Is it better or worse to marry far away? There has never been a definitive definition of this question.
I think whether you are happy in marriage or not, in fact, there is no half-cent relationship with marrying far away, but it depends on what kind of person your other half is.
I have many examples around me, marrying near home and getting divorced, and then getting divorced again.
There are also those who have been married far away, and the feelings of the husband and wife have always been very good, they have never quarreled, and there is no contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
From here, you can see a very simple truth, marry the right person, you will be happy for a lifetime, marry the wrong person, the consequences are really terrible.
The protagonist we are going to talk about today is a girl who is married far away.
She was unfortunate that she thought she had found a happy home, and it was not until she divorced her husband five years later that she found that she had married far away.
How stupid is it to cut off contact with your parents, even because you avoid your mother's search, you haven't even seen the last side of your father.
Yu Lili was born in an ordinary family in the northern countryside, and there is an older brother on it, her father is not in good health, has chronic diseases, and her life is also continued by drugs.
Therefore, when Yu Lili and her brother were young, all the sources of expenses in the family fell on their mothers, and their mother Liu Xiaoying naturally became the top pillar of the family.
Julie has been very sensible since she was a child, her academic performance is also very good, and she looks at her mother so hard every day.
She secretly swore in her heart that when she grew up, she must earn a lot of money, let the family live a good life, and let her mother no longer worry about money.
So when she graduated from high school and was close to the college entrance examination, Yu Lili told her parents with a resolute face that she did not want to go to school, she wanted to go out to work to reduce the burden for her mother, at this time Yu Lili had just turned 18 years old.
Her academic performance has always been very good, and it is still easy to get into a good university.
But when she thought that her brother was already in college, and her father had to spend money on medicine every day, if she still had to go to college, the tuition fee would be a lot of money.
Yu Lili looked at her mother's calloused hands, the face that was obviously older than her actual age after being blown and sunburned, and she was extremely distressed about her mother, so she made this decision.
When she heard Yu Lili say that she was going to go out to work when she was no longer in school, Liu Xiaoying and her husband were stunned.
Because just a few days ago, Liu Xiaoying also discussed with her husband whether she should go to find a part-time job after work, and earn more money to keep for Yu Lili as a college tuition.
But seeing that Yu Lili's attitude is very resolute, Liu Xiaoying also knows in her heart that now a family of four people must rely on her to earn money, otherwise there will be no economic resources.
Knowing that her abilities were limited, she could only sigh helplessly and agree to Julie's decision.
When she heard that her mother promised her that she could not go to school, Yu Lili smiled happily, and she felt that she could finally go out and earn money to relieve her mother's burden.
Seeing Yu Lili smile, Liu Xiaoying was crying, and she felt that she had no ability and no ability to continue to support Yu Lili to go to college.
Julie was so old that she never left home, and she didn't know where she was going or what she could do when she went out.
So she thought of her cousin You Juan, who worked in the southern city, and You Juan would tell her every new year that it was so good to work in the south, and she was envious of Yu Lili, and she also wanted to go out and see it for herself.
However, she was in school, even during the winter and summer vacations, she had been working for her mother at home, so she had never had the opportunity.
Thinking of this, Yu Lili went directly to uncle, asked uncle Youjuan's mobile phone number, called Youjuan, said that she was no longer in school, and wanted to go out to find her and work with her.
When she heard Yu Lili say that she was going to find herself, Yu Juan was also surprised, because in her understanding, Yu Lili's academic performance has always been very good, and it is not difficult to get into a good university.
So he hurriedly asked Yu Lili the reason, and when he heard Yu Lili finish the reason, Yu Juan was silent, and for a long time, Yu Juan opened her mouth
Well, if you don't go to school, you can't go, you come out, stay with me, and I'll take you to work with you.
Determined to go to You Juan, Yu Lili began to pack her luggage, and the next day, Liu Xiaoying got up early in the morning to make a rich breakfast for Yu Lili.
At breakfast, Liu Xiaoying sent Yu Lili to the station, and before parting, Liu Xiaoying took out a wrapped handkerchief from his pocket.
When I opened the handkerchief, there was crumpled money in it, all ten dollars, twenty dollars, plus one piece and more than three hundred dollars.
Liu Xiaoying directly stuffed all the money into Yu Lili's hand, Yu Lili originally did not want it, but Liu Xiaoying's attitude was very firm, saying that how could she do without some money outside.
As she spoke, her eyes were full of tears, and she was about to cry out, and seeing her mother like this, Julie had to accept the money.
Liu Xiaoying also told Yu Lili to listen to You Juan's words when she went to the south, and only then did she have tears in her eyes and watched Yu Lili get into the car.
In the south, Under the introduction of You Juan, Yu Lili entered an electronics factory to work, and she could earn four or five thousand yuan a month.
Every month she was paid, Yu Lili only left herself a few hundred yuan for living expenses, and the rest of the salary was all sent home.
In the electronics factory, Yu Lili met Chang Jun, her future husband.
Chang Jun is three years older than Yu Lili, he did not go to school after graduating from junior high school, he came to the society early to work hard, saw a lot of the world, and people became very smooth.
Yu Lili is just a little girl who has just come out of society, has no social experience, and under the attack of Chang Jun's sweet words, she quickly sinks into it and talks about love with Chang Jun.
During the love period, Chang Jun was also very good to Yu Lili, and never let her suffer a little grievance.
This made Yu Lili feel very lucky, met such a good man as Chang Jun, she thought in her heart, she must be very handsome in this life.
When it was time for the New Year's holiday, Yu Lili took Chang Jun home with her, ready to show her mother, and the two bought a few gifts and carried them into the house together.
Seeing that Yu Lili actually brought a boyfriend home, Liu Xiaoying was unhappy.
First, because Yu Lili is still too young and only nineteen years old, Liu Xiaoying does not want her to fall in love too soon.
Second, because Chang Jun's family is more than two thousand kilometers away, if Yu Lili is with him, she will inevitably marry far away in the future.
Liu Xiaoying did not want Yu Lili to marry far away, and naturally she was very opposed to the two being together.
Chang Jun only stayed at Yu Lili's house for one day before leaving, because Liu Xiaoying was very reluctant to see him.
After Chang Jun left, Liu Xiaoying bitterly persuaded Yu Lili to let her break up with Chang Jun, but Liu Xiaoying was fascinated by Chang Jun, how could she agree.
In the end, Liu Xiaoying was a little annoyed by what she said, and Yu Lili had to verbally agree with Liu Xiaoying, saying that she would break up with Chang Jun, but in her heart, she had no intention of breaking up with Chang Jun.
After the new year, Yu Lili came to the south to work again, and naturally mixed with Chang Jun, and the two actually lived together directly.
Commuting to work together every day, cooking together, going out together on vacation, living happily, like a newly married couple.
During the cohabitation period, Yu Lili was pregnant, because the two were not yet married, Yu Lili did not dare to tell her mother, and finally the two discussed and went directly to the hospital to beat the child.
In the blink of an eye, a year has passed, and when it came time for the New Year's holiday, this time Yu Lili did not go home, but returned home with Chang Jun, and she did not talk to Liu Xiaoying.
When it was twenty-eight years old, Liu Xiaoying saw that Yu Lili had not yet returned home from out of town, and she was a little anxious, so she called Yu Lili and asked about it, and Yu Lili said that she had returned home with Chang Jun.
Hearing that Yu Lili actually went home with Chang Jun, this made Liu Xiaoying angry, and directly scolded Yu Lili on the phone, and asked her to hurry home.
But Yu Lili is very stubborn, no matter what Liu Xiaoying said, how to scold her, she just did not want to go back, and finally directly hung up the phone.
Liu Xiaoying was angry, directly called his son, took a day and a night train to Chang Jun's house, ready to take Yu Lili home, but Yu Lili did not want to leave.
In the end, it was under the raw pull of Liu Xiaoying and her son that Yu Lili was brought home.
After Yu Lili was taken home, Liu Xiaoying directly locked her in the house.
Every day, when she was eating, she opened the door and sent some food in, in order not to let her out, Liu Xiaoying directly put a urinal for her in the house.
Yu Lili was locked in the house by Liu Xiaoying, and she was afraid that she would never see Chang Jun again, so she slammed the door in the house every day and let Liu Xiaoying let her go.
Every day looking at Yu Lili as if she were crazy, Liu Xiaoying couldn't help but burst into tears, she couldn't understand that Yu Lili was such an obedient and well-behaved girl before, and she had only gone out to work for two years, how could she rebel like this?
Yu Lili has been locked up for more than two months, for a long time, Liu Xiaoying is afraid that every day to lock Yu Lili in the house, people will be broken, so this day she went to the ground to pull grass, she brought Yu Lili up.
When they got to the ground, when they first started pulling grass, the two of them were still crouching together, and pulling out Julie proposed that they should go to the other end alone.
Liu Xiaoying felt that Yu Lili may have a grudge against herself in her heart and did not want to pull grass with herself, and she did not care too much, so she nodded her head in agreement, and then continued to crouch down and pull grass.
After pulling out for more than half an hour, Liu Xiaoying called out to Yu Lili and asked her if she was thirsty and whether she wanted to drink some water, but she cried several times in a row and did not see Yu Lili answer.
Liu Xiaoying quickly stood up and looked at the place where Yu Lili was pulling grass, but where there was still Yu Lili's figure, Yu Lili actually took advantage of her lack of attention and secretly ran away.
Liu Xiaoying is so angry! Angry, she went straight home, the grass was not pulled, and she was a little dead to Yu Lili in her heart, and she did not plan to go to her.
After Yu Lili ran away, she went directly to Uncle Da's house, lied to Uncle Da, said that her mother agreed to let her come out, and borrowed five hundred yuan from Uncle Da, took the money, and Yu Lili went directly to the car to find Chang Jun.
After finding Chang Jun, Yu Lili followed Chang Jun back home, and the two held a wedding in Chang Jun's hometown, and the wedding was very shabby, not even a wedding dress.
But In her heart, Julie felt as sweet as honey, and she felt that as long as she could be with Chang Jun, the wedding dress was all virtual, and she didn't care.
After Liu Xiaoying's anger subsided, she naturally went to find Yu Lili again, even if Yu Lili did not want her mother, but she still wanted Yu Lili's daughter.
But after Yu Lili got married, in order to make her mother unable to find herself, she directly changed her mobile phone number, cut off contact with her relatives and friends in her hometown, and changed to a new city with Chang Jun to work.
During this period, Liu Xiaoying did not know how many times she called Yu Lili, but none of them could get through, and slowly, she also broke the idea of looking for Yu Lili.
A year after Yu Lili got married, she gave birth to a daughter, because she gave birth to a girl, Chang Jun's parents were a little unhappy, they had a very heavy idea of son preference, and wanted a grandchild.
However, Yu Lili was the first child and could be regenerated, so they didn't say much.
In the third year after marriage, Yu Lili gave birth to a daughter, and Chang Jun's parents were reluctant to do so, and every day yu Lili's nose was not a nose, the eyes were not eyes, and there was no good face.
This was not what made Yu Lili the most sad, the saddest thing was that she did not expect that Chang Jun's patriarchal thinking was also very heavy.
The old man had the idea of preferring sons to daughters, and she could still understand it, but Chang Jun also thought so she did not understand.
Since beating her and giving birth to her little daughter, Chang Jun's attitude towards her has also undergone earth-shaking changes, and he will be angry with her at every turn, saying that she can't give birth to a son.
And also began to dislike her, after giving birth to two children, the body will naturally change, but Chang Jun not only did not hurt her, but also took her body to become fat, deliberately looking for stubble.
There was no one to tell about the grievances of Yu Lili, only one person secretly shed tears, after all, it was she herself who resolutely decided to marry Chang Jun.
Even in order to be with Chang Jun, Yu Lili did not hesitate to break off contact with her family, relatives and friends, and now that Chang Jun treats her like this, she can only knock out her teeth and swallow in her stomach, silently bearing it herself.
In the fifth year after marriage, because of one thing, Yu Lili made up her mind to divorce Chang Jun.
On this day, Chang Jun was shopping outside, and Yu Lili suddenly wanted to eat bananas at home, so she called Chang Jun and asked him to buy some bananas and come back.
Receiving a call from Yu Lili, Chang Jun only responded faintly, "Oh" I know.
But when Chang Joon returned, Yu Lili found that he did not buy bananas, so she asked him why he did not buy bananas.
At this time, Chang Jun was like a string of firecrackers being ignited with a lead, and what was against Yu Lili's split head and cover her face was a scolding, and the scolding was still very ugly.
"Julie" You don't look at what you're fat, like a pig, you still have to eat, you eat a fart, I was going to buy it for you, but I forgot.
In fact, Chang Jun did not forget at all, he did not plan to buy bananas for Yu Lili to eat, deliberately said that he forgot, just to make Yu Lili feel uncomfortable.
Yu Lili was directly stunned by Chang Jun's scolding, and she looked at the man in front of her, feeling more and more strange, like a stranger.
So Yu Lili and Chang Jun proposed a divorce, and Chang Jun agreed without the slightest hesitation, and even showed a hint of joy.
The next day, the two came to the Civil Affairs Bureau together to go through the divorce procedures, and the two daughters also said that they would leave it to Chang Jun, holding the divorce certificate, and Yu Lili was ready to go back to pack up her clothes and leave.
But Chang Jun stopped her, saying that the two had divorced, and there was nothing in the family that was hers, so he wouldn't let her go back and get it, so she just left.
Seeing Chang Jun's appearance, Yu Lili turned around angrily and left, but she suddenly divorced, and there was no place to go for a while and a half.
So Julie thought she should go back to her hometown! Thinking of doing it, Julie directly bought a ticket and took the car back to her hometown.
Arriving at the door, Julie stood in the doorway for a long time, and finally plucked up the courage to knock on the door, and waited for more than two minutes, and the door was opened.
Yu Lili saw at a glance that it was her mother Liu Xiaoying who opened the door, and she had not seen her mother for five years, and her mother was older than five years ago, and she had a lot of vicissitudes.
Liu Xiaoying saw that it was Yu Lili standing at the door, directly stunned, after a short period of stunned, Liu Xiaoying reached out to close the door.
Seeing that her mother was about to close the door, Yu Lili knelt directly in front of Liu Xiaoying and cried
"Mom" I'm sorry, it's the daughter who is not filial piety, it was I who was too willful to cut off contact with my family for a man.
Watching Yu Lili cry again, Liu Xiaoying felt uncomfortable in her heart, no matter what, her daughter was also a piece of flesh that fell from her body.
So he lifted Up Julie and asked her what was going on and why she was back now.
Yu Lili told her about her divorce from Chang Jun, including how Chang Jun had treated her in recent years.
After listening to Yu Lili,Liu Xiaoying was even more distressed, distressed by Yu Lili's encounters in recent years, and at the same time secretly annoyed that Yu Lili did not listen to her own words.
But after all, it was her own daughter, and she didn't want to say anything more, so she dragged Yu Lili into the house.
As soon as Julie entered the room, she saw her father's posthumous photo on the table, and suddenly the whole person was stupid, and the tears couldn't stop flowing down.
While crying, he asked Liu Xiaoying when his father left, and Liu Xiaoying sighed heavily and spoke.
It turned out that Yu Lili's father died in the second year of her marriage, because of her aggravated illness, she was sent to the hospital and did not rescue her.
At that time, Liu Xiaoying made an unknown number of phone calls to Yu Lili, hoping to contact her and let her come back to her father to wear ma dai filial piety.
But it was always impossible to contact Yu Lili, and finally Liu Xiaoying was also dead hearted, and did not expect Yu Lili to come back.
Where does Liu Xiaoying know that at that time, in order to avoid her search, Yu Lili had already changed her mobile phone number, even if she called a thousand times, ten thousand times, it was impossible to contact Yu Lili.
After listening to Liu Xiaoying's speech, Yu Lili knelt down in front of her father's portrait with a thud and prostrated her head three times.
While shedding tears, he slapped himself, and his heart was also cursing himself, why he was so ignorant in the first place, blinded by love, for a man, he didn't even want his family.
She regretted it in her heart, regretting her stupid decision, which caused her not to see the last side of her father.
I regret that I don't know people clearly, and I don't see clearly what kind of person Chang Jun is.
But what's the use of regret! There is no medicine for regret
So, girls, when looking for a boyfriend, you must polish your eyes, after all, getting married is a lifelong event.
In fact, as long as you find the right person, it doesn't matter if you marry far away, you will also live a very happy life.
But if you find the wrong person, even if you marry next door to the house, you will certainly not be happy.