On August 4, the day of the Tanabata Festival, Lejia shared his recent situation on social platforms.
He wore black shorts, paired with white sneakers, and was topless, jumping rope in the scorching sun.
He is 47 years old, there is no trace of extra flesh on his body, and his muscle lines are perfect.
It's just that the skin on his body has been sunburned to the point of redness and shininess, and coupled with his trademark bald head, the whole person looks like an eighteen-bronze man.
He also said in the video that the highest state of tanabata is not to envy others, not to rely on others, and to complete all happiness by their own imagination.
Subsequently, he added in the comments section: "You have to complete the happiness of two people on your own, otherwise this day will be very depressing."
As a once-well-known gold medal emotional mentor, he is still constantly talking and is keen to export emotional views.
He has also insisted on updating the news on social platforms, sharing his live lessons and published books.
However, most netizens do not buy it, and even some people say bluntly that with his emotional intelligence and emotional control ability in the variety show, the level of the course is estimated to be not high.
Three marriages and three divorces, he became a father at the age of 20, and it is difficult to convince people of his emotional guidance.
How did this emotional expert and life mentor, who was once very popular, "overturn"?
01. How is "psychologist" refined?
Born in Shanghai in 1975 to an ordinary family, Lejia moved to a village in Shaanxi with her parents when she was two months old.
Because of his family's poverty, his parents often quarreled over money, and his grumpy father often beat his mother, and when he was mischievous, his mother would directly take a belt and smoke him.
Under the influence of his parents, his personality has also become extreme and irritable, and he has developed a bad habit of arguing and doing things at every turn.
At the age of 13, Lejia returned to Shanghai, and because he was not admitted to high school, he went to a secondary school in Ningbo, where his parents were born, to study finance.
After graduating from secondary school, he was assigned to work as an accountant at a bank in Ningbo, but he felt that the days of facing the ledger every day were boring and boring, and he wanted to do a job that could deal with many people.
Two years later, he quit his job to sell, sold houses, and also sold insurance, and practiced good eloquence.
In 1993, at the age of 19, he accidentally met a big sister who was doing direct sales, and the other party took him into the industry to sell cosmetics.
He is very suitable for this job, the first income exceeds the average monthly salary in Ningbo, and soon the performance has become the first in Ningbo.
With outstanding performance, he was promoted by headquarters to the youngest sales trainer in the company.
But the good times did not last long, and he wanted to show his skills in the sales industry, but he was laid off because of the promotion of his boss, and he was not welcomed by the new leader, and was forced to leave Avon.
After that, he entered a new training company and met a Bai Fumei, and the two fell in love.
The woman's parents did not look up to him, but because his girlfriend was pregnant, the second elder had to accept him and allow the two to marry.
The dislike of his parents-in-law and the disparity in economic conditions have made Lejia more sensitive and extreme.
His wife talked to him impatiently, and he was so angry that he did not talk to the other party for half a year; His parents-in-law didn't give him a good look, and he blamed them for being too snobbish.
In the end, the two chose to divorce, but after the divorce, Lejia still resented the contempt of his ex-wife's parents.
At one point, he hated his ex-wife, cursed his ex-wife's parents in the most vicious language, and vowed to prove his ability.
He once again plunged into the "direct sales army" and toured the country in just two years to do more than 200 publicity campaigns, with an audience of more than 10,000 people.
He also studied acting, business administration and psychology, and upgraded his education to a bachelor's degree.
Later, because of his impulsive and arbitrary personality, it was difficult for him to cooperate with others for a long time and stably, and he changed his career to teach others to speak.
After some tossing, money and education are available, but Lejia is not satisfied, he also wants to be famous and cultured.
In 2001, Legart came into contact with Western behavioral psychology, a discipline that divides human personality into four categories: liveliness, perfection, strength, and peace.
He borrowed this theory to use red, blue, yellow and green colors to represent different personalities, and established a curriculum system of "character color".
After the introduction of this set of courses, Lejia became a "psychologist", calling himself a "preacher of personality" and writing a book called "Color Eyes Recognize People".
After becoming famous, Lejia met his second wife, who was said to be a literary young woman who often exchanged letters with him in love.
But after marriage, the two often quarreled over trivial matters, and the woman could not stand Lejia's irritability and irritability, ending the marriage.
Lejia is very talented in language expression, with "three inches of uncorrupted tongue", step by step to grow into a psychological expert with fame and fortune.
But the sensitivity, extremism, loss of control, and violence in his bones have planted a time bomb for his future.
02, after becoming famous, he became more and more arrogant
In 2010, Jiangsu Satellite TV planned to do a blind date show "Do Not Disturb", and the producers looked around for suitable guests.
Lejia, who has a sharp tongue and a recognizable image, eventually became the best candidate, and formed an "iron triangle" with the host Meng Fei and the emotional expert Huang Han.
After recording the first program, he found that the opportunity to show himself was too small, so he asked the program team to allow him to interject at any time to comment on the guests.
With such a change, the program is more interesting, his sharp comments have won many audience praise, and in just three months, "Do Not Disturb" has become a national phenomenon-level TV program.
Lejia also suddenly became a household celebrity, no matter what activities they went out to participate in, the audience was very enthusiastic.
Thousands of fans hugged back and forth, dozens of security guards gathered around, some people sent flowers, asked for autographs, and some bought 20 of his books in one go.
The overwhelming praise made him constantly inflated, and he became more and more arrogant before and after the camera.
Obviously, he is a star created by a TV show, but he said dismissively: "I am very disgusted that others say that I am a person in the entertainment industry." ”
After the show, he went to the food stall to drink, drunk on the drunken madness, crying, and lying on the ground to hug other people's thighs, the image is nothing.
In the show, he often spoke out, saying that the female guests who had been athletes were in high demand, and that the brother of the female guest was a burden on marriage.
When the female guests made it clear that they didn't like the male guests, he also arbitrarily asserted himself: "If he (the male guests) can do more than 50 push-ups on the spot, you will follow him!" ”
He also hugged the female guest tightly without any measure, and Meng Fei just politely patted the female guest's back.
In this regard, he actually asked the female guests what was the difference between hugging themselves and Meng Fei.
Every time he was aggressive with the guests, he had to rely on Meng Fei to stand up and play the round for him in order to alleviate the awkward atmosphere.
Over time, Meng Fei also had a conflict with him, and the two did not even pay attention to each other on social platforms, and often argued with each other in the program.
There was even a time when Lejia asked Meng Fei directly on the show: "Don't you think you are very hypocritical?" ”
Once, the two had a big fight because of disagreements with the male guests, and both rushed out of the studio.
Afterwards, Lejia left the show without leaving a statement, and only posted a formal farewell on the social platform half a year later.
Relying on his fame and many fans, when he first left "Do Not Disturb", he was still mixed up.
For example, he hosted CCTV's "Chief Night Talk" for Sabine, which was praised by Cui Jian, the godfather of rock and roll.
But there was no Meng Fei "bottom", and he was overwhelmed, and the reputation quickly overturned.
In 2014, he hugged Xie Na at the recording site of "Mr. Super", tried to kiss each other, and said in public: "Since I met Xie Na, I regret that I got married so early. ”
He also lost his temper with Serenity on the show, and Serenity comforted an athlete by saying, "Although you didn't win the Olympic championship, it's normal for life to have some regrets." ”
Obviously it was a heart-warming word, but Lejia was furious when she heard it, and roared angrily at Serenity: "You are hurting him!" ”
Serenity later responded: "He (Lejia) is very excited, his excitement is the kind that makes you defenseless, and the sense of oppression is very strong." ”
In 2015's "Super Speaker", Lejia intensified and behaved more and more indiscriminately.
He first used his hands and feet on the female trainees, forcibly hugging and kissing each other.
He also alluded to the gender of Venus: "What a saint can't do, the eunuch has done." ”
He even publicly accused Hua Shao of hypocrisy, making Hua Shao, who rarely lost his temper, immediately get angry.
Hua Shao fought back: "I sit here and I have the right to speak, if anyone wants to accuse me, please come up with evidence!" Otherwise I can only deal with you as an asshole. ”
When the disabled contestant Cui Wanzhi, who he supported, was eliminated by the program group, he also unexpectedly drank a bottle of liquor on the spot, and then openly threw alcohol on the scene.
Lu Yu, who was on the same stage, was so surprised that he could not speak, Venus was so angry that he left the scene, and Dou Wentao was also scolded by him.
The incident caused an uproar, netizens accused him of being too arrogant, major media criticized him, and television stations also "banned" him.
Success is also in the mouth, defeat is also in the mouth, and he finally pays the price for his arbitrary behavior.
03, confusing behavior emerges endlessly
After losing the brilliance of the spotlight, Lejia's third marriage also came to an end.
He posted a photo of his daughter Ling'er and posted that her daughter would live with him in the future.
In 2017, he took ling'er, who was only 4 years old, on a trekking desert safari, hiking 76 kilometers in 4 days, about 20 kilometers a day.
During the long and difficult journey, Ling Er's thighs had a large rash and her feet were also blistered, which made people feel painful to watch.
But Lejia insisted on not holding her, and let her go through the whole journey by herself.
Lejia said that he was trying to cultivate his daughter's perseverance, but such an extreme approach has caused a lot of controversy, and some people even suspect that he wants to use it to hype.
With Liso's mouth, he continued to speak, train, and occasionally take on some street commercial performances and annual meetings, which were far less beautiful than in the past.
"Super Speaker" aired for several seasons, but did not invite him again; The special edition of the tenth anniversary of "Do Not Disturb" did not see his figure.
His social platform seems to have a lot of fans, but each dynamic reply is very few, at most double digits, and these reviews are basically negative.
In 2018, he himself said that the past few years have been very bad, going to other people's annual meetings to host, the previous less than 10,000 people did not give speeches, and now only 3,000 listeners also go.
Netizens mocked him, saying that they had seen him in speeches with less than 3,000 people, and he could only reply with a hard mouth: "Then continue to fall." ”
In the past two years, he has also participated in some variety shows and continued to act as a psychological expert, but unfortunately, he has no one to pay attention to the reputation of the car.
The news that made him pay attention again that year was that he sent Ling Er to the Shaolin Temple.
In the past two years, he has often brought ling'er into Tibet, saying that he wants to pray for his mother's blessing.
Insisting on making his daughter suffer has made him full of criticism, but he is paranoid and does not care and insists on going his own way.
In March, he also promoted online courses on social platforms to get people to solve the problems of personality at a lower price.
Unexpectedly, the netizens in the comment area were indignant and called him a "liar".
Some people say that after buying a course, they found that there was no gold content, and their application for a refund was rejected.
Others say that he is using the theories that others have taught to deceive, not selling courses, but simply "cheating money."
Over the past few months, he has not responded to these controversies, but has gone abroad for a relaxing vacation.
Now Lejia no longer goes around preaching the "theory of personality color" that has not been recognized by the public, but has studied Buddhism, and from time to time exports life philosophy and life insights.
Unfortunately, these words came from an inferior and arrogant, arrogant and unsatisfied population, which did not seem to be so convincing, and were ridiculed by netizens as "poisonous chicken soup".
Epilogue:
In his comment area, one of the most common sentences is: "You see you have a good hand of cards in the past few years, what have you done?" ”
No background, resources, no education, but from ordinary salespeople, to become a TV star, and many big coffee on an equal footing, Lejia is indeed the favor of fate.
However, the poverty and displacement he experienced as a child made his heart sensitive and fragile, and his words and deeds were sharp and arrogant.
He longs to get the attention of others, and does not stop filling the inner emptiness with external objects, money, fame, face... I want everything.
But once manipulated by desire and vanity, life becomes an empty shelf, and the slightest carelessness will collapse.
Lejia once said that she is a yellow personality, loves to be in the limelight, and is impulsive.
He was clearly aware of his character shortcomings, but he could never overcome them, and personally pushed himself into a trough.
I hope that he will return to a normal life and devote himself to the study of Buddhism, and he will find inner peace as soon as possible.
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Author: Asagiri
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