Song Chunli' biggest regret of "mother professional household" is that she has not been able to have her own children.
This is not because she didn't want it, but when she was young, she missed the best chance to get pregnant in order to fight for her career, and since then Song Chunli's health has not been good.
As a husband, Sun Weixi likes children very much, and can never blame her for his wife's decision.
On the contrary, even without children, their marriage has gone through 44 years of grace and love.
Until Song Chunli was 61 years old, the couple finally had a daughter of their own.
Although they were not their own children, the old couple still regarded themselves as if they were their own and gave her all their favor.
01 The way to get along with long-distance couples
In 1951, Song Chunli was born in an ordinary family in Hebei Province, and she also had an older brother, and both brothers and sisters had excellent grades.
Song Chunli liked to sing and dance since she was a child, so at the suggestion of her parents, she joined the army at the age of 13 and became a small actor in the Song and Dance Troupe of the Guangzhou Military Region.
It turns out that she has no talent in this regard, even if she gets up earlier than others and goes to bed late, she can only sing without out of tune, and dance is even worse.
So after thinking about it again, Song Chunli went to the theater and began to act in dramas.
The first time on stage, Song Chunli liked this feeling,
She loves her role and feels that she can experience different aspects of life, and she also performs with the troupe, allowing her to see many beautiful cities.
In order to improve her acting skills, Song Chunli secretly applied for the Beijing Film Academy refresher course, but she did not expect to be admitted.
So in the envious eyes of her colleagues, she packed her bags and went to Beijing to study.
Studying in Beijing is boring and tedious, but Song Chunli enjoys it tirelessly, and in the blink of an eye, Song Chunli is 26 years old, she has also graduated, and she is about to return to Guangzhou.
At this time, a classmate introduced her to the object, and at that time, 26 years old was already considered to be an older age, and it was time to consider marriage.
Song Chunli did not object, and the wine went to hehehe.
Fortunately, she was introduced to her later husband, Sun Weixi.
At that time, Song Chunli was an actress in the Guangzhou Repertory Theatre, and she dreamed of walking from the stage to the big screen, while Sun Weixi was a pipa professor in the Folk Music Department of the Central Conservatory of Music.
The first time the two met, Song Chunli became deeply interested in this professor who was six years older than herself.
It is rare for her to have no partner at the age of 26, but Professor Sun is six years older than her, not only is she not married, but she does not even have a girlfriend, which is very abnormal.
Moreover, Professor Sun has a high education, a stable job, and his appearance is not particularly handsome, but he is also decent.
There is also a special temperament in people who study music, which is also a sought-after commodity in the modern blind date market.
It is a marriage object that many women are scrambling to grab, why not have a girlfriend?
Sun Weixi
After the meeting, Song Chunli generously asked the questions in her heart.
Sun Weixi was still quite surprised, although he felt that this question was very abrupt,
But looking at the girl's bright smiling face, Sun Weixi knew that she had no malice and said why.
It turned out that Sun Weixi had been working hard for so many years, on the one hand, improving his musical skills, on the other hand, studying and teaching and educating people.
Since the age of 20, he has stayed in the school to teach, he will make different educational programs for different students, teach according to their aptitudes, and he is now full of peach and plum.
And the concerts he is responsible for organizing will personally invite professional musicians to perform, and every concert is full of praise.
Sun Weixi
Although Song Chunli is not a person in the music circle, she has also heard about Sun Weixi's achievements.
Now listening to Professor Sun's experience in teaching and educating people over the years, I am even more admired, this is an indifferent scholar and a dedicated teacher.
Sun Weixi also has a good feeling for the girl in front of him, although the questions he asks are very bold, but he is a straightforward person.
Generous in demeanor, not twisted at all, saying anything, it can be seen that he is a person with good character and is very optimistic and cheerful.
In this way, the two people who had a good feeling for each other established a romantic relationship.
But soon they will face a long-distance relationship.
After Song Chunli finished her studies at the Beijing Film Academy, she would return to Guangzhou to work.
Sun Weixi wants to stay in Beijing to teach. The love that has just begun is about to be tested.
The two agreed that after separation, at least one letter a week, due to the underdeveloped postal route, Song Chunli may receive a letter for half a month, sometimes more than 20 days, but this has deepened the relationship between the two.
Song Chunli found that Sun Weixi was not only a stable man, but also gave her guidance on some things.
Just like this time back to Guangzhou, in fact, Song Chunli is very hesitant, she wants to stay in Beijing, so that there are more opportunities for acting.
Not to mention that now that she is in love, she always hopes to spend more time with her boyfriend.
But she has no job and no money, and staying in Beijing is a problem.
Sun Weixi persuaded her that the work can be done slowly, the opportunity is always left to those who are prepared, as for love, as long as the hearts of two people are together, it is also okay to meet often.
Sun Weixi's words gave Song Chunli a lot of confidence, and Sun Weixi sometimes sent a letter a day in order to reassure Song Chunli.
The postman sometimes sent song chunli for more than ten days in a row, and then the postman learned to be smart, saved a bunch of letters, and sent a bunch to Song Chunli for half a month.
This can make Song Chunli and other eyes want to penetrate, Sun Weixi also cried and laughed after knowing it.
What moved Song Chunli was that the two corresponded so frequently, and the credibility was not a fleshy love story, but a daily life trivia.
Sun Weixi will write about what he ate this morning, which classmate deserted in class, he just practiced a new pipa song, and when they met, he would play it to Song Chunli.
She will also ask Song Chunli what drama she has recently acted in, and will also help Song Chunli pay attention to what crews are filming in Beijing.
The words are mixed with the concern for Song Chunli, and the girl who looks at it every time is warm in her heart, and after a year of falling in love, they finally entered the palace of marriage.
02 Want a career? Want kids?
In 1978, the two married. As Sun Weixi said, the opportunity is reserved for those who are prepared,
The second year after their marriage, Song Chunli received a film invitation, and the Changchun Film Studio invited her to play a small role in "The Heart of Suffering".
Although it is only a small role, Song Chunli is still very happy and told her husband the news for the first time.
Sun Weixi is also happy for his wife and encourages her not to be stressed, although this is her first film, but believe in her, will definitely act well.
With her husband's encouragement Song Chunli entered the crew, and every day she would report on the set,
Even if she does not have her own play, she will ponder the acting methods and experiences of other actors on the side, and she will take notes while speculating on the psychological changes of the characters.
When she was acting, although her acting skills were young, her expression and eyes were in place, which made the director praise it a lot.
The film also won the Outstanding Film Award of the Ministry of Culture that year.
Song Chunli's wonderful performance in it has also received the attention of many film and television directors.
In 1980, Bayi Film Studio filmed the first film after the special era, "Treacherous Detail", and boldly chose Song Chunli as the heroine.
This film is of great significance to the Bayi Film Studio, and can even be said to play a decisive role in the future development of the studio.
At the same time, this film also determines the future career direction of Song Chunli, and she attaches more importance to it.
The shooting site is in Heilongjiang, it is winter, it is cold,
In order to familiarize herself with the environment as soon as possible and integrate into the role, Song Chunli flew directly from Guangzhou to Heilongjiang.
Sun Weixi also knows that his wife attaches great importance to this movie, and although she misses her very much, she can only endure it.
A few months after the filming of the film, Sun Weixi finally received a call from his wife who was still filming in the crew.
After answering the phone, Sun Weixi did not have time to pour out his thoughts about this time to his wife.
Song Chunli gave him a surprise, she was pregnant.
Sun Weixi and Song Chunli both like children, but this sudden pregnancy is not in the plan of the two people.
The movie has been halfway through, and Song Chunli's pregnancy reaction is very large,
If you want to continue shooting this child, you can't stay, but if you keep this child,
The efforts of so many people in the crew for such a long time have been in vain.
Sun Weixi felt his wife's embarrassment, and he calmly said to her, "I want this child very much, but I respect your choice." ”
This is the greatest respect that Sun Weixi can give his wife,
In Sun Weixi's heart, his wife's career can't help too much, and all he can do is not to drag his wife back.
When her husband said this, Song Chunli could feel his loss,
But Song Chunli felt that she was still young, and now it was hard to have a scene to shoot, or such an important film,
The child will be there in the future, so Song Chunli took a leave of absence with the crew and deliberately returned to Beijing to do abortion surgery.
Sun Weixi picked up Song Chunli at the Beijing railway station, and they contacted the famous local maternity hospital.
Sun Weixi accompanied his wife throughout the whole process and constantly comforted her, telling her not to be afraid, he would always stay by her side.
Although the young and vigorous Song Chunli is very entangled, she is already lying on the bed in the hospital and cannot let herself have room for remorse, and she also feels very relieved to see her husband's concerned eyes.
After the operation was done, in order to let his wife take good care of her body, Sun Weixi specially stewed chicken soup for Song Chunli to drink, and accompanied her to the hospital bed every day.
But Song Chunli was preoccupied with the movie, and on the 6th day of the operation, she told her husband that she would rush back to the crew.
Sun Weixi was very distressed about his wife, but looking at her firm eyes, the words that stopped him could not be spoken.
There was no way, he had to take a leave of absence from school, send Song Chunli back to Heilongjiang, send her to the shooting site, and then return to Beijing by himself.
The film was a great success in the end, and also allowed the Bayi Film Studio to recognize Song Chunli's acting skills and sign her into the factory, and Song Chunli could finally come to Beijing to reunite with her husband.
03 "Being an Elderly Mother"
Song Chunli is 44 years old, since more than ten years of filming, she has focused on acting, dedicated many classic roles to the audience, and won many awards.
At this time, she felt that it was time to have a child with her husband, after all, her husband was already 50 years old.
Sun Weixi, who knows that his wife wants children, is very happy and loses the stability of his usual professors.
But after going to the hospital with his wife for examination, it was like being poured cold water.
The first miscarriage song Chunli's body did not recover well, coupled with the many years of filming often stayed up late, the body was overdrawn, Song Chunli has no luck with the child.
At this time, Song Chunli realized that she had missed something, and looking at her husband's gradually darkening eyes, she was very remorseful.
The two could have been parents, but now they don't have a chance.
Although the husband never said a word of complaint, he even comforted Song Chunli in turn, telling her not to worry, the child has to follow the fate,
Since there is no child fate and cannot be forced, so many years have come, and the life of two people is also very good.
Hearing her husband say this, Song Chunli felt very guilty, she cried, shook her husband's hand and said sorry.
Sun Weixi in turn hugged Song Chunli and reassured her not to cry, how can she still look like a child at such an old age.
Although the husband said that it didn't matter, every time he went shopping, he would always look at other people's children in a daze, and Song Chunli was very distressed to see such a husband.
At this time, she remembered her brother's child Song Chuyan,
At that time, he was in college in Beijing, and often came to their home to play, she and Sun Weixi both liked this child, very filial piety and understanding,
So Song Chunli said to her brother that she wanted to recognize Song Chuyan as a son, and her brother happily agreed, and Song Chuyan also agreed.
Song Chunli and his wife have been very good to him for so many years, although they called their aunts and uncles, but they were similar to their parents, and they recognized a son to make Sun Weixi very happy, and the old two also got some comfort.
Song Chuyan
Song Chunli will also take her son to star in film and television dramas.
But Song Chuyan, who has grown up, can't always accompany them, he also has his own work and life.
Within a few years, Song Chunli's guilt for her husband came out again,
She feels that she is very sorry for her husband, and sometimes she goes out to shoot as a "mother" and will experience the mother-child relationship.
But the husband has been alone at home since he retired, very lonely.
At this time, a good friend Deng Jie gave her an idea, Deng Jie and her husband Zhang Guoli were also married for many years without children, and later they adopted a daughter.
They educate girls as their own children very well,
After Song Chunli and her husband talked about this matter, her husband also moved his mind.
Although they could not give birth to two people who could be adopted, when Song Chunli was 61 years old, they contacted the local orphanage in Beijing and adopted an abandoned baby girl who was more than one year old.
Since the adoption of their daughter, the couple feels that they are younger and have a more exciting life.
Song Chunli also began to reduce her own filming volume, and may take one or two plays a year.
The rest of the time is spent at home with his daughter, and Sun Weixi is also rubbing his fists, planning to give his pipa skills to his daughter and let her inherit his mantle.
Sun Weixi bought a lot of parenting books, and every day he wore reading glasses to study while shaking the cradle.
Song Chunli is specifically responsible for buying and using for her daughter, and the old couple is eager to bring the best in the world to her daughter.
As her daughter grows up day by day, Song Chunli and Sun Weixi's lives become busier.
They would get up every morning to make breakfast for their daughter and then the old couple would hold their daughter's hand and take her to school.
Watching their daughter jump into the classroom, they will reluctantly leave, they do not want to miss any moment of their daughter's growth.
This year, Song Chunli is 71 years old, and their adopted daughter is also in elementary school.
Under the cultivation of the old couple, the daughter's academic performance is very good, and she has also mastered the first-hand pipa skills.
As long as there is an activity in the school, she will perform, and she is very filial, and she knows that she is distressed by her parents at a young age, and will help her parents wash their feet and beat their backs.
Looking at such a well-behaved daughter, they are always pleased, Sun Weixi said that he will take good care of his body and strive to personally send his daughter to marry in the future, song Chunli also means this.
In Song Chunli's most recent appearance, she smiled and chatted with the people around her, and also took a group photo with Jackie Chan and several friends.
Although her hair was gray, she was in good spirits, not at all like an old man who had passed away. When someone asked her how Mr. Sun Weixi was, she said happily: "Take care of the children at home." ”
The love of the older generation of artists is always simple and unpretentious, at that time, the carriage and horse were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime.
Sun Weixi insisted on this love, and in his later years he also harvested the joy of their children and grandchildren circling the paint, and Song Chunli's greatest happiness in this life was not to win numerous awards, but to marry love.