyss.
The best friend will never abandon you when you are trapped and helpless, but will be silently by your side and accompany you through the difficulties.
I may not be there when you are beautiful, but I will come whenever you need to.
In a variety show, the host once asked Shen Teng: What does a friend mean to you?
Shen Teng replied: Friend, it means everything.
Good friendship, not necessarily everything disturbs, but will always miss; Not necessarily always together, but they will always be on the tip of the heart.
For the rest of my life, may we have three or two confidants who can think with me in pieces and accompany me year after year.
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