Anjie just returned from a date with Jiang Defu, talking about Jiang Defu, he felt that he was not only earthy, but also liked to pretend to be a cultural person, and The idea of love in Anjie's heart was as romantic as in the novel "Anna Karenina", An Xin couldn't help but feel sorry for his sister Anjie, felt that Jiang Defu was not worthy of her at all, and thought that the two could not resonate at all, and they could not empathize, and forcibly living would only cause pain to each other.
When Jiang Defu came to An's house for dinner, he was very nervous but pretended to be relaxed, and An Xin couldn't help but sneak a smile, which made Anjie feel very uncomfortable.
An Xin has a lover with similar interests, the door is right, and there is a spiritual resonance, which can be called a pair of golden boys and jade girls.
However, later, An Xin envied Anjie's married life from the heart, and sighed many times: "You were born in the blessing and did not know the blessing." ”
After Anjie got married, the two respected each other's habits and hobbies, but urged each other, Anjie still maintained her delicacy in her old age, while learning Jiang Defu's ability and shrewdness, and Jiang Defu was also infected by Anjie's good habits, while insisting on his good side.
They all became the best version of themselves.
And An Xin, for Ouyang Yi, accompanied him to Montenegro Island, spent that difficult time, when she was old, she did not get his respect and protection, Ouyang Yi felt that he had suffered a lot in his previous life, so in his later years he was just immersed in his own happiness and enjoyment, completely forgetting the woman around him.
01, obedience
Although An Xin and An Jie are two sisters, their personalities are completely different. An Xin is beautiful and virtuous and generous, while An Jie is willful of herself.
An Xin and Ouyang Yi, the two talents are beautiful people, one is a gentle and virtuous capitalist lady, and the other is a foreign intellectual with a full belly.
When they first got married, they lived apart in two places, relying on letters to solve the pain of lovesickness, but there was pleasure in suffering.
Ouyang Yi is knowledgeable, eloquent and good, often cynical, likes to point fingers at the people and things around him, and thinks of himself as high-minded, boasting that "there is no white ding in exchanges, and all talk and laugh are hongru", he feels that he and Jiang Defu are like a big boss who are rude, which is simply a shame.
However, Antai felt that although Jiang Defu had no culture, it was not simple to sit in the position of the head of the regiment, no culture did not mean that there was no talent, no culture did not mean that he did not have ability, and once he had culture, the future was immeasurable.
It can be seen that different cognitions have different views on the same issue, what Ouyang Yi lacks is self-knowledge, and An Xin does not exhort him too much, but blindly obeys.
After Ouyang Yi was transferred back to Qingdao, he learned that Anjie was married to the head of the Jiang regiment, so he invited a large family to dinner, he deliberately chose to feast on the whole family in the Western restaurant, in Anjie's words, that is, "Hongmen Banquet", in fact, he wanted Jiang Defu to lose his eyes in front of the whole family.
In this process, An Xin did not do anything to stop it, but blindly let Ouyang Yi by his own nature.
Although Anjie is willful, she will remind Jiang Defu to call him "brother-in-law", and when eating, she will kick him with her foot to remind him, and she will also ask him: "Learn from brother-in-law." ”
However, at the dinner table, An Xin just looked at Ouyang Yi's condescending attitude towards Jiang Defu, and she neither dissuaded nor came out to reconcile, but sat on the mountain and watched the tiger fight.
On the way home, Ouyang Yi was quite dissatisfied, saying that Anjie was too crazy, Zhang Crazy was still a bit cute before marriage, and it was annoying to be crazy after marriage, and Antai was too hypocritical and liked to pat herself on the back. Hearing him talk about his mother's family like this, An Xin only smiled slightly and did not comment.
Although Anjie was high on her toes in front of her mother's family, she was not allowed to say a "no" word to Jiang Defu's family, and Jiang Defu often laughed at her for "only allowing the governor to set fire to the people and not allow the people to light the lamp", in fact, he also admired her for this, maybe this is her cuteness.
An Xin and Ouyang Yi are harmonious, and their personalities are complementary, one is soft and the other is resolute, if the two can neutralize each other, it will be more perfect.
An Xin admired and admired Ouyang, so she obeyed him in everything, and she was willing to be the considerate and gentle wife beside her husband, unlike Anjie who changed some of Jiang Defu's bad habits according to her own wishes.
02. Patience
Ouyang Yi finally came out of his mouth because of the misfortune, was beaten into a rightist, and was sent to the small Black Mountain Island for labor reform. Little Black Mountain Island is a desolate, isolated island, and the material there is extremely scarce, even fresh water has to be brought in from the outside, and the environment is very harsh.
Ouyang Yi, who has always been well-respected and has excellent living conditions, came from Qingdao to this strange deserted island, and Ouyang Yi's heart was full of humiliation and embarrassment.
His day-to-day work was to go to sea, to fish, to catch tides, to carry and to reform through labor, and to be subject to the supervision of others at any time, losing both freedom and little dignity, and walking like a walking dead. What made him particularly unbearable was that he had to obey the command of the people he despised the most, and he also had to respond with a smile to the "old Ou" of others.
How spirited he was at the beginning, how depressed he is now.
However, at this moment, An Xinyi decided to quit his job and take his two young twin daughters with him to work and live with her husband to Montenegro Island.
Yang Lan said, "In marriage, there is not only love, but also the righteousness of liver and gallbladder, the tacit understanding of not abandoning and the unforgettable kindness. ”
I thought: An Xin is such a woman who gives up her comfortable and comfortable life and steps into the strange little Black Mountain Island that cannot see hope.
Anjie is not as stoic and concerned about the overall situation as Anxin.
She learned that Jiang Defu did not stay in school as he promised, but was transferred to a remote island as chief of staff. Anjie angrily denounced Jiang Defu as a big liar and resolutely refused to follow the army, so Jiang Defu had to go to the island alone step by step.
Later, because of the pressure of reality and in order to get jiang defu's protection, Anjie had to go to the island. Although the living conditions on the island are relatively harsh compared to the original, because of Jiang Defu, life is still very moist and comfortable.
However, an Xin and Ouyang Yi's life was completely different from the past.
The family of four lived in a dilapidated cottage with no furniture available at all, except a crumbling bed. The roof is even more dilapidated, and when it rains heavily outside, the roof will leak rain.
Moreover, the work of the two was also heavy, Ouyang Yi's once polite and elegant scholarly spirit was gone, and the heavy labor not only carved vicissitudes on his face, but also gave him a fatal blow in his spirit.
He became decadent, helpless about the status quo, full of resentment and dissatisfaction with life, and a hopeless sadness and resentment towards the future and life.
But An xin is much braver, and she is engaged in hard noodle pressing work on the island. Despite the hard work and the monotony and tedium of life, she was able to clean the hut and clean the dilapidated bed every day.
Perhaps this is her greatest support for her husband, she can only do her best to give him a relatively clean and comfortable home, let him feel the warmth of home after work, so that there will be hope and motivation to live.
Sixteen years as a day, such a hidden forbearance is really touching and emotional. However, this hidden patience seems to be only touched by oneself, but it does not move the other party, and such an ending is really sighing.
03. Restraint
On the day of Ouyang Yi's rehabilitation, they went to Jiang Defu's house for a guest reunion, and at this time, his heart was full of mixed feelings and mixed feelings, perhaps he had not tasted such a comfortable feeling for a long time.
Ouyang Yi, who was drunk, kept saying self-deprecatingly: "My name is not Ouyang, my name is Lao Ou." An Xin's many persuasions were still fruitless, and in desperation, she had no choice but to say: "I call you Lao Ou, okay, Lao Ou." ”
Hearing this, Ouyang Yi burst into tears: "You, now even you look down on me, and you have begun to abuse me." ”
Because An Xin's "Old Ou" was once again the humiliation and unbearable he had suffered, and all the bitter experiences he had suffered, he would cry so sadly and be difficult to control himself.
In fact, An Xin suffered no less than him, and originally An Xin could have avoided these sixteen years of suffering, as long as she was a little selfish, she could live in Qingdao with her two daughters.
However, with a lonely courage, she resolutely threw herself into the small black island and accompanied Ouyang Yi.
Ouyang Yi never paid too much attention to her inner thoughts, and now he had no time to comfort his lover, but instead immersed himself in his own pain and emotions regardless of his disregard.
Even so, An Xin never had any complaints or dissatisfaction with him, but just followed him in obscurity and lived a life of upheaval and displacement without complaint or regret.
Originally, the two returned to Qingdao, and also restored the corresponding treatment, and could live a stable and peaceful life.
However, when Anjie and Jiang Defu were reunited with the Anxin family again after retirement, they found that Anxin was not as happy and happy as he imagined.
At this time, Ouyang Yi became spirited again, although his sideburns were stained with frost, but he was dressed fashionably, and he was still trading stocks on the Internet, and the computer did not leave his hand every day.
Later, Anjie learned from An Xin that Ouyang Yi was not only fascinated by stock speculation, but also talked about online dating on the Internet, and fought with a female netizen named "Long Night".
When Jiang Defu and Ouyang Yi were drinking tea together in the teahouse, he blamed Lao Ou for being in love at a long time, but Ouyang Yi swore that this was not love at all, because he had not even seen each other's faces, and he did not even know whether the other party was a man or a woman, where was love.
"I and that long night, in the virtual world of the Internet, said a little private."
Seeing that he didn't think so, Jiang Defu said that this was not right, after all, he was a person with a wife and children.
Perhaps he felt that he had suffered too much in the first half of his life, and in his old age, he should do whatever he wanted and live a life of wanton elegance, but he never considered An Xin, the woman who accompanied her through the difficult years, she was once the only warmth in his hard days.
Ouyang Yi seems to have thrown these things away long ago, forgetting An Xin, who used to be in love, and he should give her a happy old age rather than add to her blockage.
However, although An Xin was disappointed and dissatisfied, she still guarded the family and silently guarded her marriage.
Epilogue:
The marriage of the two sisters Anjie and Anxin in "Parental Love" has given us a lot of enlightenment, why is An xin and Ouyang Yi, who were right at the beginning, but not anjie's marriage, happier and happier?
I think that there may be a factor of the environment in this, but it is also inseparable from the personality of the individual.
Anjie is willful, self-sufficient, and even Jiang Defu said that she was "beautiful but not kind", but she gained a happy married life. An Xin, on the other hand, is generous, tolerant and restrained, putting others first in everything, but in his old age, he has a hard time saying a word.
Cai Kangyong said something meaningful: "All the ways we get along with others are so that our only and unique self can live more freely, not more wronged."
Perhaps, before people love others, they must first learn to love themselves, so that they can find happiness more.
I would like to encourage you all.