"Let me be fair, Yani, she has something unhappy about, this house is not hers, it is our family!" This is the "word of justice" issued by Wang Qingzhi's parents after they ran to the city and the dove occupied the magpie's nest.
As the family entered the city one after another, I could be regarded as seeing the face of the Wang family, Yani and Wang Qingzhi were not yet married, they were saddled with a big family and mother, and there were countless troubles every day.
The marriage between Yani and Wang Qingzhi was strongly opposed by her mother, this marriage is not right in any way, Yani's mother once tried to stop Yani and Wang Qingzhi, and forced her to die, but unfortunately did not let her daughter give up.
Putting aside the troubles caused by the improper opening of the door, the Wang family alone, who has no sense of proportion, is enough to ruin the happiness of the two people, and before they become relatives, they begin to calculate how to raid Yani, and the family has moved to the city.
They did not miss Yani for not abandoning his family's low door and not marrying Wang Qingzhi in a dowry, but felt that Yani must have the status of "director of thousands of gold" to be worthy of his family's graduate student son.
As soon as Wang Qinglai entered the city, he did not want to work hard, and he wholeheartedly wanted Yani's father to arrange a good job for him and live in a new house with peace of mind, and Wang Youde and his wife naturally believed that the house in the city was their old Wang family's, and there was no Part of Yani.
Yani has not been wronged for these things, and Yani's mother has seen such a situation, and she recalls the suffering she has suffered for so many years, and she is extremely emotional.
She repeatedly advised Yani to give up, even if she gave up hundreds of thousands of dollars to decorate the house, do not step into the fire pit, if Yani insisted on not listening to her mother's words, to marry Wang Qingzhi, then Yani's life is doomed to be unhappy.
The first time you visit your mother-in-law's house
The old Wang family was a small gateway to the outside world in Wanjiazhuang, and for many years in the village they were all people with their tails between their legs, and at first in Wanjiazhuang they were a poor and incompetent family, and they lived a good life under the care of Secretary Wan.
Such a small portal, generally others are not in the eyes, the Wang family, young and old, along the way, no less bullied, in order to get rid of such a day, Lin Guizhi single-mindedly want wang Qingzhi to rely on reading to get ahead.
The family saved money to provide Wang Qingzhi with food and money, and Wang Qingzhi did not live up to the expectations of his parents and family, and was admitted to a good university, studied graduate school, and became a civil servant, all the way smoothly.
Yani and Wang Qingzhi are college classmates, the two have known and loved each other for many years, laid a deep foundation for love, but love and marriage, after all, are not the same thing, love is two people's flower before the moon, marriage is two families of chickens and dogs.
After Yani's mother learned of Wang Qingzhi's birth, she did not agree to be with them, and Yani's father was a phoenix man from the countryside, and after one person was enlightened, he met countless chickens and dogs who wanted to ascend to heaven through his light.
Relatives came to the house every three or five minutes to fight the autumn wind, each one wanted to fight the relationship, took up the moral rope, asked them to do this and that, Yani's mother deeply tasted the pain of this, she could not bear Yani to eat again.
In order to stop Yani, she also forced her to die, but unfortunately, the parents of the world, can never help their children, and finally do the parents to give concessions to their children, Yani and Wang Qingzhi finally went to the step of talking about marriage and marrying their parents.
When she first arrived at the Wang family, Yani did a very thoughtful job, she bought gifts for everyone in the Wang family, and after entering the door, she also saw the Wang family's politeness, Andi told Wang Qingzhi, "I like your family, especially your sister-in-law."
However, Yani is still too simple after all, and does not understand the importance of seeing parents for examining marriage, she only superficially sees the surface of the matter, but ignores the essence of the future that will affect the happiness of marriage.
Because Yani was coming, the Wang family and a large family were idle at home, but they let the happiness of a month to cook, at that time the happiness action was already very inconvenient, cooking a family meal, it was not an easy thing, but no one felt that this matter should not be done.
Mother-in-law and sister-in-law are all there, but only a future daughter-in-law who has just entered the door to help, the Wang family is in the house, bumping melon seeds, thieves and eyebrows discussing Yani's family lineage, as soon as they come up, they ask Yani's father what kind of official, after the end, Wang Youde is not salty and not light to say:
Oh, Qingzhi, you are climbing the county grandpa, if you say so, don't say, she really deserves you!
When I heard this sentence, I couldn't help but say a word across the screen: Yo, uncle, you really dare to say it, the big belly daughter-in-law cooks, the family is at ease, and the family climbs the family, but I think That Yani is worthy of his son because of such a family lineage, and she can't see her own weight at all.
Yani this line to see the in-laws, in addition to the whimsical want to build a house in Wanjiazhuang pension, nothing to gain, about the pre-marriage to the in-laws to investigate, as a person who has been to two in-laws' homes I said (the first time to blow, shy!). ), which has a lot of say.
The first time to go to the in-laws' house with the boyfriend who is ready to get married, is the best opportunity to visit the in-laws' family, this is not a simple trip or relatives, but to understand your future home in advance, whether you can live happily after marriage depends on this.
If you have seen it hastily, not observed everything in the in-laws' family, or not thought about what you have seen and heard, and walked like a horse and a flower, then you will definitely suffer losses when you marry into the in-laws' family in the future.
According to my experience, the first time I went to my in-laws' house, I took yani as an analogy, and I needed to carefully observe and think about the following points:
First: Choose the timing of going to your in-laws' house
This point is actually quite difficult, it takes time, it also needs chance, it is best to observe how the in-laws are, that is, when there are big things at home and there are many people gathered.
In fact, I think that the timing of Yani's coming to her in-laws' house is not right, since she decided to get married, she should not choose to come back when the wind and waves are calm, it is best to come when Wang Qinglai is married or happy children's full moon feast, often when such busy feet do not touch the ground, it is easier to see the character and sense of responsibility of the family.
If Yani chooses to come on the day of Wang Qinglai's marriage, see her in-laws and mother-in-law so low and four times without being facetious to go to Secretary Wan, and then see Wang Qingzhi Wang Qinglai has no manhood and sense of responsibility, and watching lucky being bullied, she will definitely look at this family with disdain.
In Yani's identity, if you let the relatives of the Wang family know, it is not certain how many people will show their ugly faces in order to curry favor with her, but unfortunately, Yani is too simple to understand these basic etiquette, and Yani will only have one night to go to Wang Qingzhi's house.
So how to see the family more comprehensively in a night's time? Then sit with them, don't talk too much, watch their family chat, chat content, chat habits, details see character.
My first boyfriend's home, a family chat is to chat about other people's parents short, but also from time to time out of a few dirty words, after I inquired from the side, also heard the family is very picky, and then look at their attitude towards outsiders, face to face smile greeting, others go out to scold others.
Later, he married a very rich woman without breaking up with me, and even on the day of the wedding, he called me to tell me that he was on a business trip, that the family was double-faced, and that his son would not be much better.
In fact, choose to go when the in-laws have a problem, many people feel embarrassed, but after experiencing me, I know that this is really the best time, all the people who walk around his home, you will have to contact in the future, embarrassment can smile more and talk less, but don't give up such a good opportunity because of shyness.
I have been to the current home twice, once is the funeral of a relative, once is the grandfather's ninetieth birthday, the funeral depends on the responsibility, the happy event looks at the popularity, really can't be wrong, the two modes, the way of getting along is not the same, can take responsibility, play the family, the identification is right.
Don't be like Yani, rush to go, don't go to the village to meet people, run to the barren mountains to see the scenery, don't accompany the in-laws for two days, and continue to get along with Wang Qingzhi alone, so that seeing your parents on this trip is beneficial to the in-laws' family, but you have nothing to gain.
Second: look at the pattern of in-laws getting along
In addition to looking at the way the in-laws get along with outsiders, but also to see the way they get along with their families, as well as the way they live, Yani's arrival, although the Wang family has a smile on their faces, but the small actions behind their backs are really a lot.
Yani entered the door, happiness was the most enthusiastic to lead her in, while Wang Qinglai and Xiuyu followed behind, which can be seen that there is something wrong with the Wang family, happiness is rushing to the front.
The most noteworthy thing is that Yani stepped into the door on her front foot, and Wang Youde and his wife secretly talked about Yani behind the door, and did small actions when talking. Don't you have to avoid it a little?
It is not difficult to guess from their expressions, it is nothing more than a question "How about this girl?" The other looked at Yani and replied, "It looks good, I just don't know what the house is for!" ”
No, Yani and Happiness just walked into the kitchen, the family whispered and closed the door and began to talk about it, I really think that this family has no quality, the first day of the object of not getting married, go to cook, no one stops, no one entertains.
Yani watched the family hide behind the hot air, afraid that she had no topic to be embarrassed, and afraid that the family would always look at her, so she ran to the kitchen to hide.
I went to the "in-laws' house" twice, I wanted to follow the cooking, but the pot was almost broken, they did not let me touch my hands, the family would take the fruit, the next time to take food to entertain me, but also chat with me, do not let me be embarrassed, and the Wang family is different, as soon as the girl enters the door, she begins to play the idea of family lineage.
Yan Ni can't see the place where she can't hear, the family talks is ugly, and then Yani and Wang Qingzhi want to leave, and secretly pull Wang Qingzhi to the house to talk, generally doing so, it is nothing more than a threat to the interests of other people, it is not convenient to say it.
The things behind the small actions are more noteworthy, discussing behind her back how to hold Yani first, let her play casually before she gets married, and then manage her after marriage, don't let her play, before she is married, she is calculated, really a family of people.
Doesn't a good in-laws hope that their sons and daughters-in-law can live happily? Instead of thinking about how to loot, my in-laws told me when I first came to her house that their son should be in charge of how to manage it, told me to live a good life, except for the back of the scenes to discuss how many gifts to give me, they did not sneak anything behind their backs.
One night shouted a big family neighbor to come to the house to play, although I was a little embarrassed, but what I saw was the friendliness and happiness of the neighbors, while the Wang family, in Wanjiazhuang can be described as a dog ignored, and then look at their family, the face and heart are not harmonious, the heart is never together again, such a in-laws, entering the door is inevitable to fight with each other.
Third: look at the way parents get along
The way the man's parents get along is the mode of getting along with your other half in the future, this sentence is the test of time, before marriage, see the two sons of the Wang family are good, one honestly hurts the daughter-in-law, one has knowledge and quality, but this is not the case.
People can pretend to be very good before the purpose is not achieved, just like Wang Qinglai in the early stage, although I think she is not worthy of happiness, but seeing that he is good for happiness, I also agreed to this marriage, but how about it later, Wang Qinglai is a copy of Wang Youde.
Wang Youde has never been good to his wife, he is outside the pocket, when he comes home, he will sprinkle anger on his wife, once because his wife can do it, he has beaten his wife, and he will never feel sorry for his wife.
Yani's time in the Wang family is short, and she can't see the mode of getting along with the old two, but look at Wang Qinglai and the happy mode of getting along, you know, the wife is generous, the husband is outside sniffing melon seeds to talk about gossip, others are not distressed and happy, he as a husband is not distressed, does this make sense.
Such a family that does not respect people with foreign surnames, how can it be happy, Wang Qingzhi is now good to Yani, because it has not been obtained, and after getting it, it will not be so enthusiastic, the influence of the original family on a person is difficult to erase, there are already two such women in the family, do not think that they will be different, in their eyes, they will not look at your special, will only squeeze your value.
Good couples, even if not husbands spoil their wives, at least respect and love each other, if you do not see this in each other's home, but also insist that the people you like will be different from them, don't blame the marriage for slapping you hard.
Fourth: See how the in-laws treat their daughters-in-law
The last point, really too important, if you have a concubine, you must take a good look at how the in-laws treat the current daughter-in-law, because how they treat her now, the future must be how to you, you must not think that you have a culture and a family lineage, it will be different, you know, your advantages, is their best tool to use.
The Wang family left a happy daughter-in-law who only has a month to give birth in the kitchen to cook, I can't go over, in reality, pregnant women cook a lot, but most of them are family members, are doing heavier work, the easiest cooking, can only be handed over to pregnant women, this is no way to do things.
But a very small number of pregnant women who are pregnant and cook are happy like this, not to be hurt by people, often such women, marriage is unhappy, either in pain, or in despair after leaving, in short, there is no good result.
If I were Yani, I would have entered the door to see my sister-in-law cooking alone on her stomach, and the family at the door was leisurely chatting with melon seeds, and when I went back, I would break up decisively, so that I would not be as stupid as Yani, and I didn't even notice that there was anything wrong.
Later, Wang Qingzhi suddenly had more than 300,000 yuan to buy a house, with a normal person's thinking, we all know that Wang Qingzhi, who just worked, will not have so much money, but Yani was blindly immersed in her fantasy of the future, did not think about the people who carried everything for these 350,000 people, and genshi did not think about what the Wang family was thinking.
If it were me, I would definitely ask the source of the 350,000 yuan, and after knowing that I did not get a penny of happiness, I would not be entangled with such a family again, because if I did not put the last daughter-in-law in my eyes, after achieving the goal, I would definitely do the same to you.
A place of chicken feathers before marriage
However, Yani didn't see anything, didn't reflect on anything, simply went to a trip, ate, drank, and played, and it was over, she thought that the Wang family would not have too much to do with her after that, and she didn't know that people had made up their minds to rely on their family.
Happiness and Wang Qinglai because of the matter of telling Secretary Wan, caused Secretary Wan to fall ill, the village could not stay, can only run to the city to escape, at that time Yani and Wang Qingzhi were not married, the new house has not been renovated, they have not moved in.
The two old members of the Wang family naturally told them to go to Wang Qingzhi in the city, how to defect, he lived in the dormitory, how he entertained them, but in the end they could only compromise and let them live in the marriage room.
Wang Qingzhi did this, there is nothing wrong with it, it was the house that the whole family bought with money, but yani, she gave more money than Wang Qingzhi to decorate the house, she did not live, she was messed up by others, back to her own home, but also felt extremely embarrassed.
Happiness also felt that living in their marriage house was not the same, but Wang Qinglai said unashamedly: "You call him, if he dares to say that this house is his, I will move out now."
Obviously, the Wang family regarded this house as their own, and what was even more excessive was that Wang Qinglai pestered Yani's father again and again, and the two people were still just friends, and the family went to pestering in this way, and also caused people to be criticized by the leaders, which made the family feel very bad.
Yani endured again and again, not in exchange for their self-knowledge, but again and again to increase the demand, according to Wang Qinglai's practice, the official work of Yani's father may not be certain, and then the family will stick to the Yani family like rotten eggs, and they will not be able to shake it off.
A Wang Qinglai has made it difficult for the Xu family to be a person, but Wang Youde and his wife are carrying live chickens, holding rotten bedding and "relocating" the family to the new house, without greeting anyone, thinking that it is just to go back to their home in the city, without greeting people.
Wang Qingzhi is also very excessive, the house of the two people is occupied by their family, not even a greeting to Yani, Yani was originally happy to take flowers to give Wang Qingzhi a birthday, as a result of entering the door is full of smell and messy things, but also by Lin Guizhi frightened.
To tell the truth, this mother-in-law I still liked before, but then how I saw how disgusting, Yani was angry away, she did not feel that there was anything wrong with her:
Let me be fair, Yani, she has an unhappy share, this house is not hers, it is our family!
Married, paid, in their own house, even the right to speak is not worthy of having, and Lin Guizhi's words will become the marriage line that runs through Yani's life, and in the future, if there is anything to yani to do, she will definitely say: If I want to say ah, how should Yani have been, who let her be the daughter-in-law of our old Wang family, isn't she our family?
If I am not mistaken, when Lin Guizhi said this, he would definitely have a false smile on his face, and pretend to be a good mother-in-law like he did for happiness.
The first time Yani cried in front of her mother about her firm choice of love, not yet married, is a chicken feather, such a day to live a lifetime, and such a day, Yani's mother has a deep understanding, she told Yani "If you break up now, it is still too late."
In front of Yani, there are two roads, but sober people know that choosing to break up is the most correct way out, if Yani can't give up her love for Wang Qingzhi, then her life will be gradually suffocated by marriage, and finally there is no life.
I hope that Yani be a sober person, can escape from the fire pit in time, and I hope that we will be smarter, in the inspection of the in-laws' family, just observe such a family, suitable for a lifetime, do not be like Yani, after losing more than three hundred thousand, it is difficult to turn back, even if you turn back, the more than three hundred thousand, it is impossible to get back, girl, sober, smart!