After picking up the second girl Zhen Bao from school, we both went to the convenience supermarket in the community to buy things, and Zhen Bao picked two lollipops, one for her and the other for her sister.
After checking out, Zhen Bao immediately opened the lollipop and ate it.
There was a little girl next to her, about three or four years old, staring at Zhen Bao without blinking, and it could be seen that she also wanted to eat.
I was a little hesitant to give her another lollipop, but I wasn't sure about her family's attitude and was a little afraid to give it.
Just as I hesitated, the little girl's grandmother (who was about sixty years old, it was supposed to be Grandma) came over, and she quickly understood what was going on.
She began to gently persuade the girl, she said, want to eat sugar again? Have you forgotten that eating sugar will cause you to lose your teeth? Eating sugar is not a good kid.
How is it not a good child to eat sugar? I was speechless, but I didn't want to argue with her, so I pulled Zhen Bao and hurried away.
Do you want to give your child candy?
After many years as a mother, I know that most children like to eat sugar, but the attitude of parents is very complicated when it comes to the issue of children eating sugar.
In general, parents treat their children with sugar in the following three ways:
First, strictly limit the amount of sugar your child eats.
Second, do not restrict your child from eating sugar, but do not encourage it.
Third, it doesn't matter.
Our family belongs to the second kind.
We don't limit our children to sugar, but we also don't buy a lot of them in one go and let them eat enough.
In fact, I believe that most parents will not encourage their children to eat more sugar and eat sugar as food, as the saying goes, it is too late.
I believe that most parents, like us, let their children eat a little, taste the taste, and know that the sugar is sweet and delicious.
But I also know that there are really some parents who strictly restrict their children from eating sugar. When a child eats a little sugar, they are worried to death, or they are nagging endlessly. Not only do they not buy candy for their children, but they also do not let friends and relatives give their children candy.
In their view, eating sugar has no benefits, for example, it will make the child's teeth fall out, it will make the child fat, and it will make the child eat badly.
Does sugar have so much magic? Let parents love and be afraid.
When children eat candy, what are parents worried about?
In fact, eating sugar is not the root cause of tooth decay. The root cause of child tooth decay is that we have not helped the child to clean the mouth, after all, when the child is a child, most of the cleaning of the teeth depends on the help of the parents.
Moreover, this is also related to the child's physique.
I remember that when Zhen Bao was about one year old, two of her teeth suddenly began to turn yellow, and at that time, I rarely let her eat sugar. Later, she was taken to the dentist, who said that it was probably during my pregnancy that I had insufficient calcium supplementation, which caused the child's teeth to develop.
A few years later I went to experience, the doctor also suggested that I want to supplement calcium, I remembered at that time, Zhenbao's teeth are not good, really affected by me, sorry for the child.
And I have a friend, her daughter has loved to eat sugar since childhood, almost every day to eat a small bag of rainbow sugar, or fudge, bubble gum, etc., the child does not brush their teeth much, now the child is six years old, the teeth are good, no tooth decay, no teeth.
Just like a child's mobile phone no matter how long he plays, his eyes are not short-sighted, it is really more human than human, angry to death.
Children are not allowed to eat sugar, and they are not restricted from eating sugar, and the gap is large when they grow up
Raising children is a long and tedious process, and sometimes, parents' seemingly inconspicuous decisions have a profound impact on their children.
In the case of eating sugar, what is the difference between a child who is not allowed to eat sugar from an early age and a child who is not restricted from eating sugar from an early age? In fact, the gap is very large, parents do not care.
First, the loss of precious freedom.
Parents who do not allow their children to eat candy are generally more controlling parents, who like to interfere with their children's life and learning.
When they feel that there is no benefit to eating sugar, they are not allowed to eat sugar; When they feel that playing games is both harmful to their eyesight and a waste of time, children are not allowed to play games.
And there is no room for negotiation.
In this way, the child will be very passive and lose his freedom.
Children who are not free, everything is their parents are making up their minds, he will feel suffocated, and he will not be able to grow into a self-conscious person.
Second, the compensation psychology is strong.
There is a girl in Ling Bao's class, who has been strictly required by her parents since she was a child, not allowed to eat snacks (even more forbidden to eat sugar), not allowed to play mobile phones, in short, a lot of requirements.
In the lower grades, this child is still very obedient, when children of the same age eat candy and discuss mobile games, she will walk away from a distance, but Ling Bao feedback that she actually wants to eat candy and play games with them.
Later, when the child grew up, coupled with adolescence, he often saved some pocket money and bought sugar, ate it all at once, and ate it until he was uncomfortable and did not want to stop.
Whether it is rebellious or compensatory, it is actually a deep regret in her heart to make up for the fact that she did not eat sugar when she was a child.
Sometimes, the more parents don't want their children to do anything, the more curious they are to try.
It is better to let go and let the child try it, when he knows that sugar is very sweet, but it is not comfortable to eat too much, maybe he will not worry.
Third, inferiority complex.
When a child sees other children eating candy, he will be envious and will also have questions, why can others eat candy, but his own parents tell him a bunch of truths?
Children can't understand so much truth, and they won't think about deep things, they will simply think that they must be not good enough, and their parents don't love themselves, so they don't let themselves eat sugar.
Over time, children will develop inferiority complex.
Restricting children to eat sugar, or allowing children to eat sugar, may be between parents' thoughts, but the impact on children is huge.
We certainly don't encourage children to eat a lot of sugar, in fact, no parent will do it. But give the child sugar once, or eat sugar several times, the child will not be addicted to sugar from now on, eat nothing, only recognize sugar.
Sometimes, the more forbidden it is, the more the child wants it. It is better to let go and give the child some freedom.
Existence is reasonable, the existence of sugar, let the children taste the sweetness on the tip of the tongue, the richness of food and the beauty of life.
If the child is simply limited, the child's life will be less of an experience, which is a pity.