It is not difficult to find that more and more grandmothers are now starting to bring babies. Grandmas in the world are the same, looking at their daughter's fatigue, they can't help but want to share more and make more efforts.
Since my college classmate Fang Fang was pregnant, her mother has always said that she would come to help her with the child, and she feels that her mother is her strong backing.
However, when she was close to the due date, her mother, who had always been frugal, gave Fangfang 20,000 yuan and asked her to book a confinement center. Fang Fang felt confused, and under Fang Fang's repeated questioning, her mother said the reason. Mom is sick and needs surgery, and Dad needs to take care of Mom.
Thinking that her mother was sick, the most worrying thing was not her own body, but her own and the children in her belly, Fang Fang couldn't help but burst into tears.
Thinking that her mother's physical strength is getting worse and worse than before, and she does not want her mother to be too tired, Fangfang decided to become a full-time mother. Therefore, in the two or three years after the birth of the child, Fangfang brought her own baby, although her mother also mentioned that she wanted to bring the baby, but she was rejected by Fangfang.
However, the mother watched her son-in-law earn money to support the family financially, and also compared to Fangfang's friends of the same age who were working to realize the value of life, while she worked hard to provide fangfang with hard work to go to college, but after marriage, she took the children at home to do housework. Under the repeated persuasion of her mother, Fang Fang decided to return to the workplace.
So in the summer when the child was about to enter the middle school, my mother lived at home. Not long after, the mother found that the child especially likes to watch TV, a watch is a few hours, and according to Fangfang, the child can not sit still in the kindergarten, and the concentration is relatively poor.
In order to change the bad habits of the child, grandma plays with her grandson every day. FangFang feels that her mother is really old, and she doesn't know how to take her children to see picture books and know how to play. Although I have opinions in my heart, it is not easy to say clearly.
In the blink of an eye, the school started, and it wasn't long before the teacher told Fangfang that the child had changed a lot this semester and was very focused in class, unlike the previous one who always ran around. The teacher reminded FangFang that since the child's grandmother came, the child's time to watch TV has become less and less, and he will occasionally jump into idioms when speaking.
Fang Fang was curious about how her mother took her child to play, and it had changed so much. The mother god mysteriously placed two things in front of Fangfang. Fang Fang took a look at the "Children's Potential Development Game Sticker" and "Fun Idiom Solitaire Card".
Her mother told Fang fang that a friend of hers had been taking her grandchildren and often learned about parenting and understood the problems of very big children. She learned from her friends, and their friends introduced them. Speaking of the mother also excitedly introduced to Fangfang:
"Children's Potential Development Game Stickers" can not only cultivate children's concentration, but also develop children's intelligence, so that children can play smarter and smarter. There are 18 volumes in total, and each sticker will exercise your child's abilities. By constantly tearing and pasting, the child's small hands become more and more flexible, and the attention is highly concentrated in the process of pasting, so that the concentration is improved and the left and right brains are exercised.
In the process of playing stickers, children need to find matching stickers according to the outline of the pattern, and then paste them to the corresponding position, which is also a test of children's memory in this process.
18 Children's Potential Development Game Stickers ¥59 Purchase
"Fun Idiom Solitaire Card" is also very fun, and many people can play it. There are a total of 192 word cards, and the idioms on each card have phonetics and explanations. Grandma usually plays idiom solitaire with her grandson, such as Grandma playing the card "People And People", and Sun Tzu will concentrate on finding out the idiom of "Hai Na Bai Chuan" to play one after another.
Whenever she came across an idiom, Grandma would read the idiom and explanation twice. The more children listen, the more they will naturally remember idioms and meanings.
Fun idiom game idiom solitaire card ¥29 purchase
Neither game has technical content, and as long as the elderly who can read can play with their children.
After listening to her mother's introduction, Fang Fang felt that she really looked down on her mother. Since her mother came, Xiaofang has been much more relaxed, no need to care about children, no need to do housework, simply not too happy.
30-year-old Bao Mom's tearful eyes: "Don't let Grandma bring a baby"
The change in the child surprised and delighted the daughter and son-in-law. However, one thing shattered the peace of the family.
One day the son-in-law came home and found the child's leftover snacks, so he gave a "sermon" to his mother. The mother thinks that the child can occasionally eat some snacks, and the children who play together are eating, looking at others to eat, how uncomfortable the child feels.
Unfortunately, after two days, the child had a fever, and the son-in-law was completely angry, and he was convinced that the grandmother bought snacks for her grandson to eat and then accumulated a fever. Grandma couldn't argue.
Fang Fang and her husband took the child to the hospital, and her mother also wanted to follow, and Fang Fang hurriedly said loudly: "Don't go, you have to take care of you when you go." Mom stood stunned, like a child who had made a mistake.
At two o'clock in the morning, when Fang Fang returned home, as soon as she entered the door, she found her mother sitting on the sofa, and her mother saw Fang Fang and said, "Is the child better?" You're hungry, right? I'll cook you ravioli to eat. ”
Thinking of her and her husband's behavior towards her mother, Fangfang felt very sad. Fang Fang felt that her mother might be going home.
But the mother said: "Where the child is, we must carry the weight forward, otherwise the children's years are quiet." ”
Isn't this mother the epitome of a mother all over the world? Mothers always feel sorry for their daughters, but they forget to hurt themselves.
It was in this way that Fang Fang said, "Don't let grandma bring a baby." This is the awakening of a 30-year-old mother, and it also reflects the reality and heartache of grandma with a baby.
The difficulties of the grandmother with the baby should be understood by the daughter and son-in-law
1. Blamed for different parenting concepts
Affected by the growth environment, education level, etc., there is inevitably a conflict between young people and the elderly in parenting styles.
For example, young people like to let children eat by themselves, while old people like to chase children to feed. Long-term contradictions and conflicts will make Grandma feel particularly tired.
2. The body is tormented by illness
When people reach a certain age, the body begins to have various problems. Living in the daughter's home, even if the body is not well, you must insist on taking the baby, doing housework, and preparing meals for the daughter and son-in-law.
I would rather suffer a little myself than make my daughter's family happy.
Of course, the difficulty of grandma with a baby is far more than these two, so give grandma some understanding and love!
Whitman said, "How similar are the mothers of the world!" Their hearts are always the same. Every mother has a very innocent heart. ”
As a high-praise comment on a certain platform said: Mom sacrifices for us in general, but we always think of ourselves first.
Grandma's heartache and grievances, as children, how many people put themselves in the shoes of the thought?