Many audience friends who have watched "Do Not Disturb" must be familiar with Lejia, and his sharp insights and comments have attracted many fans and are known as "emotional mentors".
Over the years since the show, he has not even had a personal shadow in the circle, what happened?
01, young and crazy
Lejia is a native of Ningbo, Zhejiang Province, and when he was a child, his family was not very well off, and he went out to work very early. At the age of 16, he graduated from secondary school majoring in finance and successfully entered a bank. My mother was very pleased and expected him to become the president of the bank steadily.
However, Lejia is not an ordinary person, he can't stand the rigid boredom of this job, and he doesn't want to spend his whole life in this small cubicle. Under the expectations of his family, he still worked hard for two years.
Lejia has not been a conformist since he was a child, and when other children are obediently attending classes, he has skipped class and escaped very skillfully. I am not afraid to be caught by the teacher, and I always talk back to the teacher.
Lejia's madness is probably innate. Even if his family is not so well-off, he is happy to express himself, bold enough to speak eloquently. It was vividly reflected in his later development.
Apparently, he was met with great opposition from his family when he resigned from the bank, but he secretly applied for a salesman. In this way, Lejia changed many jobs in the early stages of her career, sales clerks, tour guides, and performing musical instruments in bars.
By chance, Legart came across a product that he sold to his old colleagues at the bank of yesteryear. He got a commission of 200 yuan, which was more than his month's salary, and he suddenly realized that he could make money by moving his mouth.
Lejia fell in love with sales work, when he was only working for two months, and his sales won the first place in Zhejiang Province. This gave him a boost in confidence, saying bluntly that there was nothing he couldn't sell.
Later, the product wanted to set up a branch in Ningbo, more than 500 people applied for managers, the youngest, least experienced, the lowest education Oflga was successfully selected. LeJia thought to herself that everyone was not as good as him who had nothing.
At that time, the Shanghai headquarters company asked him if he would like to go to the training department, and he agreed to come down. Because he can travel everywhere, without being bound and disciplined by his mother, he is in his arms, and he thinks that he is willing to pay without pay.
After coming to Shanghai, Legart became a sales trainer. For the first time, I stood on the podium as a lecturer, and most of the people sitting below were older than myself, and although I was a little nervous, I generally felt good.
His position was hollowed out. He was paid, but he had no job to do, which made him very uncomfortable. So he decided to submit a large number of resumes, and wrote nearly a thousand application letters, but less than one-tenth of the replies.
After more than half a year, At a Taiwanese personal training and growth company, Lejia met a trainer he admired. After listening to the teacher's lesson, he stood up and applauded, which was such an infectious speech he had never seen before. Immediately after class, I found this teacher to learn from him.
After half a year of training with the teacher, Lejia was more confident than before, and it also made him more determined to use his talents on the podium and achieve a career. Then, in order to improve his speech, Lejia went to the film studio to apply for a voice actor.
The professor who directed his dubbing at the time suggested that he go to the drama school to study acting, and Lejia did not have a hot head to agree, after all, he was 25 years old, not a small white rabbit who had just come out of society. Combining factors such as time and money, I decided to go to the theater to study performances.
However, the show business circle is not easier than the outside world, and it is difficult to get ahead without connections and resources. And its efforts and rewards are sometimes inversely proportional, with the contingent factor occupying a high position. Lejia still gave up the path of acting, but he himself said that studying acting helped him a lot to start a company later.
02, the love field is frustrated, the cause is proud
During this time, Lejia was dating a white and beautiful girl. However, because the gap between the family situation is too large, the woman's parents refuse to accept the feelings of the two. Until unmarried and pregnant, parents had to agree to their marriage.
Lejia is crazy, but his self-esteem is also very strong, and he wants to get the affirmation of his father-in-law and mother-in-law. But all his efforts were in vain, without any effect, and his parents-in-law naturally did not give him a good look.
After living for a long time, the gap in values with his wife has gradually become obvious, coupled with the arrogance and arrogance that Lejia sometimes shows, this relationship has still come to an end.
This short-lived marriage was not mentioned after Lejia became famous, and in 2015, he revealed that he had a 17-year-old daughter.
Although Lejia thought in his heart that his parents looked down on him because of his origin and education, he was not discouraged. Instead, he worked harder, and in 2000 he earned a degree in business administration from Armstrong University, where he was first exposed to real psychology.
At that time, Lejia did not have much money to enroll in classes, all by self-study and full of ambition from secondary school to undergraduate, the hardships and sweat behind it are difficult for ordinary people to bear and do. He also believes that only successful career can be invincible in life.
Never beaten, Lejia began his passionate speeches all over the country, reaching tens of thousands of spectators at the most. Whenever she hears the applause from the audience, Lejia will feel very satisfied, and the inferiority buried deep in the heart of the past experience will slowly disintegrate.
In 2001, at this time, Lejia has already had a prosperous life, and the most important thing about selling and performing is that it will "read people's hearts", and it will not be surprising that such a prodigy will come and go.
Subsequently, Lejia used his knowledge of psychology to found the China Personality Color Research Center, which also provided a strong support for him to promote personality color science in the future. He divided human personality into various colors and wrote a complete theory.
Coupled with the fame brought by Lejia's previous speeches, the book quickly sold well. His fans think he's a master of psychological research, and of course others think he's being made up entirely without scientific evidence.
Fang Arkzi once directly mocked Lejia, saying that his academic qualifications were obtained in the garbage school, and his books were all plagiarism. However, Lejia did not defend his theory as plagiarism, but stressed that he had never bragged about his academic qualifications.
Just as her career was booming, Lejia met her second wife. Because Lejia has a certain study of literature, the other party happens to be a literary and artistic youth, and the two are very right. It is said that when you first start dating, you will also communicate with letters, which is not romantic.
However, all romance can collapse at any time in the face of chai rice oil and salt. After marriage, Lejia is still busy at work, but her temper is like a changed person, irritable and irritable, and a small matter can cause a huge conflict between the two.
The romance and passion of the past disappeared little by little, and soon the relationship came to an end. In the second marriage, Lejia still did not change her personality, centered on herself, and angered her wife.
03, career peak
However, after the divorce, Lejia soon ushered in another highlight moment in his life and sent him to the peak of his career. In 2010, with the fire of the movie "Non-sincere Do Not Disturb", Jiangsu Satellite TV immediately seized the wind to launch a blind date variety show of the same name.
The host is Meng Fei, who is well known to everyone, in order to make the show more interesting, the director team found Lejia, who was popular for his speech and psychological theory research at the time, and asked him to output some views about life to the audience and guests as an emotional mentor in the show.
At first, Lejia did not attach so much importance to this job, because his life ideal was always to speak. But to increase his exposure, he still scrupulously did his duty. Soon, the ratings of "Do Not Disturb" were beyond their imagination and very hot.
Both Lejia and Meng Fei wore large bald heads, and were given the group name "Bald Head Combination" by the audience friends. Meng Fei on the stage is knowledgeable and calm, Lejia frankly and sharply, and their tacit understanding of coming and going has become one of the biggest highlights of the show.
However, Meng Fei once said in an interview that he and Lejia had almost no contact in private. In the show, Lejia's sharp comments inevitably caused many viewers and guests to be dissatisfied. For the sake of audience feelings and program effects, Meng Fei had to help Le Jiayuan come back every time.
Slowly things changed, directly rising to the collision of the values of the two, Lejia and Meng very often because the views can not agree with each other and argue, the tacit understanding of the past no longer exists, and even once Lejia directly intimidated Meng Fei: "Don't you think you are hypocritical? ”
This sentence made everyone present drop their jaws, not only disagreement, but also involved the degree of personal attack. How embarrassed Meng Fei was at that time can be imagined, but fortunately, he stabilized. Later, Meng Fei also posted a meaningful text on social platforms.
Clear-eyed people can see that they are secretly mocking Lejia, and Lejia certainly does not show weakness and immediately responds. Therefore, the news of Meng Fei and Lejia's discord frequently made headlines, and some people said that they were doing something in the dressing room, whether it was or not, the truth we don't know.
04, another high will fall from the altar
In 2013, Lejia recorded the last issue of "Do Not Disturb" and announced its farewell to Jiangsu Satellite TV. Naturally, many people felt sorry for Lejia, but he said: "It's not fun." ”
Lejia's departure had no impact on the show, and the program team invited a new emotional mentor. Meng Fei's profound hosting skills still keep the program ratings, and this blind date program can go a long, long time.
After leaving Jiangsu Satellite TV, Lejia's fame has not diminished but increased. He has become a well-known gold medal host in the country, and has achieved the degree of day and day in the hosting industry, and even the limelight has overwhelmed Meng Fei.
At that time, Lejia was soaring, but it was a hidden danger for itself. Outspokenness and frankness can become an advantage, and too much force will become a disadvantage of igniting a fire.
CCTV's two programs, "Chief Night Talk" and "Super Speaker" are all programs that require good eloquence to control, which is obviously Lejia's strength, and it is like a fish in the program, saying a lot of golden sentences.
However, the pride and complacency in Lejia's bones began to be released again, and the sharpness of his words became unobstructed, and his true temperament became low emotional intelligence, and he often quarreled with other guests. There was more and more controversy about him, and his image plummeted.
In "Super Mr.", the actor Serenity was originally telling her point of view well, and Lejia not only interjected to question it, but even left her seat and walked up to her to say that she was wrong. Serenity is certainly not a vegetarian, so the two argue fiercely despite the fact that the show is being recorded.
Lejia even threw the pen in her hand to the ground in anger, seeing that it was about to become uncontrollable, and another guest, Xie Na, rushed out to play the round. First he picked up the pen, and then he tried to soothe Lejia's anger.
I didn't expect that at this time, Lejia gave Xie Na some physical contact like taking the wrong medicine, touched her head and touched her chin, and made a move to kiss Xie Na. Xie Na, who was married at the time, was obviously frightened and retreated, but Lejia was happy in it.
The people who worked on the scene were also shocked, and did not know whether the program should be recorded for a while. Lejia also publicly showed love to Xie Na, completely disregarding the fact that she already had a family at that time. Xie Na did not respond, and it is estimated that she was also afraid.
A series of words and deeds in this show have wiped out Lejia's reputation. The social platform was full of his negative comments, and under the pressure of public opinion, he had to apologize to Tranquility and Xie Na, and said that they had reconciled as before.
For this experience, Tranquility still has palpitations whenever she mentions it in the interview, and also said that Lejia is a person who is particularly emotionally agitated and gives people a strong sense of oppression, and they are absolutely impossible to become good friends in private.
2015's "Super Speaker" was the final trigger for Legart's ban. At that time, after the members of the Lejia group gave a speech, Venus thought that the content was too ethereal and there was no sense of truth, so the score given was not high. Lejia thought That Venus had punched him in the face and began to argue.
Arguing, Lejia pointed to Venus: "In the face of divine emotions, a saint is no better than a eunuch." There was nothing wrong with the words, but those who knew what Venus had experienced could tell that Lejia was satirizing Venus. As it intensified, the director rushed out to stop the suspension of recording.
Unexpectedly, in the middle of the afternoon recording, in order to ease the tension of the disabled player Cui Wanzhi, whom he supported, Lejia encouraged him to drink and be bold, and Lejia did a demonstration without anyone. He stood in the middle of the stage with liquor and began to drink it in front of the camera.
As a result, the contestant was eliminated, and Lejia went crazy on stage because he drank too much. Venus said that Lejia was openly drinking on stage and was not worthy to be a mentor. Lejia also demeaned the other two mentors, Lu Yu and Dou Wentao, to nothing.
The three instructors maintained their demeanor and did not say much, and then they could not bear it before they left the scene in anger, and the recording of that program was also repeatedly interrupted, which caused a great burden on the work of the program team and estimated to leave a professional shadow.
LeJia attends Lu Yu's classic show and is asked if she has any connection with Venus. LeJia immediately jumped to her feet, thinking that Lu Yu had deliberately taken Qiao, and said, "Why did you always mention that eunuch in front of me?" ”
Lu Yu knew that Lejia was irritable, and quickly apologized for the perfunctory past. Not long after the interview was broadcast, Lejia had to quit the entertainment industry.
05, the status quo is bumpy
It was also the drunken incident in the show that Lejia's life took a big turn again and fell into the abyss.
Since then, no show has dared to find such a person who cannot control his emotions, treats others with no respect in the show, and can hardly see his figure on the screen.
Just as his career was in a slump, some media broke the news that he and his third wife were going through a divorce. Lejia's third wife is a student who graduated from the prestigious Harvard school and is also a professional drama actor.
His wife lives in the United States, so Legart often flies to two countries and gave birth to a daughter in 2013. However, for the third marriage, Lejia talked less about it. When the daughter was two years old, the two divorced. Lejia didn't say anything, but posted that her daughter would be raised by herself.
The revelation of Lejia's character flaws and inappropriate behavior in the show made his wife completely disappointed in him. Lejia said that she was not suitable for marriage, probably defending herself. In fact, it is because no woman can stand his arrogance and arrogance.
After not showing her face on TV, Legart focused her time and energy on her daughter. When my daughter was four years old, she took her on a trekking journey across the desert, a total of 76 kilometers, which is difficult for an adult, let alone a little girl who is still in kindergarten.
In 2019, Lejia sent her six-year-old daughter to the Shaolin Temple to learn martial arts. His education method has once again aroused heated discussion, many people can not stand this kind of "torture" education, Lejia still goes his own way, no matter what others say, he must implement his policy to the end.
After being banned by major television stations, Lejia picked up his speech again. However, this time it can only be carried out on the streets of the county town, not the high-rise buildings and podiums that used to be. His spirit became a bubble, and after his downfall, he never regained his courage.
Lejia also laughed at himself on social platforms, in the past, everyone went to listen to his speech to get some life advice, and now everyone listens to his speech just to uncover his scars and satirize how he played a good hand.
Fewer and fewer people listened to offline speeches, and Lejia seized the opportunity of the short video fire, with nearly 3 million fans. However, clicking on the comments is full of scolding him and laughing at him, probably trying to take the black and red path.
He sold his character color products live, and after the end, he also "sold miserably", saying a large section of sad text with sad music. It is really speechless, so many years later, I have not yet reflected on my mistakes.
From the early years of the show, it can be seen that Lejia is actually a sentimental person, and he will also cry because of the moving stories of the guests, but he cannot hide his inner invincibility and arrogance.
In recent years, Lejia has often shared some photos of his simple dress, with his bald head blessing, and many people think that he went out of his home to become a monk. Lejia immediately sent out photos to compare and refute rumors, ridiculing himself. Netizens did not buy it, and complained about him in the comment area.
Falling from the altar, It took Only Five Years for Lega to fall. Meng Fei, who originally reached the top with him, is still a respected predecessor in the circle, and he still does not know how to be humble.
Lejia's "madness" not only had a heavy impact on his career, but also reflected in his marriage. His own feelings, which are regarded as "emotional mentors" by everyone, are in a mess, and he has experienced three failed marriages before and after, how can a self-centered person have a happy marriage?
It is undeniable that Lejia is indeed talented, and as a public figure, it is bound to go downhill. Lejia's decline is inevitable, because he is not worthy of the position, and it is difficult to make a comeback in the circle without the recognition of the public, and it is good and cherished.