In 1987, a "Red Sorghum" made the 37-year-old Zhang Yimou famous in one fell swoop.
Gong Li, who was still a chinese opera student at that time, played the heroine of the film for the first time. Girls are always romantic and affectionate, and the age of 22 is always easy for a girl to adore and fall in love with a man.
1, eight years of love but can not wait for her marriage
Since then, Gong Li has been out of control on her acting road. From the passionate Jiu'er in "Red Sorghum", to the sad and miserable Song Lian in "The Big Red Lantern Hangs High", from the family treasure who swallowed her voice in "Alive", to the persistent peasant woman Qiu Ju in "Qiu Ju Fights a Lawsuit".
Perhaps the characters she has played in the play are a bit like herself: a little stubborn, and she still does not accept defeat. She can always act well and win awards.
One issue of Time Magazine was Covered by Gong Li, and she became the first Chinese star to appear on the journal.
Radiant, she spent 8 years, and finally waited for the divorce of Zhang Yimou and his wife, but did not wait for her own happiness.
Zhang Yimou is a typical big man, but Gong Li is obviously not the little woman who is willing to sacrifice herself to be the hard worker beside him.
She may be willing to put herself into the family, but she will never regard Zhang Yimou as the world like Zhang Yimou's ex-wife Xiao Hua.
The electric flint of love has made the golden age of the two, and the blandness of marriage may not be able to achieve them to become an ordinary couple.
In the face of marriage, he realized with the experience and reason of a man that the two were not suitable, or maybe they did not love so passionately, who knows?
In 1995, the two ushered in the success of the "Shake, Shake, Shake to Grandma's Bridge" that cooperated again, but also ushered in the breakup of the two.
This year, Gong Li was 30 years old, compared to the 22-year-old, she was less spirited and more depressed.
The following year, the news of her marriage with Huang Hexiang, president of British American Tobacco Asia Pacific, came to her.
Some people say that this is a marriage with some negative connotations. Maybe. Of these, only Gong Li knows best.
2, love wounds can only heal themselves
Probably can't forget, can't put it down.
At the 1996 Cannes Film Festival, the two reunited, and the former lovers met, how can it not be without emotion.
She shed tears, and he was silent.
In 2006, "Full of Golden Armor" was the first collaboration between the two after they broke up. At the press conference, Gong Li still shed tears.
Some people speculate that this is a nostalgia for Zhang Yimou. But I am more inclined to say that this is a woman who once had a deep love, because of the sadness after the collapse of love.
When it hurts, it cries, and when it hurts, it heals. Smart women understand that it is only when she has cried, hurt, and let go in order to truly reconcile with herself.
3, the real turning
In 2009, he and Huang Hexiang ended a 13-year marriage of gathering less and leaving more. Gong Li went abroad alone.
Leave behind the hustle and bustle of the past and enjoy only your own indifference and casualness. In addition to filming, Gong Li learned to invest, learn jewelry appreciation, learn to cook, and live a dashing and casual life. This time she really came back to life itself.
In 2014, a "Return", Gong Li once again became the protagonist in Zhang Yimou's film.
Zhang Yimou once said: "Gong Li and I are now buddies, and we have a tacit understanding to the point where we have nothing to say." ”
After putting aside her old grievances, Gong Li also quipped: "Zhang Yimou is the person who took me to a new height in the movie." ”
To tell the truth, these two people are really quite similar, once wanted to wait for each other to be perfected, sacrificed for love and could not do it, and finally had to reconcile themselves.
What a two people with strong self-esteem.
4, high self-esteem love has never been "without him, there will be no more love"
Some people in low-self-esteem love, will not see their own good, can not see each other equally. The mentality of holding your hands up and waiting for each other to give alms is because you don't have self-confidence and don't have enough certainty.
Shouldn't love be "love me, that is, love yourself as you are now"?
"Self-esteem" is psychologically defined as a person's judgment of their own attitude and value. People with low self-esteem have a very negative self-perception and even rely on evaluation and giving with others; And people with high self-esteem have a clearer understanding of themselves and a more pertinent evaluation. ”
High self-esteem love has never been "without him, there will be no more love" . There are many people and things in life that are worth loving. As long as you can get the ability from a relationship, find your real needs, even if you can't come together, you can find a lasting feeling, this is enough, isn't it?
Just like Gong Li now, the aura is fully open but there is no aggression, and she is free to be free but not arrogant. High self-esteem love should be like this. It is worthy of being the "Gong Emperor"!
May every woman find her own place in her feelings, live without tension and panic.
| Xiao Xu
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