One word that has become increasingly popular over the years is freedom of dress. Under the encouragement of this word, it is true that many people put on the clothes they want to wear but dare not wear on weekdays, and bravely walk on the street, but some people misunderstand the meaning of the word, but instead use the word to act arbitrarily, and regard it as a gold medal for exoneration, so that they have to wear clothes as they want regardless of the occasion, causing discomfort to others.
Dressing causes mother and child to centrifuge
For example, in the past, many people have been accused by the masses of wearing kimonos in front of the Anti-Japanese War Memorial Site, and almost all the comments under it claim that this person has the freedom to dress, so people should not blame her.
So is the freedom of dress here really right? Freedom should not be bottomless and unlimited, and the second is to meet one's own needs without harming others in line with the requirements of the scene. After all, people are people who live in society, and we can't completely ignore the thoughts of others.
For example, there is such a lady in Hunan, who almost caused a conflict between mother and child because she wore improper clothing to pick up the child.
This Ms. Zhang has been a person who likes to wear beautiful clothes since she was a child, and even after becoming a mother, she still likes to dress up. Every month, Ms. Zhang spends thousands or even tens of thousands of yuan on clothes, but even so, Ms. Zhang still feels that her clothes are not enough to wear.
And Ms. Zhang pursues some more exotic costumes in terms of wearing. She believes that too much everyday clothing can not highlight her beauty, only those alternative clothing can make her look more fashionable. After all, every time Ms. Zhang goes out in her strange costumes, she can always attract the attention of passers-by, which also makes her husband and son feel very embarrassed. What is even more embarrassing to Ms. Zhang's son is that Ms. Zhang not only wears this in private, but sometimes even changes into some strange clothes when he comes to pick her up, resulting in him being ridiculed by other children in the school.
So in this case, Ms. Zhang's son finally couldn't stand it, and quarreled with Ms. Zhang on the street and refused to go home. After all, in his opinion, it is because his mother always wears such clothes that he will be ridiculed and isolated by other classmates at school. What's more, Ms. Zhang is already a person close to forty, but the clothes she wears are obviously not in line with her age, and they are too gorgeous, not only do they look unsightly, but they look a little unsightly.
Seeing that her son was already going to play a temper and not go back with herself, Ms. Zhang finally realized that there seemed to be some problems with her approach, obediently apologized, promised that she would never do it again after that, and said that she would definitely dress conservatively next time. After hearing her mother's promise, Ms. Zhang's son also chose to forgive her and accompany his mother home obediently.
Opinions vary
Some people think that even if Ms. Zhang is nearly forty years old, as long as she has a young heart, then she can wear whatever she wants. It should not be Ms. Zhang who is at fault, but those who point fingers at Ms. Zhang because of her clothing, and even laugh at her son on campus.
At the same time, when Ms. Zhang faces her son's accusations, she should not easily give up her hobbies and apologize in order to coax her son to be happy, but should explain to her son that she also has the behavior of pursuing hobbies. A woman was also a girl before she became a mother, and she likes cute boys, so what's not to like? This year he will give up his favorite dressing style for his son, and tomorrow he will give up his personal dignity for his son, which is undoubtedly incorrect and will make children become more willful unconsciously.
Personal opinion
But in fact, from another aspect, Ms. Zhang's approach is indeed somewhat unreasonable. This freedom of dress is also not something we encourage, because the clothes themselves are to be worn for different occasions, and it is obviously a little out of line to wear like that in front of the entrance of the elementary school.
If Ms. Zhang really pursues this style of dressing, or wants to dress up beautifully, she can wear this kind of dress when she travels privately with her son, but she should never show her hobbies in such a public place. People are social animals, people's every move will affect the evaluation of others to themselves and even their relatives, even if Ms. Zhang does not think for herself, do not care about the eyes of others, should also consider a little more for their sons, do not let their sons become an alien in the eyes of others.