Sudden divorce
Sure enough, the big melons were caught off guard.
At 10:00 a.m. the day before yesterday, Dong Zijian and Sun Yi posted on Weibo announcing their divorce.
"We'll all be fine."
"I wished us in the past, and I wish you and me in the future."
Source: Sun Yi and Dong Zijian's Weibo
Subsequently, the studios of both parties officially issued a divorce declaration.
All of a sudden, netizens were blindfolded:
Haven't the relationship between these two people always been good?
Not long ago, Dong Zijian was also photographed by the media to visit Sun Yi in Hengdian. In the meantime, the two talked and laughed, and Sun Yi was still lying on Dong Zijian's lap to rest.
In June this year, Dong Zijian celebrated Sun Yika's birthday and affectionately called Sun Yi "Dafu Ma".
Source: Dong Zijian's Weibo
How did you suddenly get divorced?
You know, since the two got married, they have been a model benchmark for internal entertainment marriage in the hearts of netizens.
From meeting and getting married to having children, the feelings of the two reveal a "sweet" word everywhere.
In 2015, at the Tokyo Film Festival, Dong Zijian, who was on the red carpet, met Sun Yi, who was on the red carpet.
Just a quick glance, Dong Zijian remembered Sun Yi's sweet smile. He asked the agent to get Sun Yi's contact information, and then began to pursue Sun Yi.
It is said that "fate can't be stopped when it comes", in fact, earlier, Sun Yi had a good feeling for Dong Zijian.
At that time, Dong Zijian came to the fore with "Youth Faction" and was quite famous in the circle.
Sun Yi accidentally saw Dong Zijian's works and was impressed by his charm. With the help of an agent, the two officially met at a party.
In October 2016, some media filmed the two taking a plane together and broke the news on the Internet.
Without hiding it, Dong Zijian generously disclosed his relationship.
Image source: Sun Yi's Weibo
Then, in May 2017, the two appeared on the cover of Jia Ren magazine together and officially announced the news of their marriage.
Source: Jia Ren magazine
Since then, it has become a habit to sprinkle "dog food" every day.
Frequent interaction on Weibo, showing affection while shaking each other:
Source: Sun Yi and Dong Zijian's Weibo
In the show, it is also seized the opportunity to sprinkle "dog food" to the audience:
Sun Yi participated in the "Happy Base Camp", and He Jiong asked her:
"Would you compare him to you better, or would you be better for your baby?"
Sun Yi blurted out: "He is better for me." ”
Source: "Happy Base Camp"
Dong Zijian participated in the variety show, and a guest asked him to repeat what he said when he was chasing Sun Yi, and he directly explained:
"You can only say this to your wife."
Source: Tangerine Spicy Interview
In 2021, at the Magnolia Awards Ceremony, Dong Zijian regretted that he did not win the award.
Sun Yi teased on Weibo while comforting:
"Dong Zijian, although you didn't win the prize today, after watching the red carpet, I decided to add chicken legs to you tonight."
Image source: Sun Yi's Weibo
And Dong Zijian? It is also worried about Sun Yi everywhere.
When recording "Just a Teenager", he said that he used to squat in the bridge hole and cry when he missed home, and then look at the stars in the sky; Later, when I went back, I found that the bridge hole was gone, and I felt very sad.
As soon as he finished speaking, he saw a shooting star, and then immediately called Sun Yi and told her:
"I saw a shooting star, I made a wish, I hope you have a successful performance."
Such a word and deed is exactly like a couple in love, no different from ordinary people.
In the year of marriage, Sun Yi and Dong Zijian were only 24 years old, which belonged to the "young and early marriage".
They have been asked by many people, have they ever regretted getting married too early?
Dong Zijian only said one sentence:
"If I hadn't met her, I wouldn't have gotten married until now."
Sun Yi replied:
"I got married when I was 24. Many people think that it is too early to get married, whether they should work for a while before getting married.
"I'm 28 years old, my kids are 4 years old, and I feel like my life is particularly full and happy."
Source: Variety show "Goodbye Lover"
Perhaps, it is precisely because the marriage between the two once seemed so happy that the divorce seemed so sudden.
However, there are also some different sounds.
Just as there is no love and hate in the world without a cause, no one will leave for no reason.
Such happiness and satisfaction may be an illusion of netizens.
"And today's ending, there is already a foreshadowing."
There are traces to everything
When Sun Yi was a guest in the variety show "Goodbye Lover", she emotionally told some stories in her marriage.
Among them, there are many troubles:
She and Dong Zijian quarreled before going to bed, and she was angry, only to find that Dong Zijian was already asleep;
She and Dong Zijian shared what she thought was very interesting, and only got a very perfunctory "um";
In addition, she will be urged by Dong Zijian to have a second child, even if she has made it clear that she does not want to have children...
But these are not the main ones.
Sun Yi's biggest trouble came from Dong Zijian's mother, Wang Jinghua.
Who is Wang Jinghua?
In addition to "Dong Zijian's mother", she also has a more bullish label - China's first generation of brokers.
Image source: Baidu Encyclopedia
When Wang Jinghua entered the industry, it was in the 90s of the last century, when there was no concept of "broker" in China.
At that time, Huayi spent a lot of money to dig up Wang Jinghua, so that Wang Jinghua could shine in Huayi.
Wang Jinghua has successively won the popularity of Artists such as Chen Daoming, Li Bingbing, ren Quan, etc., which makes her extremely popular in the circle.
Thanks to Wang Jinghua's status and fame, Dong Zijian, who grew up in the star pile, was born with a good deck of cards.
At the age of 19, he won the award with a "Youth Faction", and many people in the industry said that he had the potential of "movie emperor".
Dong Zijian became famous at a young age and became more and more popular.
And Sun Yi?
At that time, her family conditions, fame in the circle, and personal works were far from being comparable to Dong Zijian.
Even, she just got together with Dong Zijian, and some netizens exposed that -
Not only was she once just an 18-line model, but her original acting resources were given by her predecessor.
Therefore, for a long time, Sun Yi married Dong Zijian's love story, and many people did not think so.
They felt that such a daughter-in-law, as strong as Wang Jinghua, how could she be satisfied?
Some people say that Wang Jinghua once wanted Sun Yi to take the money and leave, but in the end it was hindered by the feelings of the two small mouths, especially Dong Zijian's determination to be with Sun Yi.
As a last resort, Wang Jinghua accepted Sun Yi.
Watching a star couple who are stubborn for love getting better and better, the attitude of netizens has also changed.
What was not optimistic at first turned into a blessing.
The two did not post a marriage license or hold a banquet. Sun Yi said that at that time, both of them were too young to be necessary.
But deep down, she would love to have a wedding of her own.
For the rumors from the outside world, Sun Yi has not been able to pass this hurdle in his heart.
She explained publicly more than once, even tearfully on the show scene:
"Everyone thinks that I married Dong Zijian because I was grabbing resources. Because Xiao Dong's mother is an agent, and she is a very successful agent. I've never said anything about it, but I see this kind of comment a lot online. Everyone will think, oh she has such a good mother-in-law, she doesn't worry about anything...
"Xiao Dong also asked me at that time, saying whether he wanted to work together in my mother-in-law's company. I said yes or no, I have my own agency, I hope that in addition to the family aspect, I have my own small world. Women want to be independent. ”
Image source: Network
Sun Yi did not want to have a second child because she felt that the pressure of having a second child was too great.
At the beginning, in order to take care of her daughter who was just 5 months old, she had to take her daughter while filming.
What Dong Zijian, as a husband, is doing, and what Wang Jinghua, as a mother-in-law, is doing, Sun Yi did not say.
The reason for the end of a marriage is often not single.
I've seen a metaphor for "feelings":
Lovers who break up because of quarrels are not because of something, but because of dissatisfaction.
Emotions are like a bathtub, which can hold water and can also produce water.
The first time you quarreled, you thought she was okay, not really okay, but she could bear it.
Always angry, always endure, and when the dissatisfaction in the bathtub is full, you apologize again and it doesn't matter.
Some netizens found that before the divorce, Sun Yi sent a photo, and her mobile phone case had four words written on it: Stay away from men.
Source: Sun Yi's Little Red Book
Some people say that this is a hint that they are hurt by Dong Zijian; Some say it's a sign of divorce.
What exactly the reason for the divorce between the two is, no one knows except themselves.
Or maybe there's not that much explanation at all.
No love, nothing more.
Just like a lyric by Sun Yanzi:
Love is fluid and uninhibited, so why be excited about reasons?
Image source: Network
"Can you still believe in love?"
The divorce of Dong Zijian and Sun Yi is decent in the entertainment industry.
As the two men wrote in their statements:
They are separated peacefully, and then they raise their children together as relatives and friends.
Source: Weibo @ Dong Zijian Studio
What is confusing is that some netizens, as well as their repeated words of brushing the screen:
"××× divorced, can you still believe in love?"
"××× are divorced, and I don't believe in love anymore."
……
Image source: Network
It seems that every time a celebrity in the entertainment industry divorces, he will have the same feelings.
Or, someone imagines the relationship between two people as his last "line of defense", and once the two people are divorced or emotionally broken, he no longer believes in love.
Image source: Network
This topic can be on the hot search every time, indicating that many people are looking for a benchmark for love in the entertainment industry.
Frankly speaking, there are only two reasons why many people have this idea.
First, in the words of one netizen, what does it mean to believe in love.
Image source: Network
Because of what?
The answers can be listed in a long list: the Internet, short videos, social software, film and television dramas, reality shows...
I have to admit that many young people's understanding of love at present is derived from film and television dramas, reality shows and other online content.
Deliberately created conflicts, forced-guided endings, filtered visions, screen-based human settings...
Good-looking, exciting, interesting, but you can't see what love looks like in the real world.
Just ate the "dog food" of a certain pair of stars yesterday, and may receive news of their divorce today; Take the affection of an actor or star as an example today, and as a result, tomorrow he will be exposed to cheating...
Every time you give a little more truth, you may end up with a little more self-doubt.
In the final analysis, the characters, bridges, and plots under these lenses are too far away from us ordinary people.
It is unrealistic to let actors and stars act as guides to love.
But there are many people who are keen to dig out the meaning of love and marriage from these groups and news.
What we see may only be what others want us to see; What we hear is only what others want us to hear.
In the end, I found that I was "moved", "broken defense" and "did not believe" at every turn, and many of them were just self-moved and self-anesthetized.
Expensive energy, time, and emotions are spent, and only cheap emotions are left.
What kind of love concept should a person have?
The benevolent see the benevolent.
But one thing is certain, and that is:
Our concept of love should be based on our own real and personal feelings, rather than pinning on others.
So, let's take a closer look at the love and marriage around us.
There is a terrible place of chicken feathers;
Image source: Network
There is also ordinary and happy romance;
Image source: Weibo
Most importantly, it is real.
Second, the subtext of the phrase "××× divorce, I don't believe in love anymore" is: Divorce is a bad thing.
This is actually an inherent perception of many people.
After all, for a long time, we have been taught to "value peace", "persuade peace and not persuade to divide", "rather tear down a temple than break a marriage".
But that's always the case, is that right?
The answer is no.
Everyone wants their marriage to be happy and harmonious, but reality can backfire.
Good love needs to be managed, but an inappropriate marriage really doesn't have to be hard together.
Under the hashtag #Sun Yi Dong Zijian divorce#, a netizen mentioned two concepts in the message:
"Divorce breakup" and "socialization of remarriage".
Image source: Network
This means that divorce is as simple as breaking up, and remarriage is also a normal social phenomenon.
Divorce is not a negative and bad thing, and it does not mean that the sweetness of the past is false.
Courageously believe in love while having the ability to choose to leave or not.
Perhaps this is the cognition and preparation that we should have in the face of love and marriage.
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