The dangers of the absence of fatherhood have been evident since elementary school.
Children who lack father's love are emotionally unstable, impulsive, and more fragile in their hearts, and are prone to passion and mistakes.
Companionship is the best education, if you habitually think that "educating children is only a mother's business", then after all those years, all your laziness with your children will become the deepest regret on the road to education.
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The father's words and deeds affect the child's academic and professional life
Professor Li Meijin said: Before the child is 6 years old, what the child needs is a mother. When children start school and go to society, they need more influence from their fathers.
The research results of the Peruvian University in the United States show that children raised by men have high IQs, they have better grades in school, and they are more likely to succeed in society.
Recent studies have also shown that dads tutor homework, children's grades will be better!
A 2003 harvard university study found that girls lack paternal love and are prone to poor math, while boys lack paternal love and are prone to emotional disorders.
When they grow up, girls are more likely to become less confident, and even affect the concept of mate selection; Boys have low self-esteem and rebellion, which affects their studies and careers.
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The majesty of the father affects the character and pattern of the child
Nobel laureate Richard Feynman said: "Much of my success came from my father's education.
Psychologists also point out that there are many benefits for dads to spend time with their children:
1, children's IQ, emotional intelligence is higher
WHO research has found that children who spend more than 2 hours per day with their fathers on average have higher IQs and emotional intelligence.
2, children are more self-disciplined, self-control
The company of the father can let the child learn to distinguish between right and wrong, and have a sense of responsibility. In the face of temptation, have more self-control and self-discipline behavior.
3, children are more secure
2 years old to 6 years old is a critical period for each child to establish a sense of security, and dad has enough companionship to not only give children a sense of security, but also to help children better explore the world, cultivate the ability to explore, cultivate good living habits, and character development.
For boys, Dad is a hero and a role model; Teach him self-confidence, courage, responsibility, pattern, and give children better role model power.
For girls, dad is companionship, security, self-esteem, self-love, and then love, giving girls a good marriage template.
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The concentration of paternal love affects the height of the child's future
These 5 things, Mom don't care, must be left to Dad to do:
✔ Talk to your child about these 5 sentences before going to bed
1. What makes you feel happy today?
Strengthen your child's memories of good things
2. What new knowledge did you learn today?
Let the child consolidate the knowledge through repetition
3. Have you encountered any difficulties today?
Make your child feel more secure
4. Do you have help others today?
Make your child feel more fulfilled
5. Which child talks to you the most today?
Encourage your child to build their own social circle
✔ Play with your child for at least 10 minutes a day
Put down the mobile phone, play with the child wholeheartedly, this 10 minutes, the effect is unexpected.
✔ Exercise with your child at least once a week
It can be climbing, kicking, playing badminton. After exercise, a child will produce dopamine, which can keep him in an excited state of learning and learn happily.
✔ Eat dinner with your child at least 3 times a week
Dinner is a rare time for the family to get together, and it is also a sense of ceremony of the day, and Dad tries not to be absent.
✔ Take the kids with you to do housework
A university study from the University of London showed that whether dads do or not do housework can affect their children's career choices, especially their daughters.
Of course, when the father is accompanying the child, do not forget to take care of the mother's emotions. If there is a disagreement, it is best to discuss it privately and not to say it in front of your child.
Fathers give their children companionship, the power of example, mothers establish rules, teach children how to behave in the world. Parents do their part to keep the gifts of love and education impartial.
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Father, in fact, is the background of a child's childhood
He will affect the personality and pattern of a child, but also affect his career development, life direction, marriage attitude, and even the entire life.
Don't underestimate the subtle influence of a father on a child. People are used to what they see; What you get used to, you will embody.
In times of fear, fatherly love is a stepping stone;
In darkness, fatherly love is a lamp that illuminates;
When it is exhausted, father's love is a bay of water of life;
Fatherly love is the spiritual pillar when striving;
When success is successful, fatherly love is also encouragement and alarm bell.
The greatest success of a family lies in raising an excellent, motivated, and grateful child.
Companionship is not a matter for the mother alone, and the time that the father invests in the child affects the child's life.