Text/Lu Xiaoni
Douban score 7.3 hit drama "Happiness to Ten Thousand Homes" Have you chased?
I was attracted to this drama because of a Weibo post by Jiang Xinfa, the huafei actor in "The Biography of Zhen Huan":
Successfully aroused my curiosity, what kind of storyline can make Princess Hua want to do it?
Coupled with the propaganda posters of Zhao Liying and Luo Jin, I joined the ranks of chasing the drama, zhao Liying in the play is a person who dares to think and dare to do everything, and everything must be reasonable, although the education is not high, but the courage is particularly large, attracting a large number of fans five-star praise.
But after chasing a few episodes, I just want to say:
Girls, don't be happy!
1. Everyone should be responsible for their own life
He Xingfu in the play is the eldest daughter born in the countryside, for the future of her sister, she herself began to work before she finished junior high school, and her mother and her mother worked hard for her sister to go to the big city to study.
His sister He Lucky was originally a highly educated law student, and after encountering things, she not only had no ideas, but also concentrated on seeking death, and drank herself like mud every day.
Let's not talk about the right or wrong of things, just such an attitude to life, is it really worth it for He Happiness and his mother to sacrifice the girl he raised? Regardless of whether the grades are good or bad, if a person encounters problems with such a solution attitude, it is a failure of education.
From the perspective of He Happiness, consider that according to her final development, such a girl is gifted with learning, if she was not so great at the beginning, chose to study first, wouldn't it be easier to change the fate of the family through knowledge?
A girl with a personality like her, if she is educated enough, getting married and having children will certainly not be the only major event on her life path.
Girl, please have the ability to love yourself first, and then use your spare strength to love others.
Your parents brought you into this world in order to make you a victim of yourself, not a victim of others, and ask you to take responsibility for your own life, no one is worth sacrificing your life.
2. The life of the "eldest daughter" who was dragged down by her mother's family
Some netizens commented that her mother is a person like He Fuxing, who has paid her life for her mother's family, and she only wants to live for herself now.
Don't rush to evaluate her selfishness, after listening to her mother's story, you will understand her choice.
Her mother, like He Xingfu, is the eldest daughter of a rural family, and in order for her brother to get ahead, she also went out to work early, and at the age when others were still children, her mother had begun to sacrifice her life for the family.
Later, after being introduced by others, she married a working-class man in the city and was lucky enough to jump out of the farm, but the mother's family did not follow what they said: "The daughter who marries out spills water." "Every time she needs to contribute money to her mother's family, she is still the eldest sister who must choose to support and pay."
For example, the bride price and parts when she got married were not used for her small family construction, but were donated to her brother on the day of the wedding, and the son-in-law who had just started a family was not easy to say.
There was a plot in the hit drama "Wang Gui and Anna" that made me remember deeply, Wang Gui's relatives had to come to the city every year to sell pears, and Anna not only needed unconditional management and management, but also had to use her personal connections to sell pears.
"Poor in the alley no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives", Wang Gui and netizens' mothers are undoubtedly the lucky ones who get happiness with the marriage springboard, so the relatives in the mountains always have endless help waiting.
3. Without the heroine's aura, don't want to change your life against the sky
After He Xingfu in the play entered the city, in her own words, she met Guan Tao because of fate, and guan Tao was a very important mentor on the road of her life growth.
But in real life, how many girls get a script with their own "heroine aura"? The girl who wanders in the big city knows too well the sour feeling of how lucky he is not lucky to pay the rent in the play.
It is not easy for ordinary girls to survive in the problems of life, let alone want to change their lives against the sky?
Without the stepping stone of academic qualifications, there are many people you are doomed to meet, and there are many things you are doomed to fail to experience.
I admit that there are people in the workplace who are not highly educated and have mixed well later, but without exception, they have all been given the opportunity to get a salary increase and promotion through core skills upgrading, academic qualifications, and qualifications.
He Happiness in the play from a cleaner sweeping the floor to a workplace white who gets 90,000 commissions, how many possibilities there are, you realize it yourself.
Girl, don't ruin your future, may you never have the opportunity to become a happy person who is willing to pay.
Girls, marry someone to avoid Wang Qingzhi
1. Honest good people can't marry
In the first episode of Wang Qingzhi and He Xingfu's wedding, when the village secretary's son Wan Chuanjia used the excuse of "marriage", Wang Qinglai, who was a graduate student, was the first to rush to the scene, but he symbolically said two sentences and rushed to find Qingzhi, Qingzhi heard it and obviously had six gods and no master, at this time the mother of the Wang family jumped out and said: "No fuss, no hilarity!" ”
Happiness can kick open the door, but the two big masters are blocked by two wooden boards at the door, this is a kind of "inaction", if only because of honesty can be timid and afraid of things, if because of fear of involving themselves will be silent, marry such an honest person, the hard days are behind!
Wang Qingzhi in the play is always a "giant baby" with no idea, and I have no time to take a screenshot of his undivided moments.
Because of the land acquisition, Wang Qingzhi was kicked by the village secretary Wan Shantang to the hospital, and later in order to compensate for the matter, the lawyer Guan Tao's suggestion was to sue the two cases together, so as to maximize the benefits.
Wang Qingzhi's father is obviously worried about money, Wang Qinglai's mother is afraid of telling Wan Shan Tang that he has not had a good time in the village since then, the family you push me, I push you, his father asked Wang Qingzhi: "Then what do you mean?" ”
The honest and generous male protagonist said: "I don't mean anything, you say you can do it." ”
The first time I heard him say that "happiness is up to you", I thought it was the love of my wife, and I realized later that this was a deep pit where a "giant baby" did not grow up, and it was the abyss that He Happiness poured out everything to fill.
If you really live a good life, "honest, kind, good people" may not be an advantage.
2. Don't use your life as a stepping stone to the happiness of others
During He Xingxing's pregnancy, in order to get the compensation for land acquisition, she naturally did not dare to rely on her husband without any academic qualifications, and could only call and ask the "knowledge responsibility" at home - the second brother Qinglai, but she did not expect that Qinglai would become invisible after an irresponsible idea.
Until He Xingfu ran around and had to get back 400,000 land requisition compensation, Qinglai immediately returned to the village with his girlfriend, did not mention the bride price but did not leave the house, the mother-in-law directly took 350,000 yuan to buy a house in the city for the second brother.
The happy couple who wanted to continue to work in the greenhouse cultivation had to choose another way to survive because they did not have enough money left.
The same son, the palms of his hands and the backs of his hands are all meat, he did not expect that the happy little days escaped the law of "son preference", but did not escape the public eccentricity of his in-laws, and the happiness of the whole family can be used as a stepping stone to complete the most outstanding Wang Qinglai.
The little sister of the Wang family can pay 30,000 at the wedding of the eldest brother, and the wedding of the second brother is still waiting for her support as a "girl who does not have to read so many books"; Happy childbirth is imminent, and there is no need to worry about the family's economic resources being cut off, as long as Wang Qinglai, who has the most outstanding interest, can buy a house in the city and marry the daughter of the "county grandfather".
Girl, see? Don't use your life as a stepping stone for others, meet such a family, how far to run!
3. Why 1+1<1?
After entering the city, she knew that her education was low, in order to be competent for her job, she herself held the "Citizen Practical Law Compendium" to read, from a cleaner with a monthly salary of 1500 to a front desk with a monthly salary of 3500, while Qingzhi finally lay directly at home because of "no background".
In a marriage, if one person improves himself day and night, and the other person does not move forward, and still pulls you back together, do you think you can change by yourself?
This is a typical 1+1<1 marriage, the reason for such a mathematical inequality, I hope you will not understand the "mystery" of it for the rest of your life, when a person is exhausted, who can guarantee that she still holds the bottom card of the headwind?
If you are unfortunate enough to encounter such a marriage, should you stop the loss in time or seek perfection for the sake of your children?
In the play, He Xingfu gave up his bright future in the city for the sake of his children, and chose to return to the village to develop with a sentence of "can't run into the home without it".
From a mother's point of view, such a choice is too patternless, when a girl grows her knowledge, she should take her child to a better environment, which is why so many people are forced to abandon the play.
Whether it is a timely stop loss or for the sake of the child will be, there is no option for this problem is a way to win everything, the best solution is - you don't provoke such a man at the beginning, polish your eyes before marrying, your parents will raise you hard not so that you can save another person's life, let alone let you use your flesh and blood to lead a family to the light.
In a happy marriage, the child is the honey between two people, and in the unhappy marriage, the child is a hostage in the hands of the other party.
A woman who wants to juggle her career and children, and also has to drag a large family to run to happiness, such a successful case is not nothing, but it is too difficult!
Girl, you are not the Virgin, not so great.
Girl, advise you not to do what happiness, may you avoid Wang Qingzhi!
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