Recently, "Star Han Brilliant" starring Wu Lei and Zhao Lusi has been broadcast.
The handsome man and the woman thought it was a Mary Sue ancient puppet drama, but it turned out to be an ancient family group portrait drama.
Before you know it, Gigi advises you: Run!
Really, I didn't wait for the two-way cure of the male and female protagonists, and I was stunned by Zeng Liqi, who was killed in the previous episodes.
A good big beauty, just played a suffocating "tiger mother", and abused Zhao Lusi to heaven.
Zeng Li, you are confused!!
Unsurprisingly, after the premiere, the anger of the audience could not be suppressed, and the hot search comments were full of wailing.
"Being so cruel to your daughter, is this really a mother?"
"Heartache heroine, the same world and the same mother!"
"Angry, if the heroine's mother wasn't played by Zeng Li, she would have been violently abused by the Internet a long time ago..."
Discussions about the mother-daughter relationship in the plot have intensified, and the topic of #suppressive education has also been revived by the public.
Unexpectedly, in a costume light comedy, we can see the suffocation of modern family relations.
In fact, the relationship between mother and daughter is not complicated, in short: born without raising, punishment without education.
When the heroine Cheng Shaoshang (Zhao Lusi) was just born, her parents left her to fight. For more than ten years, she had no one to discipline or love. In the backyard of the family's restless house, it grew into a small white lotus with a black belly.
It was hard to wait for her parents to come back and make decisions for her, but what she did not expect was not her mother's preference, but prejudice.
This contrast is very similar to when we were young and we were wronged to go to our parents for support, only to be said: There must be something wrong with you.
The mother, Xiao Yuanyi (Zeng Li), has a strong desire for control, and in the face of her daughter who acts stubbornly, she directly adopts a repressive education and treats her adopted daughter as a training soldier.
Light is scolding, heavy is beating. The more the heroine resists, the more severe she is.
If the rewards and punishments can be clearly distinguished, I would like to respect her for her deep righteousness. Unfortunately, this mother is not spared.
The heroine is smart, and even the second uncle who has never dealt with her has praised her a few words, but she has never received a word of praise from her mother.
On the contrary, in the eyes of her mother, her shortcomings are innumerable: she can't read big characters, her personality is jumpy, and she will be rewarded.
Gigi was so angry that she wanted to say justice, the heroine could not read because no one had taught her since she was a child, and her heart was deep just to save her life.
Scolding is a big mistake, but I didn't expect that this mother's heart was almost biased to the Pacific Ocean!
In sharp contrast to the female protagonist, it is the cousin Cheng Jiao (Xu Jiao), who is gentle and gentle and courteous.
The love that the heroine has never enjoyed in her mother is given to this "daughter" who she prefers.
Many details such as the cousin seeking comfort in her mother's arms, and the mother only choosing beads for the cousin, were looked at by the heroine one by one.
She would also think: It turns out that my mother is not gentle, but she is not gentle with me.
I will also be envious: my cousin can get the hug and preference of my mother, but my mother does not even know what she likes to eat and how old she is this year.
Eccentricity is almost written on the face, but the mother still prides herself on being fair, who reads it and does not say a word: outrageous!
Even other relatives couldn't stand it, pointing out that there was something wrong with her way of educating, but she was so brave that she didn't realize her mistake.
The final result of such a suppressive education is that the mother and daughter are separated and the love has been exhausted.
At the same time, it also pained the audience, and every episode was watched with blood pressure rise, tear gland incontinence, and minutes were substituted for their former selves.
Isn't the typical hope that women become phoenixes and suppressive education the epitome of countless families?
Back to reality, it is not uncommon for a controlling mother like Xiao Yuanyi to be.
There are two kinds of their usual means: one is authority suppression, and the other is emotional kidnapping.
In the "authoritative suppression" section, Song Dandan, who was recently on the hot search, has an absolute right to speak.
In the show, she is strong and quite dependent on the old and selling the old, in fact, in reality, she is also a mother who pursues a suppressive education.
In "In the Longing Life", she dislikes and suppresses her son Batuu in all kinds, and even says hurtful words such as "I gave birth to a waste".
And he paid no attention to Batuu's face, shaking off his son's troubles in front of everyone.
The accusations and demeanings in her words all reveal traces of "suppressed education".
Didn't she love her son? Non also.
On the contrary, after divorcing her ex-husband, she took the initiative to fight for custody, and also scolded her ex-husband on Weibo for the maintenance of her son, and even promoted her son into the entertainment circle.
She loves Batuu, but chooses the most hurtful way to belittle him.
This inevitably echoes many people's childhood experiences: even though many people know that their parents love themselves, they are still hurt by such self-righteous love.
Another means of "emotional kidnapping" reminds Gigi of Zhu Yuchen's mother in the variety show "My Family's That Kid".
Zhu Yuchen, who is more than forty years old, has hands and feet, and he can live very well, but he has been under the control of his mother all his life.
Every day, he would pour several large pots of juice that his mother had made for him, and he could not even drink a few mouthfuls of pure water a day.
The mother has a deep attachment to Zhu Yuchen, and will cry as soon as she leaves her son, kidnapping her son in the name of love.
Zhu Yuchen also thought about resisting, such as dumping the food made by his mother. (Please, what a rebellion!) ）
But then the mother will stage a "bitter meat plan", saying that she "spent her whole life to treat her son." ”
Her mother's reluctance to let go made Zhu Yuchen lose her initiative in choosing a mate.
It is estimated that few people know that his first love is Tang Wei... After seeing this "deformed" family relationship, the goddess quickly broke up with him.
So far, 43-year-old Zhu Yuchen has not found a partner that she likes and can satisfy her mother.
His mother's airtight love made Zhu Yuchen breathless, but he finally puned himself in the end: although he accepted well, it was okay, it was because of love.
Like countless children in this kind of family relationship, because they know that their parents love themselves, they accept a part of their own unfreedom.
But are we happy?
Most people who live in a repressive education may have thought about this question when they were young:
"Is it because I really didn't become what they expected?"
"Why can't I do a good enough job in exchange for a word of praise?"
Is it really the child who does not do well enough to have such negative thoughts?
Gigi found the answer in a variety show he came across by chance, "Dear Little Desk".
Xu Jingkai, a primary school bully who just started the first grade, made 376 test papers in a winter vacation, which was completely "someone else's child".
But the mother is always dissatisfied, she hopes that her son will do the best, so she constantly suppresses and belittles her son, comparing her son with others.
And Xu's mother even said bluntly that only if Xu Jingkai is good enough to make her satisfied, she will like him.
"I don't dare to praise him, because he is in someone else's mouth, he is already someone else's child, and if I hold him so high, I am afraid of him."
"Now the child must strike a blow, otherwise after he leaves society, he will not be able to hear ugly words, and we adults can bear the blows, so what social blows can not bear." 」
Under his mother's long-term strict repressive education, Xu Jingkai, who is extremely lacking in love, has formed a flattering personality - inferiority, sensitivity, and inability to see his own excellence.
When Fu Seoul praised him, his first reaction was not to be happy, but to deny himself.
He didn't stop loving his mother, but he stopped loving himself.
The impact of the family of origin on the child is often the most difficult to consume.
Lucky people, who have been cured of childhood all their lives; Unfortunate people, who spend their whole lives healing childhood.
Most children who grow up under the oppressive education either grow a thorn or wear a flattering mask.
And those children who have undergone a repressive education but can heal themselves and reconcile with the trauma are just survivors.
Gigi discusses repressive education here, not by blaming parents.
There has never been a so-called correct way of educating children in the world, and what is important is to guide, not to impose.
Everyone has their own life, and no one can really bear the phrase "I'm all for your own good."
Control and kidnapping in the name of love often only push children farther and farther away.
Parents and children get along with each other throughout their lives.
But in any case, it must be based on love, respect and communication.
After all, a sentence of slander and suppression cannot be repaired by a hundred sentences of I love you.
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Editor-in-Charge / Nyūrō Locsan
Edit / Duck Duck
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