Original: Liu Na
Source: Idle Blossoms
Author | Liu Na
The first public number | Flowers bloom in idle time
After a happy ending, it is often the beginning of a gap.
This, in the Internet age, is simply a spell.
Sun Haiyang, the prototype of the movie "Dear" and the owner of the bun shop who has been looking for his son for 14 years, found his long-lost son Sun Zhuo on December 6 last year.
The scene of the family's joy and tears when they met touched the whole network.
Later, under the efforts of Sun Haiyang with methods and strategies, his son Sun Zhuo was willing to return to his biological parents and study and settle in Shenzhen, where the living conditions and educational conditions were better.
A family of 5 people, finally neatly together.
This is a happy ending for everyone.
No one thought that now because of the problem of 200,000 bounties, Sun Haiyang has been pushed into the hot search.
After I understood the ins and outs of the matter, I found that the real humanity and network surging hidden in it were particularly worth writing about.
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Sun Haiyang, the owner of the bun shop, after his son Sun Zhuo was lost, for 14 years, holding his son's photo, traveled through most of China to look for it.
In the process of searching for a child, he witnessed the pain of many children being abducted and sold by the family, and also searched for a child with many parents with the same disease, and everyone formed a small circle of mutual help and mutual help.
No matter whose child finds it first, everyone in the circle is being healed and sees hope:
"If someone else's abducted child can find it, my family should be able to find it."
In September 2021, through technical comparison, the Shenzhen police confirmed Fu Jiantao, a "lost child" abducted by human traffickers when playing in a community in Shenzhen 14 years ago, and then launched rescue, and organized Fu Jiantao and his biological parents to recognize each other for the first time.
Fu Jiantao and his mother Peng Dongying
After Fu Jiantao was found, Sun Haiyang, whose son was also lost in Shenzhen, contacted Fu Jiantao's biological mother Peng Dongying many times to explore the relevant news of his abducted son Sun Zhuo through Fu Jiantao.
After Fu Jiantao watched the surveillance video of Sun Zhuo being abducted on the Internet, he thought that the person who abducted Sun Zhuo was very similar to his adoptive parents' "third uncle" Wu Moulong, so he provided this clue to the special case team.
Based on this clue, the Shenzhen police quickly determined that it was Fu Jiantao's "third uncle" Wu Moulong who abducted Sun Zhuo, and launched a rescue for Sun Zhuo.
Sun Haiyang, who has been looking for his son for 14 years, finally reunited with his son.
If the story ends here, it is still quite warm:
After a trafficked child is found, he helps reunite another family.
But the complexity of human nature is:
Many times, people can only suffer together, and it is difficult to share happiness.
Suffering is the blessing of the external cause of great suffering.
And gonggan has extremely high requirements for personal morality and cultivation.
The unity and hatred of the past is because everyone is a very unfortunate parent of abducted children.
When the suffering of "jointly searching for the abducted child" disappeared, Sun Haiyang and Peng Dongying fell into the strangeness and suspicion of chicken feathers.
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Just this past August 9, Fu Jiantao's biological mother Peng Dongying put Sun Haiyang on the hot search with an article titled "The Blood and Tears Of a Parent Looking for a Daughter".
It also tears up the network mutual aid group of relatives and families, and the gaps and contradictions under the veil of warmth.
This complaint is very long, friends who have not read it, click the following picture to slide to view.
Fu Jiantao's mother, Peng Dongying, was a long man
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Let me briefly sort out the main contradictions for you:
● After Sun Zhuo was found, Peng Dongying was attacked by the Internet because of topics such as "Fu Jiantao provided clues to help find Sun Zhuo".
Some netizens attacked the clues provided by Fu Jiantao, which did not help to find Sun Zhuo substantially.
Condemn Fu Jiantao for grabbing merit and touching porcelain.
● Invited by Sun Haiyang, Peng Dongying and his son Fu Jiantao participated in the scene of the Sun family's recognition.
But at that time, Sun Haiyang did not thank Fu Jiantao, and his indifferent attitude made Peng Dongying feel cold.
As Fu Jiantao's mother, Peng Dongying, out of the love of her son, stated the facts on social platforms and complained, but was accused by netizens of asking for a bounty.
● Peng Dongying asked Sun Haiyang:
Did the clues provided by Fu Jiantao help to find Sun Zhuo in the end?
Has Sun Haiyang publicly promised to pay a bounty of 200,000 yuan to the clue provider?
Does the clue provided by Fu Jiantao meet the conditions set?
In this regard, on August 10, Sun Haiyang publicly responded:
The clues provided by Fu Jiantao are helpful in retrieving Sun Zhuo, and he is willing to pay the 200,000 yuan bounty promised before.
Earlier, he had sent red envelopes to Peng Dongying many times, the highest amount was 10,000 yuan, but Peng Dongying did not accept it.
Sun Haiyang's response
Sun Haiyang also said:
All the people who helped him find his relatives, he was very grateful.
As for the recognition of relatives at the scene did not thank Fu Jiantao, it was because there were too many people, the scene was chaotic, and the consideration was not careful.
He also reminded the majority of netizens:
Don't expose and hurt Fu Jiantao's mother again, because she is an orphan and has a pitiful life, and later Fu Jiantao was abducted again, causing her a lot of psychological trauma.
"I never expected Tao Tao's mother to write such a letter." Sun Haiyang said that the parents of the abducted children are poor people, and they must help each other and not hurt each other.
Many reporters who followed and interviewed Sun Zhuo's relatives said that Sun Haiyang was a very smart, very decent, and very intelligent person.
Now it seems that this is indeed the case.
After Sun Haiyang and Fu Jiantao's mother Peng Dongying became the first hot search, many people began to scold Peng Dongying:
With low emotional intelligence and a worrying IQ, the abducted child of his own family identifies a trafficker, but asks for a bounty from the parent of another abducted child, which is contrary to public order and good customs.
How could she forget that Sun Haiyang still took her to find her son's kindness?
Everyone is looking for relatives together, there is information sharing inside, it is normal, why do you still want a bounty?
The pattern is too small.
Then, a new round of accusations and internet violence was launched against Peng Dongying.
To tell you the truth, after reading these arguments and harsh accusations, my heart was very unhappy.
Because I think of another child who has successfully recognized with Sun Haiyang and Fu Jiantao, Liu Xuezhou.
Just two months after the success of the recognition of relatives, Liu Xuezhou left a suicide note that was "born light, and the time is also pure", and committed suicide on the coast of Sanya.
One of Liu Xuezhou's killers was also a cyber violence.
And behind this, there is the truth that I especially want to say today-
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The first truth I would like to say is:
Condemn cyberbullying because it is the culprit.
Why did Fu Jiantao's mother mention the bounty of 200,000 at this time?
If she is really a person who loves money, why didn't she accept it when Sun Haiyang sent her red envelopes many times?
The answer is:
What she wants is not money, but a fight for a breath.
For Peng Dongying, the mother of Fu who found her own son, she has always believed that her own son Fu Jiantao, at the risk of offending his adoptive parents' family, identified the "Third Uncle" as a trafficker who abducted Sun Zhuo, which was of great help to Sun Haiyang in searching for relatives.
After her son was abducted, as a biological mother, she felt very guilty.
This extreme sense of guilt made her particularly concerned about any subtle feelings of her son who had been retrieved.
Therefore, she played a crucial role in whether Fu Jiantao played a crucial role in the matter of Sun Zhuo's recovery, and she was particularly concerned.
The neglect of Sun Haiyang's search for relatives, as well as the credit of netizens who blamed everything on the police, made her feel that the value of her son Fu Jiantao was not recognized.
In addition, she herself was orphaned, and her son was abducted in her prime, which brought severe pain and trauma to Peng Dongying, and even caused her depression.
Netizens' Internet violence activated her trauma again and again, so she issued a long text in anger:
The compensation is only the appearance, the truth is a mother's defense of her son's merits.
Moreover, even if she is not big enough, there is nothing wrong with asking for a bounty.
After all, Sun Haiyang's Baidu Encyclopedia character label so far is still "Shenzhen City reward 200,000 son-seeking shop parties".
Netizens were dissatisfied with Peng Dongying, scolding her for being too small, in fact, projecting their own value expectations and moral standards onto her and moral kidnapping her:
Everyone is a bitter person, why talk about money?
Taking a step back, what's wrong with talking about money?
Not talking about the relationship and problems of money is the most deadly, and what can be solved with money is easy.
Peng Dongying's most fatal problem is that after she was provoked by the net storm, she did not know how to fight back, nor could she find the attacker hiding behind the keyboard, so she pointed the spearhead at Sun Haiyang.
So, why was Peng Dongying attacked by the Internet?
And that brings us to the second truth I want to tell —
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The second truth:
Be wary of the platform because it is for the capital side of the traffic.
Our current social platform has the original sin of chasing traffic.
I speak from my own personal experience.
In 2018, I was on a hot search.
The reason is that a passage in one of my articles went viral and was mistaken for written by Li Yong's wife, Ha Wen.
The Beijing News interviewed me, and after restoring the truth, Weibo contacted me for the first time and added a V to me.
After adding V, I rarely tweeted.
Why?
As a person from a media background, I am wary enough about social platforms.
My livelihood platform is WeChat, not Weibo.
I also know very well that a very clear sentence, when you post it on the Internet, there are 100 interpretations.
These 100 interpretations will seriously interfere with my life and study.
Our social platform, for the sake of traffic, is particularly keen to open personal accounts for "XXX incident parties".
Over the years, the parties to almost every hot event will be invited by various platforms to open the number and add V.
What about after it's opened?
The platform sits and waits to harvest traffic, regardless of whether the parties to these events have the ability to play games with the Internet.
The parties involved in these events were originally ordinary people, who originally had a quiet life and simple thoughts.
Suddenly pushed to the center of the network, in the face of a surge of attention, or malicious comments, do not know how to deal with, become panicked.
The division of the Internet will exacerbate their fears and anxieties.
Everything they say will be examined with a magnifying glass and then maliciously attacked.
If they are not psychologically strong enough, they are easily manipulated by internet storms and go to extremes.
Liu Xuezhou, who successfully searched for relatives, was invited to social platforms and chose to commit suicide because he could not bear the online violence.
During the Epidemic in Shanghai, the Shanghai woman who delivered food to her father, gave the takeaway brother a red envelope of 200 yuan, after being reported by the media, she was insulted by netizens as "too little", and under the sadness and anxiety, this filial daughter also chose to commit suicide.
Nowadays, Fu Jiantao's mother, who has successfully searched for a son, has become more and more worrying after entering the social platform, and she is also in the Internet storm...
In this sense, sun haiyang, who was praised, Fu Jiantao's mother, who was depressed, and Liu Xuezhou, who committed suicide, fell into the same kind of magic:
After being consumed by social platforms, he was kidnapped by online speech, showing too much of his life and emotions on the Internet.
In the Internet age, everyone can speak up.
But not everyone has a strong psychological quality to withstand the pressure of various voices on the Internet.
Based on this, the last thing I want to say is -
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The Third Truth:
Stay away from the Internet unless you have to make a living on the Internet.
If you don't live off the Internet, I recommend keeping your distance from the Internet.
If you are a party to an event, when the event is over, your mission will be completed, and you must learn to stay away from the Internet and return to reality to build your own life.
Don't argue with people online.
Because even if you win an argument, you lose— because your time has been stolen by fools and levers.
Whether it is Fu Jiantao's mother or Sun Zhuo's father, I hope that after they fulfill their responsibilities for the incident, press the pause button, stay away from the Internet, and live their own lives.
Liu Xuezhou-style tragedy, one is sad enough.
Happiness is a kind of quiet consummation, and there is no need to show it to outsiders.
Attention on social platforms is actually a bubble, love and hate, right and wrong, like and destroy, is not important.
What is important is that we learn to be gentle in our daily lives, cultivate peace in our private domains, and live ourselves behind the crowds.
At this point, I most admire Zhong Meimei and his mother.
After Zhong Meimei became popular, she refused the salary of a Beijing brokerage company to "give 15 million yuan + a Beijing house in three years".
He returned to the campus, studied quietly, studied well, and was admitted to a key high school this year.
He was not wrapped up in the platform, nor was he lost by the traffic, but returned to reality and built his life down-to-earth.
This sober 15-year-old teenager told more people:
The Internet is ultimately illusory, and reality is life.
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Idle Blossom (ID: xsha369): Author Liu Na, an old girl after the 80s, an emotional columnist, literary and artistic rationality, gentle and dead. The new book "See words as faces" is selling well on the whole network.