The most accurate evaluation of a person is often from the mouth of his "enemy".
Wan Chuanjia commented on He Happiness:
This little daughter-in-law, who looks like a mascot, did not expect to be so dark.
Cute and fierce characters, these are the two most prominent characteristics of He Happiness.
Looks pretty. When Wang Qinglai was on a blind date, he only took one look and fell deeply.
Tough characters. Assertive, shrewd and powerful, dare to speak and dare to go out, and no big person in any field is timid.
But such an excellent girl, why not marry Wang Qinglai such a man with a nest? In the words of the Wan Family, "Three slaps can't make a fart."
At this point, even the happy sister was confused. Sister, what do you really want him to do? The answer given by happiness is: "I want him to be honest and willing to do it, not to smoke or gamble."
Many viewers are like luck, and happiness is not worth it. But the truth is not as simple as she says.
He Xingfu married Wang Qinglai, it is true that he honestly handed over, but it was not to him honestly. What she was looking at was the stuff behind his honest intercourse.
Although this sounds like a twist, but if we open it, you may not disagree with me.
01 Awkward
Marriage is different from love. Love can span status, age, and even gender. But marriage is not the same, its universal logic is exchange. You trade what you have for what I have. Therefore, it pays attention to the matching of comprehensive strength.
We usually talk about the place where marriage is discussed, called the marriage market. Aren't the rules of the market exactly what trading? This common word actually speaks of the essential properties of marriage and love.
If there are no other objective conditions to bless, a man like Wang Qinglai will not be able to please such a beautiful wife as He Xing.
Wang Qinglai, who does not look amazing, is not outstanding, and there is a rural man with a shrugged head. A beautiful and capable woman like He Xingxing originally did not dare to think of it, and it belonged to the toad who wanted to eat swan meat.
But the two people who are so mismatched really become. Because Wang Qinglai had one important weapon in his hand- geographical advantage.
Wanjiazhuang, where the Wang family is located, is a well-known wealthy village. In the village, there are many small buildings, and the wealth is flowing. The elderly can retire, and the young people have money to earn. Wanjia Group pays more to its employees than the city workers earn.
There are money and guarantees and opportunities, and these three points are enough to make the Wanjiazhuang in the mountains become a "plane tree" in the marriage market. Huaguan is so pavilion, why worry about not being able to attract the "Golden Phoenix"?
With Wanjiazhuang as a signboard, Wang Qinglai's blind date is enough to have too much confidence. Therefore, he dared to look at he happy at a glance, and dared to hug the beauty without shame.
Compared with Wang Qinglai, He Xingfu's situation was much more embarrassing.
She is a sober woman who knows her strengths and weaknesses. Beauty and ability, this is a strong point, the age is poor, this is a short board.
His father died early, leaving behind a widowed mother and a weak sister, and He Xingxing, as the eldest daughter, must support the whole family.
The mother was timid and cowardly, and the words on her lips were "Bear with me, this is the life of others like us." My sister is still young and unable to take up the burden of supporting the family. Happiness can only be sacrificed at the expense of oneself.
She dropped out of junior high school to provide for her sister's education. How much bullying and how much grievances have been suffered by this poor three-daughter family, the thin and haggard face of He Mu is a wordless proof.
It is conceivable that in this family, those things that need to be fought for, all fall on the head of happiness. This also allowed her to develop a personality that is not afraid of the stage in everything and does not shy away from anyone.
The widowed mother and weak sister all depend on her. She could only sacrifice her marriage after she had sacrificed her studies.
After her sister finished college, she was happy in the countryside and had missed the best age for marriage. In the blind date market, she is in an awkward position. High, may not be; Low, and refuse to settle.
At this time, Wang Qinglai of Wanjiazhuang appeared. Honest men in wealthy villages can just balance each other's conditions.
02 Reality
He Happiness can live as much as possible, although she is smart and willing to do the luck of nobles, but there is also a point, this woman is a very realistic person.
On the day of the wedding, Happiness wore a snow-white wedding dress, sat on the wedding cart with Qinglai, and slowly drove into Wanjiazhuang. At this time, there was a subtle expression on her face.
When the huge slogan "Ten thousand families for everyone, everyone for ten thousand families" appeared, Happiness pressed the car window and stared at the village where she would live in the future, tears flashing in her eyes.
Then she turned her head, glanced at her overjoyed husband next to her, and smiled calmly.
In her beautiful eyes, the excitement of seeing Wanjiazhuang was far better than the children's love when she looked at her husband. Wanjiazhuang pinned her hopes for a good life, and the man she wanted to marry was far from moving her heart at that time.
She didn't love him. But she needed, he brought herself the possibility of the future.
Yu Xiuhua once admitted that the essence of any relationship between the sexes is to have a plan. This is the truth of marriage.
Lucky asked her sister, why marry a man like her brother-in-law? Happiness firmly said: I want him to be honest and willing to do it, not to smoke and not to gamble.
The requirements are low, aren't they? Not really.
Not smoking or gambling is the bottom line of life. Being willing to work is the basis for living a good life. Honestly, it's not that simple.
Happiness knows what kind of person you are. When she returned to the countryside from the city, she told Wang Qinglai that I couldn't do nothing, and I had to toss everywhere I went.
As an ambitious and courageous woman who is willing to endure hardships, happiness can never lie flat. She not only wants to do her career, she also needs to speak, but also to be the master of the house.
This is not easy to do in the countryside where there are still remnants of patriarchal thinking.
Look at the old secretary's house in Wanjiazhuang. The father-in-law's request to his daughter-in-law is: don't expect you to make money, you just need to bring your grandson to the old Wan family.
The Wan Chuan family is even more thorough. In front of employees, throwing your hand at your wife is a slap in the face. In the face of his wife's aggrieved tears, he gritted his teeth and spat out the words: If it hurts, give me to remember!
Just imagine, if the person He Xingxing married was a wan heirloom, she could do whatever she wanted, and could she live freely? The machismo family cannot tolerate a wife who is stronger than himself.
Moreover, happiness is also a bit selfish.
Although she is married, can she leave her family alone? That's not her personality. The widowed mother grows old day by day, and who can she rely on for her two daughters? Is it the little daughter who vowed to buy a big house in the city for the old woman?
The old lady has a scale in her heart. All she can rely on is still the boss who sacrificed herself for the family. Happiness certainly knows.
Although she married into her in-laws' family, the burden of her mother's family still needed her to carry. Her sister's difficulties had to be solved by her.
Lucky graduated from college, couldn't find a job in the city, and lived a good life. Happiness gave her all the 3,000 pieces she had asked for from her father-in-law.
After returning home, it is natural to suffer a complaint, but it is just a few complaints, and what she has to do, whether it is planting a greenhouse, going to the city to work, opening an inn, or helping her mother's family, no one can stop her.
This is the welfare of happiness in the old Wang family. Although she was a foreign daughter-in-law, she soon became the most powerful family member of the in-laws.
At this point, when the two villagers were chatting, they broke the truth in one word.
Don't look at the old Wang family is a small family with a small surname, and the family will be a daughter-in-law.
Secretary Wan Shantang also "intimidated" Wang Youde: You said that you have been honest all your life, marry such a powerful daughter-in-law, and your family will have a good life in the future.
And such an honest in-law, such a shrugged husband, is exactly what He Xingxing, who dares to think and dare to fight, wants. It's a choice made by a shrewd woman, with a rational and realistic mind.
03 Select
What is really smart in life? Personally, I think that there is both the wisdom of knowing people and the wisdom of self-knowledge. If you add the courage to make a choice and a little luck, the days will surely get better and better.
If you know the wisdom of others, you will not have unrealistic illusions about others. Only with self-knowledge can we understand our limitations and accept our shortcomings. Only by not dwelling on what you don't have can you use all your spirit to create the future.
At this point, although her sister He Lucky went to a prestigious university, she was far less transparent than her sister.
At first, Lucky pins his hopes on his boyfriend Daxun, hoping to rely on him to fight a turnaround battle. Later, when the marriage happened, Daxun ruthlessly abandoned her.
Luckily always felt that it was the marriage that ruined her life. In fact, even if there is no marriage, it is extremely difficult for her and Daxun to reach the end. Because from all indications, Dae-hoon only regarded her as a beautiful girlfriend, but never the first choice for his fiancée.
Luckily, there is no wisdom to know people, and at the same time there is a lack of self-knowledge. She deliberately ignored the huge gap with her boyfriend's family, and did not dare to face the fact that her boyfriend did not have any sincerity at all.
Later, she followed Lawyer Han and served the Wan Family, still making the same mistake. There are still many detours to take, and she thinks she has taken a shortcut.
Before his death, Father He reluctantly told his two daughters to live well and work hard.
Both sisters are trying to live, but the only person who can make the right person is the sister.