Children, if they do not read, they will lose their right to choose

2019-11-27 18:52 · Cuckoo learning

Text | Wen Fang Edited | Goldfinch

Source | Cuckoo listens

Nowadays, entertainment is developing rapidly, and games, movies, TV series, variety shows, etc. are dazzling. When we play games or watch shows, we also feel funny, but this kind of fun is very different from reading books.

When we finish watching a movie or a game, we will be very excited and happy, but after the end, there will be a huge sense of emptiness, reading is different, reading will only make us more fulfilling and more profound.

We all know that reading is important, but many children still ask, "Why should we study well?" What does reading a good book bring us? ”

Some people say that there is poetry and bookishness in the belly, and this is indeed the case. Reading makes us become knowledgeable and introverted, and in the face of life and society, we naturally have our own set of principles for handling things, and we will see everything more clearly and thoroughly.

More and more entrepreneurs and successful people go to book clubs, and constantly call on people to read more books and read good books. It has been proven that the changes that reading books bring to people are multifaceted.

Reading is not only an attitude, but also a way of life, and most importantly, reading determines our choice in life!

First, reading books can have more choices

I saw a small story on Weibo and was very impressed.

The son asked his father, "Dad, why should we go to school?" ”

Dad replied to him like this:

A small tree, if it grows for a year, can only be used as a fence or as firewood;

If the tree grows for ten years, it can be used as a purlin, or a shovel handle or pickaxe handle;

If the tree grows for twenty years, it will be of great use, it can be used as a beam, a pillar, and furniture;

If the tree had grown for a hundred years, its branches alone could have been used to do everything on it, and its huge trunk could have been used to make a big boat, a pillar, and a huge sculpture.

A child, if he does not go to school, he can go to the field, he can also go to the sheep, but in addition to sheep herding and farming, he basically can not do other work;

If a child graduates from primary school, he can read, he can also do simple arithmetic, he can go to the construction site to work, he can also work as a small trader;

If a child graduates from high school and learns a deeper theory, he can learn simple mechanical operations;

If a child graduates from high school and learns a deeper theory, he can repair and assemble the machinery, and even design something simple by himself;

If he goes to college, he can design his own machinery, and he can also work on the design of high-rise buildings and railway bridges;

If you are a little more powerful, if you go to a master's degree or a doctorate, it is very likely that you will invent something that we did not have before, and even promote the progress of the entire civilization.

Children, whether they are farmers, sheep herders, designers, inventors, earn money with their own hands, live a dignified life, and there is no difference between high and low, but if you don't study, you can only farm and herd sheep.

I'm not saying that this kind of work is bad, but you can only be confined to a narrow circle in this kind of work, and the more books you read, the more work you can do, the wider the range of choices you can choose, and the greater your contribution.

I was so impressed by this story that it tells us a truth: reading and learning makes a person fulfilling and useful, and giving a person the right to choose.

The more effort you put in, the greater the achievements you get, and the more things you have to choose from.

Therefore, children, do not be afraid of temporary suffering, and do not be afraid of departing from the existing ease. Because only because you have worked hard, paid, and achieved better results, you have enough capital to eat the food you want to eat, to see the scenery you want to see, to buy what you like, you can have more choices.

Second, reading books allows us to live according to our own wishes

Long Yingtai wrote in "Dear Andrei": "Child, I ask you to study hard, not because I want you to compare your grades with others, but because I hope that you will have the right to choose in the future, choose meaningful and time-consuming work, rather than being forced to make a living." When your work has meaning in your heart, you have a sense of accomplishment. When your work gives you time and doesn't deprive you of your life, you have dignity. A sense of accomplishment and dignity that gives you joy. ”

I have read so many words about parents advising their children to read, but long Yingtai's sentence is the most poignant.

Children, no matter how much the mother does not want to, no matter how unbearable the mother is, you will still grow up, and you still need to face this society alone and face all kinds of people.

You will be criticized by society for academic qualifications and ability, you will be discussed by the people around you, you will be evaluated, judged by the standards they have set, and even strongly divided into three, six, and nine.

Mom now lets you learn, just hope: when you face the society, you can have more capital, stronger strength, to face people's doubts and accusations;

You can do what you like according to your own wishes, rather than being pressured to be in a position that is not interested, busy every day, but even you don't understand the meaning of such a busy life.

Child, you have to believe that your mother asks you to study and asks you to study hard, all in the hope that you can live according to your own wishes in the future, and everything your mother does for you is to make you happy.

Third, give yourself a chance to compete on an equal footing with others

Children, in the future, when you go out of the campus, enter the society, and look for a job at the job fair, you may see such recruitment information:

Recruitment position of a securities company in Shanghai: Marketing Director

Number of recruits: 1 person;

Salary: 3W/ month (performance bonus is calculated separately);

Requirements: Doctorate degree or above in economics and finance; Have their own industry background and rich network resources; More than 5 years of experience in financial market sales, product development and public planning, more than 3 years of fund or trust, bank, securities company asset management sales team management experience.

A digital company in Guangzhou recruitment position: senior engineer

Number of recruits: 2 people;

Salary: 1.5W/month;

Requirements: Master degree or above, computer or related major; More than three years of software development work experience and related achievements; Familiar with database design and optimization; Understand Internet development procedures and methods.

Recruitment position of an art company in Beijing: Art Director

Number of recruits: 1 person;

Salary: 5W/ month;

Requirements: Doctoral degree or above, overseas study experience is preferred; At least 5 years of work experience in large cultural companies or advertising companies, and more than 3 years in the position of director; Have independently directed or led the completion of large-scale brand communication activities or large-scale stage experience; Have high artistic literacy and experience in art services for large enterprises; Have a high team collaboration ability and help the team as a whole to improve the training ability.

These job postings have something in common: high salaries, high pay, and high requirements.

How many people, seeing those recruitment requirements, are not even qualified to submit resumes?

When you see the application requirements and retreat, the range of choices you can choose is much less than others.

Children, mothers really do not want to see your favorite job when you enter the society, see your own satisfactory treatment, but you are not even qualified to submit your resume, and you do not even have the opportunity to compete to try it.

Children, mother let you study hard, is to hope that in the future job search, you can choose the company according to your own hobbies rather than your own conditions, can smile and confidently apply, can give yourself a chance to compete equally with others.

Children, mothers constantly let you learn, is to hope that in the distant future, it is you who choose your own work, not work to choose you.

Fourth, the more you study, the more opportunities and confidence you have to choose

I know twin brothers.

The younger brother has a medium to high grade, took the exam for an ordinary second book in the province, honestly read books for four years, entered a company in the city after graduation, with good business and communication skills, after two years of work, he became a project manager, entered the middle level of the company, and did not take long to rely on his savings to find a house near the company, paid a down payment, and moved in happily.

My brother is a freak. He has had an extraordinary interest in learning since he was a child, the exam is not the first place or the second place, after going to high school, he has spent all his thoughts on learning, the college entrance examination has counted the ranks in the province, directly admitted to the first-class universities in China, and has not yet graduated from the country, and has been studying abroad.

• When my brother graduated from college, my brother was busy doing research and research abroad;
• When the younger brother found a job, the older brother was busy with his graduation thesis;
• When my younger brother became a project manager, my older brother was admitted to a graduate school at another well-known university;
• When the younger brother paid the down payment for the house, the older brother graduated from graduate school and took the doctorate.

At the end of the college entrance examination, none of the neighbors around them were not envious of the fact that the family had a good son and could be admitted to the first-class universities in China, and they all talked about how smart and remarkable their brother was.

Four years later, the younger brother began to work, but the neighbors talked about the wind direction changed little by little, still envious of his family has a good son, but it is no longer about the brother, but the brother who is well-behaved and filial to the work ability.

Of course, the older brother will also be mentioned by them, but seeing that the brother's house has been bought, the brother is still studying at school, and the same age has married and had children, he not only has no savings, he does not even have a formal job, and many times he also needs his parents to help.

Therefore, when neighbors talk about him, most of them will sigh: my brother is really good at studying, but what is the use of being powerful? He could neither eat it as food nor spend it as money, which was not as capable as his brother!

After my brother's doctorate, dozens of domestic companies scrambled to get my brother to work in their own company, and some companies offered millions of annual salaries, which broke everyone's glasses.

Later, the younger brother clashed with his boss in the company, and every day he had to face the difficulties of his boss and suffered a stomachache.

He and his family complained, his brother advised him to jump ship, this company is not satisfied with changing one, the younger brother sighed: "If I am like you, there are enough advantages, so many companies are rushing to me, any choice can be good, why should I be angry while being afraid that others will rob me of the project manager position?" I am not as good as you in learning, the technical level is not as good as you, you have enough confidence to work against the company, I don't have ah! ”

This is what I want to tell you, child: the more you read, the more opportunities and confidence you have to choose.

Fifth, reading is so difficult, it is an interesting thing

I've asked a lot of kids, and many of them think that reading is hard and boring, and they've even given countless examples to prove that reading is really a hard job.

But Taiwanese female writer Lin Haiyin has a completely different point of view, she believes that reading is a very enjoyable thing, not only makes people feel happy, but also makes people addicted to it.

In "Eavesdropping", she wrote about her experience of being fascinated by reading books when she was a child and "stealing" books in bookstores:

One day, I happened to walk by the window of the bookstore, and in front of the window were just a few famous books that had been admired for a long time and had not had the opportunity to read, and desire pushed me, and I couldn't help but go into the bookstore to inquire about its price.

Maybe I was too short to attract attention, and no one came to greet me, so I casually opened a book on a long table, read it slowly, and after reading it for a while, no one paid attention to it, and the story in the book had made me so engrossed that I couldn't put it down.

It wasn't until a lot of work that A clerk came over, and I hurriedly closed the book and handed it to him, asking him the price as if he were doing something, and I knew that any cheap price would be in vain for me, and I would never have extra money to buy.

But since then, I have been given a path to study without spending a single penny. After class, I rushed to this "culture street", where there are many bookstores, which gives me more opportunities.

One page, two pages, I devoured it like a hungry skinny wolf, and I was very happy and afraid of the taste of this eavesdropping! Sometimes I have to go to several bookstores to read a book, for example, when I feel that the environment is no longer suitable for me to stand in this bookstore, I have to put down the book knowingly, go out without doing anything, and then walk into another one.

I wanted to go to a bookstore with a large number of customers, because it would squeeze me in without being noticed. Although there are many people who come in by chance to read books, there are really no people like me who often patronize and never buy a copy. So I'm going to hide myself like a thief. Sometimes I stick to an adult as if I were a little sister or daughter with him.

The happiest thing was the rainy day, thanks to the rain irrigation, the more pouring rain I was happy, because then I had every reason to stay in the bookstore. It seems that people who are sheltering from the rain accidentally avoid the rain under the eaves of people's houses, and you are always embarrassed to rush away, right? Sometimes I have to frown and look at the center of the street from time to time, as if to say, "This rain has caused me to go back."

In fact, my heart is how happy to shout ": Bigger! Bigger! ”

Every time I came out of the bookstore, I felt as if I was drunk, my mind disturbed by the characters in the book, stumbling, and losing control of my walking. "Come early tomorrow, you can read it all." I told myself. Thinking that he could still occupy a corner of the bookstore tomorrow, he was overwhelmed by the happy and excited body and almost crashed into the trunk of the tree.

But the next day when I walked through several bookstores and couldn't see the book, like someone snatched a book in my hand, I was secretly anxious and cursed: Because I don't have money, I can't take all the pleasure of reading, there are so many rich people in the world, they bought out the books.

In Lin Haiyin's heart, reading is the happiest thing. This kind of happiness, even above eating and dressing, is spiritual satisfaction, which can make her leave everything around her and indulge in it.

In fact, I have also had the experience of indulging in reading like Lin Haiyin.

When I was a child, one of my father's friends had a lot of books in his house, and I still remember his brown-and-yellow bookcase, tall and quaint, occupying the entire wall and leading to the ceiling. His family's collection is also rich, covering history, humanities, economics, philosophy and other categories.

Since my father took me to his house once, I have run over to him when I have nothing to do, in the name of playing with his children, but I often run to the bookcase, find my favorite books, and sit for half a day.

Obviously it is a basic square word, obviously it is a simple word, but when combined, it seems to have magic that attracts my full attention, immerses me in it, and forgets about the outside world.

In my eyes at the time, my father's friend's home was a heavenly existence.

Because in that study, in the bookcase that filled the entire wall, I experienced a joy I had never experienced before.

At that time, my biggest dream was to have my own library, and then read books in this library of my own, until the sky was old.

Obsessed with books, I also think that reading is the most enjoyable thing in the world, the most extreme enjoyment.

Why many children think that reading is one thing

What about something very boring?

This is because they have not really started to learn, have not experienced the fun in it.

In The Legend of the Archery Hero, there is a story like this:

Huang Rong was injured and needed the help of the Master of One Lamp, so Guo Jing took her to find Master One Lamp, and on the way, the two met a woman dressed in black who lived alone in the hut, Yinggu.

When the two entered the hut, what was Ying Gu doing?

She is studying numerology.

It turned out that Yinggu's lover Zhou Botong was trapped on Peach Blossom Island by Huang Rong's father Huang Yaoshi, which was full of organs, and these organs were all related to mathematics, in order to save her lover from the island, Yinggu had no choice but to start learning these things.

But even she herself did not expect that these complicated things were very headaches when they were first studied, but once they were learned, they would make people addicted to them and unable to extricate themselves.

Before Huang Rong left, she left three questions for Yinggu. Later, Yinggu found a lamp master to avenge, Huang Rong stopped her, Yinggu martial arts were higher than Huang Rong, and immediately wanted to fight and kill, but Huang Rong said, "You killed me, who will solve those three arithmetic problems for you", but it made her hesitate.

She knew that solving those three problems would not only be of no benefit to her now, but would even delay time to hinder her revenge, but because she was addicted to mathematics, curiosity forced her to have to hear the answers before she could be at ease.

So when Huang Rong gave her a lecture, although she was facing a very urgent matter, she still listened to the answers to the three questions.

The mathematics that Yinggu studied is the advanced mathematics that many college students must learn today.

Think about it, how many students now cry at the compulsory higher mathematics after entering the university, and complain that learning is too painful while turning over the textbook while posting Microblogs and sending circles of friends to complain that learning is too painful?

However, after Ying Gu studied, she became more and more addicted, and even for the answer to the three questions, even such an important thing as revenge could be put aside for a while.

Ying Gu is not the only one who is addicted to the pleasure of research.

I've seen reports of scientists doing research day and night, even forgetting to eat; Have seen photos of professors listening intently to lectures; I've seen videos of students talking back and forth at seminars just to argue their point of view.

They are all people who have experienced the joy of learning and the joy of research.

In fact, no matter which discipline, has its own unique charm, as long as you are willing to delve into it, as long as you can appreciate the fun, you will be attracted by it.

Reading is not boring, and learning is not boring

Maybe when you first started with a book, a subject, you would feel a lot of headaches, you would be irritable, you would resist reading those words, you would be disgusted to learn those knowledge, these are normal reactions, because they are foreign to you, you have never been exposed to these things before.

But as long as you try to touch them, try to understand them, you will find that whether it is the text in the book or the subject knowledge, it is actually a very interesting existence, in the process of learning, you will gradually be attracted to them, and even want to understand more deeply, more in-depth research.

The more esoteric and complex things are, the more headache-inducing knowledge they are at first, and once you get started, the easier it is to indulge in them.

Children, when you do not have any hostility, resistance, disgust, but simply to read, learn, you will find that reading is really a happy thing.

1 Reading history books, you can know the etiquette and etiquette

In the history books, there are brave and invincible generals, there are brave and loyal warriors, there are beautiful women who fall into the country, there are strategists, there are soldiers who are bleeding blood, and there are women who are waiting for their relatives.

In the book, if someone does not make a sound, it is already a blockbuster; Some people lie down and taste courage, only for the shame of snow; Some people are trying hard to govern, and their hearts are concerned. Taking history as a mirror, we can see all the rises and downs in the world, reflect on our own gains and losses, and better face life.

2 Reading literature can enhance temperament and increase insight

In literary books, there is the heroism of "the great river goes east, the waves are exhausted, and the characters of the ancient winds and currents", there is the deep affection of "the belt gradually widens and does not regret it, and the people are haggard for The Isaac", there is the wind flow of "once the golden wind and jade dew meet, they will win over countless people in the world", and there is also the shyness of "leaning on the door to look back, but sniffing the green plum".

In the book, there is the smoke and rain of Jiangnan like a mist, the lonely smoke of the desert rushing into the clouds, the dense and stretching jungle of the tropics, and the ice and snow of the mountains that do not melt all year round. Through reading, we can not only appreciate the characters around the world, but also see the world and know how to deal with the world.

3 Reading philosophy can deepen thinking and sublimate the soul

Philosophy allows us to gaze at the ground beneath our feet while also learning to look up at the sky overhead. When we read philosophy, we constantly think about questions that may not have answers at all, but this is not meaningless, because at the same time we have a deeper and clearer understanding of ourselves, of society, of humanity and the world as a whole.

Child, you see, there are so many interesting things in the book, there are so many interesting things, how can it be boring, how can it be boring?

So, boy, do you understand now why you should study well?

The article is excerpted from the author's best-selling book

"Child, why does your mother want you to study well"

Wen Fang: Master' degree, director of the language research course of the third year of high school in Hebei, has taught a number of high-achieving students of Tsinghua Peking University. Ms. Wen Fang has been engaged in front-line teaching for more than 20 years, served as a class teacher for many years, and has won the honorary titles of Excellent Research Preparation Director, Excellent Teacher, and Excellent Teacher of Professional Development for many times. He has led the senior high school language group to achieve excellent college entrance examination results for many times, and is deeply loved by students and trusted by parents!