How much does parenting affect children? Just look at Chen Yulin.
A girl who is in the middle of a colorful age, who should have worked hard for the future, but finally fell into the little three shouted and beaten by adults.
And it was her mother who caused all this.
The son does not teach, "the mother's fault", Chen Yulin fell into such a situation, Chen Yulin's mother can not escape the blame.
When her daughter stood at the crossroads of life, she pushed behind her back until she sent her daughter to prison, and she regretted it.
01, can sing and dance, brave to chase dreams
Chen Yulin's original name was Chen Menglin, and she only changed her name to Chen Yulin after entering the entertainment industry.
Unexpectedly, she changed her name and changed her life, and completely fell into the abyss.
In 1988, Chen Yulin was born in the expectations of his parents.
As the only child in the family, Chen Yulin set thousands of pets in one and spent a very happy childhood.
When she was a child, Chen Yulin liked to watch TV very much, and when she watched those beautiful female stars walking the red carpet in gorgeous dresses, she was envious.
Children are outspoken and always say whatever they think.
She told her parents that she wanted to be a star when she grew up and could wear beautiful dresses every day.
Parents who love their children very much naturally follow her words, "My baby will definitely become a big star in the future." ”
Chen Yulin's parents did not know, they casually said a word, but the child was serious.
Since then, Chen Yulin and her friends have always had to dress up as stars, and told their friends that they must be big stars in the future.
Looking at Chen Yulin's serious look, his parents always couldn't help but secretly laugh, and the star was so good.
However, his parents still moved their minds and let Chen Yulin study art.
They don't want their daughter to be a star, but they just think that girls dancing and learning music will be a good way out in the future.
The parents' plan really took a lot of thought.
Chen Yulin's family is not very wealthy, his father is a long-distance bus driver, and his mother is a conductor.
Before giving birth to the idea of letting her daughter learn art, the family of three was also happy and plain, content and happy.
Later, after the idea of studying art germinated, my parents also consulted about the related expenses.
Everyone knows that people who study art are basically piled up with money, and the cost can be much more than that of ordinary students.
After learning the news, my father smoked a cigarette all night and struggled internally.
Finally, he asked his daughter if she wanted to learn, and if she wanted to learn, let her learn.
Where did the young Chen Yulin understand the difficulties of her parents, her father asked her, and she agreed to it, and she was happy for several days.
When parents, as long as they see the child's smiling face, they are satisfied, and those difficulties are digested alone, and they cannot delay their daughter's future because of money.
It is indeed a coincidence that a chance idea of the parents just developed Chen Yulin's talent.
The teacher of the art class often praised Chen Yulin, saying that she was a talented child and had a promising future in learning art.
The teacher's words are the best reward for the hard work of Chen Yulin's parents, who feel that no matter how tired they are, everything is worth it.
Chen Yulin himself is willing to work hard, even if he is a talented person, he must pay enough effort to become a talent.
Especially when she grows up, she understands more about the difficulties of her parents.
Chen Yulin made up his mind that he must get ahead and be filial to his parents in the future.
In 2006, Chen Yulin graduated with honors and was admitted to Wuhan Conservatory of Music.
02, many times to participate in singing competitions, a little famous
After Chen Yulin successfully entered the university, she finally breathed a sigh of relief.
Previously, because she did not want her parents and her efforts to be wasted, she put all her thoughts on the college entrance examination.
Now that the dust had settled and the results were so good, she finally had time to do what she wanted to do.
In 2006, she signed up for the "Avenue of Stars" organized by CCTV.
At that time, she was still very naïve, thinking that she could also be like the TV series, once she appeared, she would surprise the audience.
However, television is only television after all, which is far from what it looks like.
Chen Yulin only showed a face in front of the national audience, and did not stir up much splash.
The race was a serious blow to her self-confidence, both in terms of appearance and strength.
Chen Yulin is indeed young and beautiful, full of vitality, but there are indeed many people who are better looking than her.
In addition, her performance did not attract the crowd.
She is just a fledgling rookie, whether it is a typhoon or a singing, she is very green and has many shortcomings.
After participating in this competition, Chen Yulin cried sadly at home for several days.
Her previous life had been smooth, and she had hardly encountered any setbacks.
This time, she really realized that there are people outside the people, and there are mountains outside the mountains.
The parents looked at their daughter's pained face and were very distressed.
They comforted their daughter that she had just entered a new stage in her life, that a good life had just begun, and that there would be opportunities in the future.
The comfort of her parents gave Chen Yulin great encouragement.
She regained her strength and set herself a small goal, and the next performance must be better than this time.
I have to say that Chen Yulin's mentality is still very good, and he can bravely face setbacks.
Also in 2006, shortly after the end of the "Walk of Fame", she continued her efforts and signed up for the "National Day Seven Days of Music" hubei special.
This time, she summed up the lessons of her last performance and made adjustments in time.
The result gave Chen Yulin a big surprise, she won the championship.
There are rewards to be motivated, and the success of this competition completely erased the shadow in Chen Yulin's heart, and she continued to fight towards the goal.
She believes that she will one day succeed, and her parents have the same hope for her.
In 2007, she set off again and signed up for the "Extreme High Song" competition held by Hubei Satellite TV.
In this competition, she was fully prepared and finally won the ninth place in the national finals.
Compared with Chen Yulin last year, this year she has matured a lot, at least she will no longer hold on to the hope of innocence, and she will be a champion as soon as she plays.
Now she pays more attention to progress, and every time she makes a little progress than before, then her efforts are meaningful.
Driven by this positive attitude, Chen Yulin also won the bronze medal in the 2007 National Pop Music Competition.
At that time, Chen Yulin was young and hardworking, and she was always brave enough to pursue her dreams.
No matter what kind of storm she encounters, she believes that she can survive it.
Because she has parents behind her who are always supportive of her, their presence is her motivation to move forward.
03, acquaintance and love with Wu Xiubo, losing himself
How did the mother, who always supported her daughter behind her back, push her daughter step by step into the abyss?
Through his own efforts, Chen Yulin's fame gradually grew.
In the past, even if the Network was gradually improved, she could not find information about her.
And now, she's starting to have her own fans and has started to have her own links.
While my mother was proud of Chen Yulin's excellent performance, she also had a sense of superiority.
Especially when relatives and friends chat together, seeing their envious eyes makes my mother very proud.
In her mind, Chen Yulin is no longer comparable to these people, and her status as a mother naturally rises with the water.
In 2011, Chen Yulin finally ended his life alone.
After the hard work of the previous few years, finally some brokerage companies saw her strength, felt that she was a malleable talent, and officially signed a contract with her.
That is, after signing the contract with this company, her name was officially changed to "Chen Yulin", and she also began another life.
The brokerage company was still very attentive to Chen Yulin, and soon after signing her, it arranged a notice for her.
At first, Chen Yulin thought he was going to participate in a singing competition or something.
After all, from the very beginning of her appearance in front of the audience, it was basically a stage performance, and she herself was working in this direction.
To her surprise, the company arranged for her to act in television.
Probably the ultimate destination of stars in the entertainment industry is actors, and the stage is not every day, but if the arrangement is appropriate, it can always act.
However, at that time, Chen Yulin could not adapt to the identity of an actor.
For the field she had never touched before, her heart was troubled.
She told her mother about her concerns, not knowing if she should take the play.
Although it is only a small role that cannot be smaller, she is still afraid that she will not be able to do it.
At this time, the experience of the mother's old way showed its effect.
She knew that her daughter's role in television was beneficial and harmless, so that she could quickly expand her popularity.
So she persuaded her daughter to take the job.
The TV series in which Chen Yulin participated is called "The Next Miracle".
Don't look at her just playing a small role in it, the other roles in this drama are all big names.
Nicholas Tse, Zhang Weijian, Hai Qing, and Wu Xiubo, who was the most entangled with Chen Yulin.
Wu Xiubo was born in 1968, exactly 20 years older than Chen Yulin.
In 2011, Chen Yulin was only 23 years old when he filmed "The Next Miracle", his face was full of collagen, and he was young and energetic.
Perhaps it is precisely for this reason that Wu Xiubo paid attention to her.
At that time, Wu Xiubo had many years of acting experience and his acting skills were very powerful.
When he took the initiative to come to Chen Yulin's side and said that he wanted to teach her to act, Chen Yulin could not refuse at all.
Of course, at that time, Chen Yulin didn't think anything of it, only when he was a walking textbook.
In this way, the relationship between the two slowly matured.
Because it was only a small role, Chen Yulin did not stay long in the crew before completing his filming work and preparing to leave.
Just when he was about to leave, Wu Xiubo took the initiative to exchange contact information with her, saying that he could contact her more in the future.
At this time, Chen Yulin seemed to feel that something was wrong, he was just a small actor, Wu Xiubo wanted to keep in touch with himself?
At that time, she was embarrassed to refuse Wu Xiubo, plus when she was in the crew, Wu Xiubo really helped her a lot, and she agreed.
After returning home, Chen Yulin told his mother about this matter and asked Wu Xiubo what his intentions were.
In fact, my mother also sensed the implications.
But at that moment, her mother did not want Chen Yulin to stay away from Wu Xiubo, but often contacted him.
The statement given by her mother is this, Wu Xiubo should just treat her as a descendant, may think that she is talented and wants to promote her.
I have to say that my mother accurately grasped Chen Yulin's lifeblood.
At that time, Chen Yulin was bent on gaining a firm foothold in the entertainment industry, and it was indeed a good choice to lean against a big tree to cool off.
In this way, chen Yulin and Wu Xiubo's contact gradually increased, and she also knew that the other party was a wife's person.
However, under the intentional seduction of Wu Xiubo, Chen Yulin still inevitably fell in love with the other party.
If it is a normal relationship, it does not matter, but it is a family.
After struggling for a while, Chen Yulin still chose to know three as three.
Mom soon became aware of the relationship, but she didn't make a fuss.
Because since the daughter and Wu Xiubo hooked up, the resources have soared rapidly.
In 2011, she only starred in a small supporting role that could hardly be named, and in 2013, she had her first female lead drama "Auspicious Tianbao", and it was Zhao Liying who matched her.
At that time, Zhao Liying's fame was much greater than That of Chen Yulin, but even so, she still had to match Chen Yulin.
This is all Wu Xiubo behind her back to set up a stage, struggle for several years can not get the treatment because a man is at your fingertips, Chen Yulin in this excitement gradually lost himself.
At first, she was ashamed that she had interfered in someone else's marriage.
As time passed, she benefited more and more, and she left this shame behind.
The two begin to blatantly be together in the film scene.
Wu Xiubo came to the set to find someone by visiting his juniors, and the two openly showed their love.
The more Benefits Wu Xiubo gave chen Yulin, the more Chen Yulin followed him.
During this period, Wu Xiubo bought Chen Yulin a lot of things, clothes, bags, jewelry, everything.
Chen Yulin fulfilled her promise when she was a child, and she did filial piety to her mother.
When I interacted with Wu Xiubo, my mother also got a lot of good things.
The mother, who was stuffed with material desires, also took the initiative to help her daughter hide the fact that her father was a little third.
At this time, her consideration is not at all whether her daughter can be happy, but whether her own desires can be satisfied.
Driven by this psychology, she consciously or unconsciously pushed her daughter to firmly hold Wu Xiubo's thigh.
Even when she heard that Wu Xiubo had asked her daughter not to act, she agreed.
Chen Yulin and her mother have forgotten that her original dream was just to be a star, and she has worked hard for many years.
Tempted by the power of money, they all lose themselves, and this is the beginning of falling into the abyss.
In the Mid-Autumn Festival of 2018, Chen Yulin suddenly blew himself up in the circle of friends to be a primary three.
It turned out that before this, Wu Xiubo began to clear his relationship with Chen Yulin.
Following Wu Xiubo's years, Chen Yulin has almost no other job opportunities except for a heroine.
This also means that without Wu Xiubo, she will be useless.
Chen Yulin naturally refused to let go easily, and even she still held the idea that if Wu Xiubo abandoned her, they would die and break the net.
As a result, it is conceivable that Wu Xiubo is even less likely to let her go, and has set a huge trap for her to drill.
Desperate, Chen Yulin can only use the sky-high breakup fee to protect his future life.
This just called Wu Xiubo's intentions, and directly sent Chen Yulin into the bureau.
Knowing that her daughter was about to go to prison, Chen Yulin's mother woke up from a big dream and regretted that she was not in the beginning.
"If I had been able to stop Wu Xiubo from contacting her daughter at that time, wouldn't the result have been different?"
Chen Yulin will follow his original plan step by step, and gradually realize his dream.
Although the process will be full of twists and turns, her life will be stable and she will not face the current situation.
Chen Yulin's mother realized her mistake, and unfortunately it was too late.
Chen Yulin can only accept the trial of the law and pay the price for her mistakes.
Wu Xiubo's body was ruined, and the initiators of Chen Yulin's 3-year prison disaster were all her mothers.
Girls must know how to love themselves, be sober and restrained in the face of love, and not hurt others and finally hurt themselves.