Chinese culture has lasted for more than 5,000 years, originated from many civilizations, and literary classics, philosophical ideas, science and technology, etc. have been continuously inherited, so that future generations can receive its blessings. However, when it comes to people's lives, it also belongs to the folk customs and customs that are spread in the folk, which are the truths summed up by the ancestors according to their own life experience, and they are still useful today, which shows that the wisdom is far-reaching.
"Home" is the basis for people's survival and growth, and if this business wants to continue for a long time, it also needs "people to prosper". If the family has a large family property, but there is no offspring to manage and manage, it will eventually be wasted, so the ancients have attached great importance to the continuation of the offspring since ancient times.
For the son born in the family, he should be very loving, but there is a folk saying that "women are afraid of being born at noon, and men are afraid of the night of the child", why does the child have such a saying when he was born? In fact, this is related to the traditional concept of the ancients.
Midday night, male and female personality
The old ancestor said that "women are afraid of being born at noon, and men are afraid of the night of the child", which is simply that women are afraid of being born at noon, that is, from eleven o'clock in the morning to one o'clock in the afternoon, while boys are afraid of coming in the middle of the night, that is, from the eleventh to the next day. If boys and girls were born in such a time period, it would be detrimental to their own development, why did the ancients accurately date the hour to such a field? This is related to the concept of the eight characters of the birthday that the ancients respected.
The date of the child's birth, accurate to the time and moment, is exquisite in the eyes of the ancients. The two time points of "noon" and "midnight" are derived from the yin and yang theory that has been circulating in the folk since the Shang Dynasty. In ancient times, people thought that "the heavens are round places", and the world was simply divided into two categories of yin and yang according to the characteristics of all things, and the two complemented each other and constituted the development of all things in the world.
"Yang" represents strong qi, strong physique and extroverted personality characteristics, while "yin" means tenderness like water, quiet and convergent. This distinction between "yin and yang" just caters to the ancient people's traditional concept of men and women in feudal society. In a society that promotes "male superiority over female inferiority", men must stand up to the sky and be full of tough and tough spirit, just like Wusheng Guan Yu to become a big husband. And women should be like Sister Lin, beautiful and weak.
And "noon" in the yin and yang theory is the peak of yang, if the girl is born at such a time, it will be too strong, which in the eyes of the ancients is not suitable for becoming a female Taoist family of xiangfu godson. The "child time" is the time of day when the yin qi is the heaviest, and when the boy comes, he will also give birth to a feminine personality, and even be weak and sickly. Therefore, under the influence of such a yin and yang concept, such a saying will spread among the people.
Character development, stereotypes
However, the ancients were too "content with the mandate of heaven" and paid too much attention to the influence of the outside world on the child's personality. There are no two leaves exactly the same in the world, and people's personalities are also different, which is the charm of people. If all the people of the world were the same, then the wonderful ideas that had been handed down through the ages would no longer exist.
It was precisely because of his courage to be different that Confucius disregarded the prejudices of the world and led his disciples to travel around the world and enlighten the world with Confucian doctrines. Most of the saints who stood at the cusp of the times were different from ordinary people, and they created a new world with innovative ideas, and the wheel of history was able to move forward.
For ordinary people, such a stereotypical male and female personality is also the embodiment of ideological feudalism. The same is born as a human being, there are thousands of possibilities, if you blindly set rules and regulations for children, it will erase the nature of children, which is not conducive to their success. In the ancient society, the various princely states were in chaos, the world was turbulent, and men regarded themselves as soldiers to defend the country, but women also had Mulan's heroic posture and heroic deeds in the army for their fathers.
Although boys have tears and do not flick, they also need to release their emotions through tears, especially young children. Secondly, the characteristics of women's carefulness and understanding, boys can also improve their own moral cultivation. Parents should not make a simple distinction between personality in the process of education, which will ruin the growth of children.
brief summary
The older generation often said that "women are afraid of being born at noon, and men are afraid of the night of the child", which seems to be only the time when the child is born, but behind it is related to the child's personality, and such a statement has long ceased to apply.
Personality is the child in the process of growing up gradually cultivated, not overnight can be decided, even if the child's personality and parents' ideas are different, parents should also avoid pessimism and suppression of the mentality, but to respect their children, to be correctly guided, so that the family harmonious atmosphere is more conducive to the growth of children.