preface
Xu Li is one of the "national faces" of CCTV, she hosts CCTV international channel, and is very popular with her dignified, concise and capable hosting style.
In addition to her excellent appearance, she is a strong business, the first anchor of China News, and has twice won the National Government Award and the Gold Award for Chinese Program Host.
In addition, she is also quite talented, singing and singing are not in the word, she once sang a song "Ode to pear blossoms" in the 18 years of CCTV 4 sets of small spring evenings and was greatly praised.
Such an excellent woman, her marriage has also attracted much attention,
She got married and had children at the age of 21, divorced for some reason at the age of 31.
But then her career progressed by leaps and bounds, and she also met her second husband, Zhang Tianwei, who was born into a famous family.
However, their feelings were opposed by Zhang Tianwei's parents, who hated Xu Li for divorcing and taking a son.
Xu Li impressed the second elder with her sincerity and married into the Zhang family.
Now they have been married for more than 20 years, have been as loving as ever, Xu Li is 60 years old and still calls her husband "brother", the feelings are very sweet,
She and her mother-in-law are more sisters in love, and often go to square dancing together.
Last year, the 60-year-old Xu Li officially retired, and after retirement, she did not raise her life, but lived a more exciting life and turned her life into poetry.
01
Xu Li is the first person in Hunan Jishou, and she has cultivated her strong personality since she was a child in the army.
No matter what Xu Li wants to do her best, she can learn everything she can learn, singing and dancing.
Her parents are very pleased and have planned the future development route for her.
Being a dancer or a teacher is a good choice.
But Xu Li had already set herself in her mind what she wanted to do, and she wanted to be an announcer.
From a very young age, she was very interested in watching those uncles and aunts broadcasting on TV.
Often guessing whether they are standing or sitting behind the table, the more I think about it, the more interested I am,
When there is a poetry recitation program in school, she is always the first to sign up.
At the age of 16, Xu Li responded to the call, went to the mountains to become a Zhiqing, and resumed the college entrance examination at the age of 17, Xu Li excitedly returned to take the exam, but did not expect to fall into sun mountain,
Xu Li was very disappointed, just at this time, Changsha Radio and Television Station recruited a host, Xu Li signed up,
In the end, with her dignified image and round pronunciation, she stood out from the 3,000 applicants and entered Changsha Radio and Television Station.
Taili gave her the stage name "Sun Minyan" and hosted a radio program "Youth Mailbox".
Although she could not show her face, Xu Li also worked very hard and soon gained a foothold in the stage.
At the same time, her marriage was also put on the agenda, because Xu Li was excellent in all aspects, and the person who proposed her relatives was about to step on the threshold of her family.
In the end, Xu Li married a man who was very ordinary in all aspects, a demobilized soldier, working in a public institution.
But there is only one point, his temper is particularly good, especially for Xu Li, almost obedient.
Soon after the marriage, Xu Li gave birth to a son, nicknamed "Pete", the whole family was very happy, but Xu Li was not happy.
First of all, the contradiction between her and her husband gradually became prominent, Xu Li had a strong sense of enterprise, and she wanted to climb up with all her heart, often busy late at night before going home.
However, her husband is a small rich and peaceful person, and he usually does not even go out of the house when he rests, and Xu Li feels that he is not out.
Then the career is not very smooth, there are many people in the station and few opportunities, even if Xu Li tries hard, she can still only host radio programs, can not be a real host, she is depressed.
On this day, Xu Li was busy until late at night to go home, as soon as she entered the door, her husband asked with a split face: "Why did you come back so late?" Son, you still don't care? ”
Xu Li listened to his heart and was very aggrieved: "What am I coming back for so late, not for this family, you think I am as idle as you." ”
Upon hearing this, the husband, who had always been good-tempered, was also annoyed, and the two of them had a big fight, which scared the son awake.
After this time, Xu Li felt that it was not a way to do this, and the emotional discord was not good for both people, and it also affected her son's growth.
So the two people divorced peacefully when their son was 10 years old, Xu Li did not want anything, as long as he took his son,
Before leaving, looking at the reluctance to his father in his son's eyes, Xu Li's heart was broken.
She vowed to give her son a better life in the future.
02
After the divorce, an opportunity was in front of us, in 1992, CCTV decided to make a news program for overseas, recruiting hosts from all over the country.
Because it is oriented overseas and the requirements are very strict, the 30-year-old Xu Li believes that he has this ability.
So he resolutely took his son to Beijing to take the exam.
In the end, she stood out from more than 200 outstanding hosts across the country and became the first host of China News.
But Xu Li's development in CCTV is not smooth,
Because her hosting style is too sharp, it is very different from the previous peaceful hosts, which has caused a lot of controversy.
Xu Liman didn't care, but her friend said: "You are so easy to lose the audience, you still have to explain it to everyone, so let me know a commentator and ask him to help you write an article to clarify." ”
Unexpectedly, my friend found him a "thorn".
This person is Zhang Tianwei, a commentator for Beijing Youth Daily.
Zhang Tianwei is a very difficult person to get along with, he has a clear heart and a very sharp writing,
And he easily does not carry anyone's palanquin, and there are very few celebrities he has written and praised,
So he rarely writes about celebrities, but when he writes, he is extraordinary.
But friends instead feel that Xu Li's eye-catching personality and Zhang Tianwei's inexplicable co-production,
Maybe there may be a spark, but it is also possible to quarrel as soon as they meet.
Zhang Tianwei first received this job but scoffed, he didn't write it for half a year, until his friend urged him to think about fooling around,
So he found a Hunan restaurant and invited Xu Li to have a light meal and do an interview.
Unexpectedly, an interview with the Eight Classics turned into a debate in the end.
Zhang Tianwei did not expect that Xu Li not only looks beautiful, but also has her own unique views on social current affairs, and her words are also very sharp and to the point.
In the red-faced argument between the two people, they slowly began to feel sorry for each other.
Because around them, there are more sleek and hypocritical people, and it is very precious to meet a person with the same true disposition as themselves.
Many years later, Xu Li recalled: "When we first met, he was like a grizzly bear, his face was gloomy, and I don't remember what we talked about at that time, but I only remember his gloomy face, which has become warm when listening to me." ”
Maybe this is love, and Xu Li also has a good feeling for this cold man who looks like a "grizzly bear".
"I found him to be the kind of man I like, intelligent, and calm, very funny, often slurred, and not very ostentatious."
So since then, Zhang Tianwei has often invited Xu Li to dinner on the grounds of discussing current affairs, and the two have become very good friends.
Later, Zhang Tianwei learned that Xu Li had divorced, and he had worked very hard with his son, and he was very distressed about her.
He himself has a marriage, knowing how difficult it is for divorced women, not to mention Xu Li's work is so busy,
So he took the initiative to say that his working hours were relatively free and he could take care of her son for her.
Xu Li originally refused, feeling that it was not appropriate, but what happened later made her change her mind.
Once, when she came home, she suddenly found that her son's hair was missing a large piece, and she was shocked and thought that something had happened.
After careful questioning, I learned that my son cut off a lot of hair because of anxiety and depression, and he cut off a lot of hair under his irritability.
Xu Li realized that because she didn't have time, she had been locked up in her son's dormitory for a long time, and her son's psychology had already gone wrong.
So she had to take the initiative to call Zhang Tianwei and ask him to help enlighten her son, Zhang Tianwei was very happy and gladly agreed.
03
Since then, Zhang Tianwei has taken Pete out to relax when he is fine, and drove him around Beijing City.
Pete's personality slowly became cheerful again, and he felt that Zhang Tianwei was like his own father, so he gave him the nickname "Zhang Daddy".
Under the mediation of their sons, the two people gradually changed from friends to lovers, and even prepared to get married.
However, this marriage was opposed by Zhang Tianwei's parents.
Although Zhang Tianwei works very ordinary and is not rich, he is a real famous family.
His father was a senior professor and famous sculptor at the Central Academy of Fine Arts.
My mother is also famous in the sculpture industry, and her works have been collected by the National Art Museum of China.
His younger brother was a doctor and a painter, and the family was a high-level intellectual.
Zhang Tianwei's parents feel that their family should marry a "serious" girl, not a second marriage, and do not show their faces outside, and live with him well.
Unfortunately, Xu Li accounted for both of them, not only that, she also took a son, and the age was already 35 years old.
Moreover, Zhang Tianwei's parents feel that Xu Li's personality is too strong, and I am afraid that I will not be able to take care of the family in the future, and my son will definitely suffer losses, and they will not accept it no matter what.
Xu Li understands zhang Tianwei's parents' worries very well, but she has not given up this love.
Instead, he had a very rational conversation with his future in-laws and showed his determination to put his family first in the future.
In the end, Xu Li impressed the second elder with her sincerity, and they happily accepted her, and soon the two were married.
However, at the beginning of her married life, she was still bumpy, and Xu Li was anxious and often ignored Zhang Tianwei's feelings.
Once Xu Li was going to be late in the morning and was leaving without breakfast.
Zhang Tianwei felt sorry for her and said, "Eat a little, otherwise it will not be good for your health." ”
Unexpectedly, Xu Li said with great disgust: "What time is it to eat what to eat",
After saying that, he slammed the door and left, leaving Zhang Tianwei alone at home depressed, he began to regret his original choice, was it really said by his parents?
They did not expect that all this would be seen by the son in the bedroom.
After they were all gone, the son secretly went to their room and rummaged through the boxes and cabinets to find their marriage certificates.
A sentence was written on the marriage certificate, and Xu Li came home and burst into tears after seeing it.
The son wrote: "Mom and Dad, I love you, you are not allowed to quarrel, we will never be separated." ”
Xu Li knew that what hurt the child was not divorce, but his own temper.
If this continues, I am afraid that I will not even be able to keep this marriage, and I will hurt my son again.
So since then, she has gradually contracted her temper and personality, leaving more time for her family, and she and Zhang Tianwei have fallen in love with each other more and more.
But Xu Li felt more and more ashamed of her husband, and she often saw Zhang Tianwei's envious eyes as she watched others give birth to children.
Unfortunately, she and Zhang Tianwei have been married for many years, but they have not been able to give birth to their own children, and they are 40 years old in the blink of an eye.
Relying on the possibility of natural pregnancy is unlikely, Xu Li is ready to use medical means to give birth to a child for her husband and fulfill his wish to be a father.
But Zhang Tianwei knew and sternly refused,
He said: "You are 40 years old, the doctors have said that it is dangerous to have children now, don't take any more risks, I have made Pete my own son, I have enough of you in my life." ”
Xu Li's eyes were red when she heard this, but she also had to face this reality, and she decided that she must take good care of her husband in the future.
So Xu Li, who has always been strong, officially went through retirement procedures at the age of 60 in 2021, just to be able to spend more time with her husband.
Although she is also very reluctant, but now at the age of 60, she already knows what is most important to her.
04
After retirement, she and her husband worked out together, bought groceries and shopping together, listened to concerts together, watched friends together, wandered in bookstores together, traveled together,
Her husband, as her photographer, took beautiful pictures for her, and Xu Li in the photo was still shining at the age of 61.
Retirement for Xu Li is more of a "retreating" attitude to life.
After retirement, Xu Li often returned to CCTV to meet old friends and exchange lectures with new media newcomers.
Sharing interesting facts about her anchor on the show, etc., these are not difficult to see, Xu Li's endless progress and understanding of life.
Xu Li has been hosting the stage for 29 years and is well received by the audience, but she did not expect that an act after retirement caused public anger.
On March 14 of this year, Xu Li posted a video on the short video platform of her driving back to Beijing from Sanya.
In the video, Xu Li said that she had just arrived in Jiangxi, and the road was very smooth, and she was not affected by the "mask incident", which was very lucky.
But after everyone reads it, they can't agree with her behavior.
They have said: Now the epidemic situation in various places is very serious, especially in big cities such as Beijing.
And Xu Li, despite the danger of the epidemic, traveled all the way from Sanya by car, and stayed in many cities.
In addition to the possibility of changes to her own itinerary code, it may also have an impact on others, one of which is a city.
I have to say that everyone is very right, the more important the moment, the more the star must be careful in words and deeds, to lead by example,
Because you are a star, you can't ignore the safety of others, but you should take the lead.
Of course, Xu Li soon realized her mistake, and after triggering the public anger, she quickly deleted the video.
In fact, Xu Li just wants to share with everyone her good life after retirement, which is understandable.
She is a woman who loves life and has to live her wonderful life no matter how old she is.
Xu Li herself once said such a sentence: "Twenty years old live youth, thirty years old live charm, forty years old live wisdom, fifty years old live calmly, sixty years old live easy, seventy years old becomes a priceless treasure!" ”
Interestingly, her words seem to be a reflection of her life.
With practical actions, she proves a sentence she once wrote in an article: "No matter what age I live, I must be beautiful until I am old." ”
A woman like Xu Li has her own style when she is young, and she can still live out her own elegance when she is old.
Love nourishes her body and mind, broadens her horizons, allows her to be unafraid of the passage of age, elegant to old age, treading all over the mountains and rivers, and turning her life into poetry, which is really enviable.