Is being in your twenties the best time of your life?
The writer Wang Xiaobo once said that when he was twenty-one years old, he had many extravagant hopes, and he wanted to love and eat and wanted to become a half-light and half-dark cloud in the sky.
But he later discovered that life is a slow process of being hammered.
"As people grow older, their extravagant hopes fade away day by day, and they eventually become like cattle that have been hammered."
The passion that was originally thought to be turned into tiredness in the end, and people became unmotivated.
Young, in fact, is not as beautiful as most people imagine.
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I once saw a short video in which a psychologist mentioned that twenty to thirty years old is the darkest decade of life.
He has worked in psychology for many years, and he says he often feels lonely and even depressed at the age of twenty.
Because the brain is not fully developed before the age of 25, the self-perception is not clear enough, and it is difficult to really figure out what kind of person you are, it is easy to make some bad choices.
For example, the wrong choice of career and partner, premature marriage and children, resulting in various problems.
At this age, we are usually prone to quick success, and if we want to achieve certain achievements quickly, we do not know that there are countless pits.
The development of social media will make people think that they are far behind others, resulting in anxiety.
Feel like you just can't do it, don't deserve love, suffer from learned helplessness, and then bad things will happen one after another.
But many things are done after the age of thirty, and the results will be much better, because we already have a certain life experience and know how to face setbacks and dangers.
When you are in your twenties, you can only be patient and take the pits you have stepped on as a lesson, so that your future life will be much smoother.
Dong Yuhui, the anchor selected by the East, is now very hot, everyone is impressed by his talent, and a teacher is very kind, but in fact, Dong Yuhui also had a very rough life in his twenties.
At that time, Dong Yuhui was studying at Xi'an Foreign Chinese University, and the teacher introduced him to work part-time as a tour guide for his foreign friends.
When Dong Yuhui went to the airport to pick up people, he told the driver that the taxi fare was 150 yuan, and when the car drove to the halfway point, the driver asked for 250 yuan.
Dong Yuhui argued a few words, and the master said 300, otherwise you get out of the car.
What can I do when I am halfway through, but Dong Yuhui can only promise, he only has 500 yuan for two days to receive foreign guests, and it costs most of the taxi alone.
What I didn't expect was that on the way back, the driver sat on the ground and said that it was 400. At that time, they were on the highway, it was still twelve o'clock in the evening, and Dong Yuhui could only bear to suffer this loss.
After sending the foreign guests and friends, Dong Yuhui touched his pocket and found that he did not have enough money to take a taxi back to the school, so he could only get off the car and walk back.
When he returned to school, the door was closed and there was no place to sleep, so Dong Yuhui picked up the squeezed bread and yogurt he bought in the morning from his bag and nibbled on the spot.
According to Dong Yuhui's description, he almost wanted to complain at that time, after all, when he encountered such a thing, he was very depressed in his heart.
But then he thought about what was the use of such a glass heart? After surviving it yourself, that is the real cow.
Because no matter how much we complain, we will only complain, and such a thing may happen next time, and the only thing we can do is to learn the lesson and no longer let ourselves be trapped.
After figuring it out, Dong Yuhui felt that he had instantly matured, and that fragile glass heart had also become a steel heart.
He gave the bread to the wildcats begging for food on the side of the road, and walked alone back to the city to work, and by the time he reached the city it was already dawn.
Dong Yuhui said: "Many years later, people asked me whether I felt lonely and long along the way, on the contrary, what I remembered was the starry sky and the singing all the way."
I didn't quite understand why true maturity was silent, until I watched Dong Yuhui's experience, I finally understood.
Setbacks and sufferings are difficult for young people in their twenties, but as long as you know how to face them correctly, it will be an important treasure and treasure for our future lives.
After surviving, you are likely to be greeted by flowers and applause.
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Writer Wang Zengqi everyone knows that one of his "Duck Eggs of the Dragon Boat Festival" has been selected as an eighth-grade textbook.
However, such a person who loves life, after graduating from Southwest United University, almost had an emotional breakdown because he could not find a job, and even wanted to commit suicide.
If it weren't for his teacher Shen Congwen writing a letter to scold him, he might still be in self-doubt.
"For the sake of temporary difficulties, I cried and cried like this, and even thought of committing suicide. You have a pen in your hand, what are you afraid of! ”
The reason why Shen Congwen is so "angry" is because Wang Zengqi has much better conditions than Shen Congwen.
After all, Shen Congwen had only read primary school, and he couldn't even use punctuation marks, but he rushed to Beiping with full enthusiasm and used a pen to beat the world.
When encountering difficulties, we will often doubt life like Wang Zengqi and begin to deny ourselves. But this is useless, but it will become more pessimistic.
It is better to be like Shen Congwen, it is better to think about what else you have at hand, and strive to fight with life in order to find another way.
When Haruki Murakami was young, he was in debt, and once he could not raise money to repay the bank loan, but fortunately he "saved" his life by picking up money on the road.
He had a very difficult life in his twenties, and because of the reasons for opening a shop, he was often badly beaten, discriminated against, and endured all kinds of foul language.
Later, after these years, Haruki Murakami suddenly realized that there was a new self standing in the landscape, and he seemed to have become stronger and wiser than before.
Therefore, Haruki Murakami would like to tell everyone that if you just happen to be in a difficult situation in life and are tortured by life beyond recognition, then remember this sentence:
"Although it is very difficult at the moment, this experience may come to fruition in the future!"
Don't worry too much about suffering to complain about what is in front of you, but you should change your perspective as much as possible and change directions to motivate yourself.
No one likes to suffer hardships, when you are young, it is not meaningful to eat more than anyone else, learn to correctly understand life, understand that setbacks are only part of life, this is the best performance in the face of difficulties.
Young people in their twenties, most of whom are wandering in confusion and suffering, change their attitudes when the external environment is difficult to change.
Let yourself grow on the good side instead of falling into pessimism, loss, and helplessness.
There is a saying that goes like this: "Positive people see an opportunity in every distress, while negative people see some kind of distress at every opportunity." “
Hope we are all the former!
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