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In life, when their children get married and have children, many elderly people will show "generation-skipping parents", whether it is grandparents or grandparents, they treat their grandchildren with more favor than they did in those years.
The phenomenon of "generational parents" is also well explained, in addition to the blood relationship between each other, some elderly people also feel that their children have grown up and matured, and the communication between the two sides will also have some generation gaps, so they are more willing to get along with simple children.
In addition, some elderly people neglect to take care of their children because they are busy at work when they are young, so they will pour their efforts into their grandchildren as a compensation for their children.
So how close can "intergenerational relatives" really be?
Not long ago, a video of a grandfather's pet granddaughter on the Internet made many netizens envious after watching it.
This grandfather is from Anhui, summer is coming, in order to cool down the baby granddaughter, but also in order to let the child experience the fun of playing with the water, the grandfather bought back an inflatable swimming pool in the yard.
Cheering up and filling the water, Grandpa carried his one-year-old granddaughter into the pool to experience swimming for the first time, and the baby had a lot of fun in the pool.
It was summer, the child was very cool in the water, but the grandfather was sweating profusely, but even so, the grandfather did not complain at all, and in order to avoid the little granddaughter being sunburned by the skin, the grandmother opened a parasol and held it above the granddaughter's head.
Under the careful protection of her grandparents, the little granddaughter had a lot of fun in the pool.
Afterwards, Bao Mom said that since giving birth to a daughter, the in-laws have held the granddaughter in the palm of their hands, because the in-laws gave birth to sons, and there are no girls in the family, so the daughter has become a single favorite after birth.
It is very interesting that the in-laws have been very strict with their sons since childhood, but they are diametrically opposite to their granddaughters, and it seems that the birth of their granddaughters makes up for their regret that they do not have daughters.
Grandpa's love for his grandchildren is always warm and touching.
Recently, in Henan, a bao mother also shared a video of her father-in-law's "generation-skipping relatives" on the Internet.
The grandfather in the video has white hair and looks amiable, the older generation knows that it is not easy to make money, and is always used to frugality, and the same is true of this grandfather, however, although he is very frugal with himself, he is very generous to the 4 children in the family.
Bao Mom said that after the father-in-law sold the wheat, he gave each child 500 yuan of pocket money, and every year, watching the children line up to accept them one by one, Grandpa's face also showed a happy smile.
For the older generation, they are not good at expressing their feelings in words, but in the matter of hurting their grandchildren, many elderly people have paid more practical actions than words.
On the Internet, a bao mother recorded the feelings between her grandfather and her grandson in words, which was touching after reading.
Bao Ma said that her father-in-law died of cancer and had fallen into a coma before his death.
At this time, everyone in the family shouted at him without reaction, but after his son called in his grandfather's ear, the comatose person replied with a "hey", the child shouted again, and the grandfather responded with a "hey".
This scene brought tears to everyone present.
Bao Mama sighed that although her father-in-law had been dead for many years, she would never forget the two "Ouch" sounds he made to his grandson in his coma.
It is good to love grandchildren, but the elderly should not develop "intergenerational relatives" into coddling
For children, intergenerational parents is an incomparably happy thing, the love of the elderly can bring children warmth and security, but also conducive to enhancing the feelings between parents and children.
But everything needs to grasp the right balance, the elderly can express their love for the child, but this love needs to abide by certain principles, can not be anything to meet the child indefinitely, let the child take the old man's love as their own umbrella against their parents.
In fact, in the process of accompanying children to grow, parents also need to know how to regulate the relationship between grandchildren, find that the elderly have doting behavior on the child to stop in time, and find ways to enhance the feelings between the grandchildren when the relationship between the child and the elderly is cold.
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